thread to get over a breakup

it can be really hard to get used to having someone else in your space when you're used to living alone ... or after living with a long-term partner. Just don't get a roommate that reminds you of your ex.

tbh I don't really think sharing kitty is fair

In terms of your next move, just a simple, hey, did you want to go to this gig on Tuesday message or call would be totally fine.

Yeah, so I did, essentially, this. I really hope you're right and rationally I know I should err on the side of a non-conspiratorial explanation for her silence but I just don't trust her. Which is in itself probably/potentially a whole different thing.

oh man. sharing the cat? that kinda sucks, mook.

Doesn't sound all that fair to the cat, either.

My sympathies, MP.

yeah fuck sharing of cats after relationship is over. dogs are more adaptable, imo, but cats? fuck no.

Hang in there, mooks! Things will get better, I promise. </onewhoknows>

I wish that the Craigslist fairy sends you a fantastically great roommate who turns out to be one of those roommates that actually turns into a friend, and (slightly less realistically) I wish that your ex spots a kitten in great danger, rescues it and asks you to take on the other cat full-time.

aww thx dudes

hang in there, mookie

mookie, come hang with me in the park and i will treat you like a vip

let's pray for a football season to come & put an end to all this sadness

so yeah i posted in the wrong thread last night in a mess, but my wife and i are done. im moving out tomorrow. im sad.

i posted in that other thread, but it bears repeating-- i'm really sorry that you are going through something that rough. i wish the best for you, and i hope you take good care of yourself. i've never been married or had a family, but breakups in general even uh, divorced (sorry!) from that context are difficult enough.

Chris....fuck, I am so sorry. (hug)

Chris, I'm so sorry.

So sorry to hear. Reassurances are probably not so helpful a this point, but it you *will* be OK and it *will* get better and life *does* go on in a positive way. People told me this when I got divorced, and damn if they weren't right. Take care.

Oh, fuck, Chris. I knew this was coming. We'll be here for you for whatever happens.

sorry dude. i know the feeling.

i'm sorry chris. kia kaha my friends.

Moved my stuff out yesterday. That sucked. My wife and I are on really good terms and honestly i feel much better. We will much better friends than husband and wife.

*comfort*

Is it too early to ask how the kid situation is going to work out between you? I remember you talking about that a while back. But please: no need to answer if it's too raw to talk about yet.

We are going to do every tues and Wednesday with me and every other weekend which is standard practice. Had him last night and he had a blast. I got him a toy story bed and he almost shit. It's actually really nice to be able to focus all my energy on him and not have to worry about dividing it. Plus it will be nice to recharge when he is with his mother. All in all im doing good

I'm glad for that, Chris. Just sorry that you have to go through it all. <3

Stay strong, Chris. Hope things work out for the best for you and your little one.

hot damn i never got no toy story bed

Brb gonna go riot

Yeah I'm not as upset as I thought I would be. It's been a longtime coming and best that it happened now on good terms than hating one another on bad terms.

of course all the music in the world sucks ass right now

<3 homie

Tuvan throat singing, perhaps? xpost

yo

<3

Well yesterday I got a text that wasn't intended for me by mistake. For another guy. She claims it was a joke and she is flirting. She can go fuck herself

:( chris

Fuck, man. Sorry.

oh god, that is awful. :(

Oh, fuck that, seriously.

Oh dude :(

That really sucks, dude.

Turns out I need a tiny bit of this thread, if there is some to spare. thx

oh no :(

my situation is as nothing compared to chris's. just feeling it a bit at the moment.

sorry guys.

Plenty of room here, grab a cushion or whatever.

I'm trying to pick out a sperm donor at the moment, and it's really shit.

How much info do they give you?

It's actually really nice to be able to focus all my energy on him and not have to worry about dividing it. Plus it will be nice to recharge when he is with his mother. All in all im doing good.

I'm sorry about everything, man, but since this is where you are now: this is exactly what my divorced female friend says about being with her kids, too. They split custody 50/50 and the 3.5 days when she doesn't have her sons, she has a whole other independent life, and when she DOES have them, she has ONLY them, and not a spouse she also has to take care of.

I hope the situation continues to be rewarding for you. Your little guy will surely appreciate your improved friendship w your wife! And probably so will you.

Ljubljana, it depends. They give you very little info at the London Sperm Bank, more with some of the donors at the Danish one (Cryos dk) but in the context of this thread it's shit b/c it makes me really angry with my ex that I'm having to do this.

I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.

Ah, got it - of course, I was being obtuse, sorry. I hope there are at least some good people there who keep the whole experience positive, and good friends around to mull over the whole experience with. I'd be interested to read that other thread.

Yeah i had a great weekend with my son. Honestly, the hardest part is not seeing him daily. Her, i could really care two shits less about at this point. Yes I was with her 16 years and there are some great times in there, but man the last two have been hell. Oh and she told me she sent that text to me to see my reaction. what a manipulative bitch. just need to keep my head up and be friendly because i dont want this to get ugly for my son.

I'm trying to pick out a sperm donor at the moment, and it's really shit. ..... They give you very little info at the London Sperm Bank, more with some of the donors at the Danish one (Cryos dk) but in the context of this thread it's shit b/c it makes me really angry with my ex that I'm having to do this.

I might start another thread about the donor insemination thing.

This must be excruciating....

Oh and she told me she sent that text to me to see my reaction.

holy fuck

what a manipulative bitch.