Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

I do really believe different languages lend themselves for different nuances, which in the eye of the other party will make it seem you are acting a certain way you wouldn't if you were speaking in a different way. If that makes sense.

What if I'm a casanova in Han Chinese or a genius in Lithuanian? I may never know.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qMLYTZNmUmw

I've a date on Thursday. Woo!

woooooo

Imo you should listen to a loop of "yakety sax" while browsing this site

lol

the rush of seeing like ten people look at your profile right after you renovate it entirely is kinda nice

Messaging with someone who seems really fun & cool...

Trying to judge whether/when raising the idea of meeting up in person might garner a positive response.

I kind of feel like a dick because I was messaging someone off and on, and then ended up really busy and getting a cold and feeling like a lump and it's been like... a month.

I would always be happy to hear from someone that I'd been having a good 'conversation' with again, pretty much regardless of the AWOL time period.

Agreed - one of my best pals now is someone w/ whom I was OKC penpals for a while, then it kind of trailed off... about 3-4 months later she messaged again out of the blue and we got back in the groove, buddies ever since (with some smooches etc along the way).

I only get messages from 50+ men, couples, and transgendered MtF's. I asked a friend of mine why this seems to happen to me, and he said: "It's because you're a single woman over 30."

Jeez, thanks.

imo if i were yall i would skip the 'messaging back & forth' & rush into 'meet for coffee asap' if u think they seem worthwhile online. wasting time chatting with strangers who u might not like irl is what ilx is for

Haha otm

yeh that is OTM. went on a nice little date with a kid from okc last week, made out a bit, wasnt mind-blowing but we'll definitely stay friends...and get this: he's an Entomology & Agricultural Ecology major whose specialization is BEES. plus he's cute. so...

I am all for meeting in real life myself, but not everyone is. Making moves in the real life direction has caused the abrupt end of a number of promising online conversation on OKC for me, hence my being wary of scaring folk off by jumping in with it too soon.

they arent rabbits!

"he wants to talk to me in person ... how odd ..."

Are rabbits afraid of going for coffee? I've never asked one out.

I only get messages from 50+ men, couples, and transgendered MtF's. I asked a friend of mine why this seems to happen to me, and he said: "It's because you're a single woman over 30."

Jeez, thanks.

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LOL, this rings familiar to me too.

I suspended my okc profile when R and started seeing each other but thats become kinda... well, he's in Masters thesis mode, I see him like once every 2-3 weeks? I might as well be single. Maybe I should fire it back up again...

I think I just screwed up a first date w/ the most beautiful (and also supercool, whip-smart etc.) woman who has ever bothered to give me the time of day (who, incidentally, originally contacted ME on OKC). I tried to play it smooth, but I was a total ball of nerves & now I just feel like a goofus.

Aw :( I'm sure it wasn't as bad as you think? You seem like an awesome guy!

lol thanks for the pep talk Trayce, but I've been through these particular motions enough to know when I've acted awkwardly. I guess the key is just not to have any expectations going into any given thing, which I don't really, but still.. damn.

:/ I know how it feels, I arsed up my last few OKC dates horribly :( Nerves = drinking = me being a tard.

Oddly my problem was the opposite: dinner w/o follow-up bar-going option deprived of the requisite level of drunkenness for me to have felt comfortable in my own skin.

*note: I am typically comfortable in my own skin when not intoxicated, though this does not apply to occasions whereupon I am trying to sell myself as a prospect to seemingly-unattainable women.

hey, so, I think I just drank and danced this thing out of my system, so it's no thing.

discussing the absurdity of okc while on an okc date: classic or dud?

Legit classic and a natural subject of conversation. Also, in my experience, supercool, whip-smart people are smart enough to see through awkwardness (and probably are familiar with it personally!). Worry not!

aside from "i love traveling!!!" there are a huge number of ppl with "looking for a guy with a wicked sense of humor but who is a sweetheart. at heart. " kind of things. i mean, hey ppl, i need love too, but at least i have dignity!

oh, wait... d'ar...

totally going to the other team's side if i have to be with someone who loves sedarsissses and wine and traveling. jesus h fuck

i know it's ~crazy~!, but i love having a bottle of wine on friday nights!!

you could be their manic pixie dream boy

i am working on that, s, believe me

I almost forgot.. My laptop !!! lol

i am a horrible person on all accounts btw, so whatever

maybe you should put that in your profile and see if you get any takers?

Making moves in the real life direction has caused the abrupt end of a number of promising online conversation on OKC for me

These people are crazy and you're better off with them turning you down, imo. They're just wasting your time trying to make themselves feel better about something else in their lives (or trying to make YOU make them feel better etc).

These people are crazy and you're better off with them turning you down, imo. They're just wasting your time trying to make themselves feel better about something else in their lives (or trying to make YOU make them feel better etc).

jeepers laurel, that's kind of the narrative of all human interaction, if ya wanna get cynical about it

I have no problem being "cynical" about people on a DATING SITE who are so afraid to meet anyone they're emailing that you can "scare them off" by suggesting it.

yah i wasn't accusing you of anything, more just commenting on your astute observation of ppl's interactions with one another.

Guy has kicked off with 'let's make this *our* self-summary' and then written the whole damn thing in the plural. 'We have two ears and two eyes and only one mouth, so we listen and look twice as much as we talk... we enjoy a night in with a bottle of wine as much as we do kayaking up the Potomac...' etc. etc.

rowr. all i need is a kayak full of red wine and some ice cubes and then we are gonna do some romantic things in southern maryland, argh

ahaha <3

ten month relationship with someone I met on OKC just ended. Kind of a mutual decision but still sad

:/

ok cupid? ok stupid, morelike

Care to elaborate?

Sorry to hear that curmudgeon. Even when you think it for the best, the end of a relationship always hurts.