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The chick or dude with its head buried is less fetishistic than the tree growing through the coffee table in lieu of a leg

That pug's got a swank little pad there

huh, i don't really understand these fetishes. i mean, to each their own. i'm definitely more of a standard BDSM type guy, though i do have a penchant for knife-play.

the problem with the welder's mask one, i've come to realize, is that blowjies are o-u-t OUT.

you've shit in a guy's mouth and you don't understand a blue jeans fetish?

i mean, i *understand* most to all fetishes, i just don't get excited by them myself.

though the stuck headfirst thing is one i just *don't get.*

one disappointing thing about fetish-y stuff is if you have something you're into, in most/all pornographic representations of it it'll invariably be completely over-the-top, 100% focused on the fetish itself to the exclusion of most context, which is like...I am probably not a person with actual fetishes so idgi but like: if I'm into something, that doesn't mean I want that to be The Whole Fuckin' Deal because that's kinda like when some awkward coworker finds out you some TV show or movie or something and then mentions it in every conversation you have

idk, i feel like if you like to have someone shit on you, it's hard not to make, you know, having someone shit on you be the whole fuckin deal

sure yeah but aren't most paraphilia a lot milder than that?

Part of the appeal of some fetishes might be transgression, and if the fetish is the whole thing without context, then the contrast of normal v transgression is lacking. I hope that makes sense.

Or forget "transgression". I just mean that contrast is important. Even in mundane, traditional porn, the set-up of the cable guy visiting causes the subsequent fucking and sucking to stand out.

sure yeah but aren't most paraphilia a lot milder than that?

I debated back and forth on this before deciding that yes, ponyplay is pretty much exactly as bewildering to me as coprophagy

though the stuck headfirst thing is one i just *don't get.*

― bitch u ain't british (the table is the table), Friday, August 12, 2011 1:56 PM (3 hours ago) Bookmark

don't want to presume too much about the fetishists but it probably has something to do with rapey fantasies

I mean, it's kind of like walking in a forest and discovering that comely sculpted fir tree over there has a real live, wet vagina in it. And it can't go anywhere.

I believe that would be the point where I would be trying to figure out who gave me acid

lol lol

can ILX ever draw any conclusion where it isn't accusing someone else of rape or rape-like tendencies?

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"Would you eat an ice cream cone in public?"
"What am I, a rapist?"

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In the past few weeks I've been seeing so much amazing fetish art. It's not always that I like the art technique (much of it I don't) but there's a lot of amazing design sensibilities and things I never associated with fetish art. There's quite a few women artists who depict nothing but warrior women being brutally killed in battle and some of it is incredibly well researched, as if the historically accurate costumes are just as important as anything else to the kink. And this woman who draws and posts photos of women in massive and elaborate dresses. And people who like to see other people struggling in the wind with big fluttery clothes.

I've always been troubled by looking at so much of this art because it isn't wholly consistent with my art tastes. I've drifted away from comics, videogames, anime and movies with lots of cgi to a large degree because I find the roteness of most it unpleasant (and digital coloring). But a lot of the fetish art keeps me coming back despite not liking the technique.
There's a bit of a fear of being around artists whose work I only like parts of but wouldn't champion them; I want to look at their work, be around them and talk to them sometimes but I'm afraid of offending them because I dont like their techniques (I've always been afraid of knowing comedians because I hardly like any comedy even 50%). But there's still so much good in there that I get something important out of it.

It might sound old fashioned but a big part of me will probably always believe that beautiful technique and fresh observation is good for you in the same way as I believe people should be around grass, trees and plants as much as they can reasonably manage. Art needs lots of time spent on it.

Most fetish artists make very commercial looking art and I wish that they would take more time on it, but I think they're sometimes prone to just getting the bare fetish essentials in the work. And some of them have no ambitions to be a great artist, they just want to share their interests. But I can't completely let go of wanting everything to have beautiful technique and fresh observation.

I was also afraid (I've sometimes talked of having 3 terrible years of Pure OCD). I've often wanted to be simpler but I know now that it would just be pretending and I don't think it's healthy anymore to try to be only into unambiguously nice things (some of which would still bother some people). The surface appearances of fetishes can be extremely deceptive and as your interests in these things evolve, their natures can eventually seem very different or become something else entirely. Don't ever think you know for sure what other people's fetishes are really about.
As I've decided to actively explore all the fetishes I'm interested in (many of them I genuinely don't know if I'm actually "into" them), I feel wholer and better than I have in years; and really excited. Fear will always fuck me up far more than any fetish could.

Also: I wonder if it's normal that "I can't get into his/her art style" should be a barrier for looking at certain fetishes.