thread to get over a breakup

oh no :(

my situation is as nothing compared to chris's. just feeling it a bit at the moment.

sorry guys.

Plenty of room here, grab a cushion or whatever.

I'm trying to pick out a sperm donor at the moment, and it's really shit.

How much info do they give you?

It's actually really nice to be able to focus all my energy on him and not have to worry about dividing it. Plus it will be nice to recharge when he is with his mother. All in all im doing good.

I'm sorry about everything, man, but since this is where you are now: this is exactly what my divorced female friend says about being with her kids, too. They split custody 50/50 and the 3.5 days when she doesn't have her sons, she has a whole other independent life, and when she DOES have them, she has ONLY them, and not a spouse she also has to take care of.

I hope the situation continues to be rewarding for you. Your little guy will surely appreciate your improved friendship w your wife! And probably so will you.

Ljubljana, it depends. They give you very little info at the London Sperm Bank, more with some of the donors at the Danish one (Cryos dk) but in the context of this thread it's shit b/c it makes me really angry with my ex that I'm having to do this.

I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.

Ah, got it - of course, I was being obtuse, sorry. I hope there are at least some good people there who keep the whole experience positive, and good friends around to mull over the whole experience with. I'd be interested to read that other thread.

Yeah i had a great weekend with my son. Honestly, the hardest part is not seeing him daily. Her, i could really care two shits less about at this point. Yes I was with her 16 years and there are some great times in there, but man the last two have been hell. Oh and she told me she sent that text to me to see my reaction. what a manipulative bitch. just need to keep my head up and be friendly because i dont want this to get ugly for my son.

I'm trying to pick out a sperm donor at the moment, and it's really shit. ..... They give you very little info at the London Sperm Bank, more with some of the donors at the Danish one (Cryos dk) but in the context of this thread it's shit b/c it makes me really angry with my ex that I'm having to do this.

I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.

This must be excruciating....

Oh and she told me she sent that text to me to see my reaction.

holy fuck

what a manipulative bitch.

I am so relieved to be out of that toxic woman's reach. I can finally be myself.

Do you ever get in the car, turn up your music and just drive around going "WOOOOO!" and launching down the entrance ramp to the freeway? I think I spent a while doing that after getting out of a shitastic relationship. Recommend it.

YES

xxposts: Chris, dude...that whole text thing. WTF. I hope you're not getting tired of me saying "I'm sorry" :/

nah im cool with the sorrys. She is nuts. I just finally started to listen to some music again today, i made a "I gave her my heart, she gave me a pen" spotify playlist and its helping. Im also glad that her and I are back at our respective jobs. stops her from pestering me.

I'm sorry Chris. I'm glad you've got that practical / distance thing going on. It does sound like it had gotten toxic. Here's to a happy future for you and your kid.

I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.

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vaguely considered (not really) a poll of potential ilx0r donors

but is the world ready for a pi-reciting small child?

pi-reviewing more likely tbh

And pie-bringing.

^^^i am the world is def. ready for this

Oh and she told me she sent that text to me to see my reaction.

This still sounds like backpedalling to me, tbh (as in, yr initial reading was the correct one). Either way, yuck.

Yeah neither option really restores yr faith in humanity. Bummertown usa.

Single friend from work just told me she is getting her eggs harvested this week. In the US the process seems to be faster than in the UK. Her chances are slim due to some physical problems, but she's giving it a go.

well i got word from a friend of hers that she did send that text to me to gauge a reaction from me in order to have something to use against me in court in case it got ugly. since i have some crap on her....she is crazy

what drama! is this a lifetime movie? who does stuff like that?!

someone who is fucking nuts.

Im also concerned she is mentally ill again.

^^^

I'm sorry you are met with such insane and hurtful actions, bingo. All the best.

xp

Oh, sorry for using the word "insane" in that context :-/ It was an x-post.

its ok! three years ago her doctor told her she is possibly bi-polar....i think she is in a manic phase right now.

Oh jeez. I mean, the context at least helps it make a *little* more sense but using it against you in court, and she's maybe bipolar? Unf. Holy shit dude. More hugs. And sorrys. And <3

Ach, Chris :( I really hope you guys dont end up in a mess *hugs*

hi guys i just broke up with someone :-\

bingo, my wife's certifiably bipolar* and those manic phases are real doozies and she loves me to death. The thought of having to go through that with someone who actively wished you ill...well, it's frightening the amount of harm I imagine she'd be capable of. I'm sorry. Hang in there.

You hang in there too, gr8080.

It's ok, gr80. There are many fish in the sea, perhaps some on ilx!

* adds gr8080 and "tuomas tuomas" to possible love connections list

<3 <3 <3 gr880

gr8080, rather

broke up with someone i wasn't in a relationship with. that is always fun.

feeling u, sir. <3

so i had to have her section 12 yesterday afternoon, she left work and was waiting in front of a church (it was her b-day) for Jake Ryan. I AM TOTALLY SERIOUS. Called the police and they went and transported her to the hospital. Needless to say, i dont need this right now and her parents are dealing with her. I have my son and we are doing great. I searched high and low last night to find a reason to get back with her and i found none. But i will give her all the time she needs to get well and then move on with our mess. But for now, im staying out of it.

kkvgz, she has done enough harm to me over the past three years like i said, i am through.

she left work and was waiting in front of a church (it was her b-day) for Jake Ryan. I AM TOTALLY SERIOUS

O_O

Was she wearing a bridesmaid's dress? Wait - she really thought he was coming?

good god.

Yeah, uh, stay away if you can and give her some time to get mentally on-track and then cordially deal with it the best you can.

what

broke up with someone i wasn't in a relationship with. that is always fun.

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what

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jeff basically doing my posting itt for today for me

Erica she had been calling herself Sam all day. And she still thinks he's coming.

Holy shit.