That all happened about six years ago, but we're best friends now (or, more accurately, like Jerry and Elaine from Seinfeld).
Hahah oh shit that sounds like me and Nick.
― Senor DingDong (Trayce), Tuesday, 8 February 2011 02:39 (thirteen years ago) link
yeah :( and i know a very very good example of that
intervention from friends is imminent
Hm, curious, anyone i kno?
― Senor DingDong (Trayce), Tuesday, 8 February 2011 02:40 (thirteen years ago) link
not really, an ex of mine from maaaany years ago. needs a huge kickstart to get over her cunt recent ex
― bouquet brigade (electricsound), Tuesday, 8 February 2011 02:42 (thirteen years ago) link
ex texted me AGAIN yesterday. flat out ignored it. not gonna be your scratching post when YOU dumped ME!
― door to door legume salesman (San Te), Tuesday, 8 February 2011 03:58 (thirteen years ago) link
Good for you *nods*.
― Senor DingDong (Trayce), Tuesday, 8 February 2011 04:06 (thirteen years ago) link
Good luck Mooks.
Breaking up sounds awful. It's been soooo long since I've had to endure it that sometimes I forget how tough it is.
― homosexual II, Wednesday, 9 February 2011 00:45 (thirteen years ago) link
Yeah not something I care to go thru again in a hurry, esp the "oh god you mean I have to start again!?" kind where its been years. Ugh.
Doesnt make me feel any less lonely mind u.
― Senor DingDong (Trayce), Wednesday, 9 February 2011 05:18 (thirteen years ago) link
I'm worried about dating again when I lose Lloyd. (He's old enough that even if he does die a natural death, I'm still going to outlive him by 20-30 years.) I'll get to make all of the relationship mistakes that you all made in your late teens or early twenties, but I'll get to make them with people in their forties, fifties, or sixties--people (I'm assuming will be) less tolerant of that kind of thing.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 9 February 2011 15:26 (thirteen years ago) link
people in their 40s, 50s and 60s are probably a lot less nitpicky and bullshitty i would hope
― dark link (roxymuzak), Wednesday, 9 February 2011 15:39 (thirteen years ago) link
I'm worried that I'll look less like Woman With Very Little Relationship Experience and more like Crazy Girlfriend to them.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Wednesday, 9 February 2011 15:43 (thirteen years ago) link
why are you even thinking about this? there's really nothing can be done about that pesky process called "aging" w/r/t looks, but you're in control of how you approach lifejust live well now, it will make you feel better when you're oldsorry to get all self helpy but it's true
― ergonomically chromium plated fish slice (La Lechera), Wednesday, 9 February 2011 15:50 (thirteen years ago) link
watch a lot of golden girls and study their behavior. you'll have it made.
― peacocks, Wednesday, 9 February 2011 16:04 (thirteen years ago) link
Good advice in any situation, actually.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Thursday, 10 February 2011 01:35 (thirteen years ago) link
Dear T*** (my ex-ex),
It is unfair that even though it's now been 1 year and 3 months since we broke up, I still miss you a lot, and that you seem to get more attractive as time goes on. Also it sucks that today is the two year anniversary of our Valentine's Day dinner at C@rmela's, the first of many Italian restaurants we visited together.
So pathetic is it that I think of you more now than my most recent ex, and can't find excuses to hate you anymore like I used to be able to.
*sigh*
Yours truly,
R0b
― furious styles p diddy kong (San Te), Friday, 11 February 2011 04:34 (thirteen years ago) link
you're posting that here instead of actually sending it to her, right?
― gr8080, Friday, 11 February 2011 05:39 (thirteen years ago) link
Lol of course
― furious styles p diddy kong (San Te), Friday, 11 February 2011 13:56 (thirteen years ago) link
sure hope so
― ullr saves (gbx), Friday, 11 February 2011 14:21 (thirteen years ago) link
I don't send pathetic emails to people, ffs!
