thread to get over a breakup

some people are just flaky and things slip their minds. while you may like to think that if you were truly important to the person in question - that you would be an exception to their flakiness - but sometimes it just doesn't work that way.

In terms of your next move, just a simple, hey, did you want to go to this gig on Tuesday message or call would be totally fine. Maybe add something brief about timing, transportation, food/beverage plans, so that it looks more natural.

so my ex got a job and got an apartment about five blocks away from me.
today while i was at work she came by and removed (most of) the shit that was hers (this was prearranged and done with total propriety)

now the rooms echo unpleasantly

get more stuff!

xpost (hugs)

can't afford/have no desire for more stuff

i do need a roommate, though, for which i also have no desire

i have to share kitty now too (which is fair, but sad)

oh man. sharing the cat? that kinda sucks, mook.

it can be really hard to get used to having someone else in your space when you're used to living alone ... or after living with a long-term partner. Just don't get a roommate that reminds you of your ex.

tbh I don't really think sharing kitty is fair

In terms of your next move, just a simple, hey, did you want to go to this gig on Tuesday message or call would be totally fine.

Yeah, so I did, essentially, this. I really hope you're right and rationally I know I should err on the side of a non-conspiratorial explanation for her silence but I just don't trust her. Which is in itself probably/potentially a whole different thing.

oh man. sharing the cat? that kinda sucks, mook.

Doesn't sound all that fair to the cat, either.

My sympathies, MP.

yeah fuck sharing of cats after relationship is over. dogs are more adaptable, imo, but cats? fuck no.

Hang in there, mooks! Things will get better, I promise. </onewhoknows>

I wish that the Craigslist fairy sends you a fantastically great roommate who turns out to be one of those roommates that actually turns into a friend, and (slightly less realistically) I wish that your ex spots a kitten in great danger, rescues it and asks you to take on the other cat full-time.

aww thx dudes

hang in there, mookie

mookie, come hang with me in the park and i will treat you like a vip

let's pray for a football season to come & put an end to all this sadness

so yeah i posted in the wrong thread last night in a mess, but my wife and i are done. im moving out tomorrow. im sad.

i posted in that other thread, but it bears repeating-- i'm really sorry that you are going through something that rough. i wish the best for you, and i hope you take good care of yourself. i've never been married or had a family, but breakups in general even uh, divorced (sorry!) from that context are difficult enough.

Chris....fuck, I am so sorry. (hug)

Chris, I'm so sorry.

So sorry to hear. Reassurances are probably not so helpful a this point, but it you *will* be OK and it *will* get better and life *does* go on in a positive way. People told me this when I got divorced, and damn if they weren't right. Take care.

Oh, fuck, Chris. I knew this was coming. We'll be here for you for whatever happens.

sorry dude. i know the feeling.

i'm sorry chris. kia kaha my friends.

Moved my stuff out yesterday. That sucked. My wife and I are on really good terms and honestly i feel much better. We will much better friends than husband and wife.

*comfort*

Is it too early to ask how the kid situation is going to work out between you? I remember you talking about that a while back. But please: no need to answer if it's too raw to talk about yet.

We are going to do every tues and Wednesday with me and every other weekend which is standard practice. Had him last night and he had a blast. I got him a toy story bed and he almost shit. It's actually really nice to be able to focus all my energy on him and not have to worry about dividing it. Plus it will be nice to recharge when he is with his mother. All in all im doing good

I'm glad for that, Chris. Just sorry that you have to go through it all. <3

Stay strong, Chris. Hope things work out for the best for you and your little one.

hot damn i never got no toy story bed

Brb gonna go riot

Yeah I'm not as upset as I thought I would be. It's been a longtime coming and best that it happened now on good terms than hating one another on bad terms.

of course all the music in the world sucks ass right now

<3 homie

Tuvan throat singing, perhaps? xpost

yo

<3

Well yesterday I got a text that wasn't intended for me by mistake. For another guy. She claims it was a joke and she is flirting. She can go fuck herself

:( chris

Fuck, man. Sorry.

oh god, that is awful. :(

Oh, fuck that, seriously.

Oh dude :(

That really sucks, dude.

Turns out I need a tiny bit of this thread, if there is some to spare. thx

oh no :(

my situation is as nothing compared to chris's. just feeling it a bit at the moment.

sorry guys.

Plenty of room here, grab a cushion or whatever.

I'm trying to pick out a sperm donor at the moment, and it's really shit.

How much info do they give you?

It's actually really nice to be able to focus all my energy on him and not have to worry about dividing it. Plus it will be nice to recharge when he is with his mother. All in all im doing good.

I'm sorry about everything, man, but since this is where you are now: this is exactly what my divorced female friend says about being with her kids, too. They split custody 50/50 and the 3.5 days when she doesn't have her sons, she has a whole other independent life, and when she DOES have them, she has ONLY them, and not a spouse she also has to take care of.