― furious styles p diddy kong (San Te), Friday, 11 February 2011 14:35 (thirteen years ago) link
aw
― الله basedأكبر (forksclovetofu), Friday, 11 February 2011 16:19 (thirteen years ago) link
five years ago this moment, i was getting married
― mookieproof, Saturday, 19 February 2011 00:05 (thirteen years ago) link
:(
― ENBB, Saturday, 19 February 2011 00:06 (thirteen years ago) link
*hugs* mookie x
― Trayce, Saturday, 19 February 2011 00:11 (thirteen years ago) link
― ullr saves (gbx), Saturday, 19 February 2011 00:12 (thirteen years ago) link
<3
― mookieproof, Saturday, 19 February 2011 00:20 (thirteen years ago) link
*comforts MP*
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Saturday, 19 February 2011 01:17 (thirteen years ago) link
oh mookie...
― VegemiteGrrl, Saturday, 19 February 2011 06:33 (thirteen years ago) link
<3 <3
― HOOS the master?? STEEN NUFF (BIG HOOS aka the steendriver), Saturday, 19 February 2011 06:39 (thirteen years ago) link
aw mookie :(
― calling planet dearth (sunny successor), Saturday, 19 February 2011 12:41 (thirteen years ago) link
We're here for ya, pal
― take yo shirt off, twist it round yo hand, spin it like a helikl0pter (San Te), Saturday, 19 February 2011 13:28 (thirteen years ago) link
mookie, five years from this (that) moment there will be wonderful people/things in your life you don't know anything about yet because they are a surprise <3
― estela, Monday, 21 February 2011 01:11 (thirteen years ago) link
^^^^^^^^
― ooma boogy wow wow (electricsound), Monday, 21 February 2011 01:12 (thirteen years ago) link
in my phone i have made an entry for feb. 18, 2016 that says "bitch at estela"
― mookieproof, Monday, 21 February 2011 01:24 (thirteen years ago) link
i'll be long gone by then.
― estela, Monday, 21 February 2011 01:26 (thirteen years ago) link
noooo
― mookieproof, Monday, 21 February 2011 01:28 (thirteen years ago) link
just a bit of magical thinking, so let's be cool.
― estela, Monday, 21 February 2011 01:30 (thirteen years ago) link
― Trayce, Monday, 21 February 2011 02:04 (thirteen years ago) link
thinking of making this thread into a self-help book, anyone object?
Fwiw & apropos of nothing, my first (and hopefully last) serious ex got married a fortnight ago. Spent almost a whole day in a navelgaze funk before remembering that it's six years since we broke up and i've spent five of them with the current ms mac and we're stupidly happy. Exes and breakups, though. Strange.
― Achillean Heel (darraghmac), Monday, 21 February 2011 11:28 (thirteen years ago) link
I look forward to several more serious exes
― mh, Monday, 21 February 2011 14:53 (thirteen years ago) link
oh dear. Personally, i hope not!
― Achillean Heel (darraghmac), Monday, 21 February 2011 15:03 (thirteen years ago) link
so...things have not been great with the wife for some time...not quite done yet, but seems like we are heading in that direction. We've had our "talks" and done marriage counseling in the past (about two years ago) and things rebounded. Then I lost my job and things went progressively downhill from there. I started a new job last September and it just seems to get worse and worse. She never seems to be happy about anything anymore and neither am I. The joy we get is our son. She consistently gets on me to spend "family time" all the time, I don't think she understands that I sometimes want to be alone or not always want to spend "family time"...sometimes I want to go be a guy and have a beer and watch a sporting event with my friends. I ask for once a month.
Im not perfect by any means and have my flaws that she is not happy about, but blah blah blah she's not the same person I fell in love with 15 years ago. She's turned into her mother. I know she wants structure and stability but she is never happy with anything i do anymore and is putting me down repeatedly over my failures at acquiring a college degree...which in my mind is not the fucking be all end all of life. Im just fed up.
She also is worried at all times at how she is perceived by her parents....she's 35 and is still seeking constant approval from them.
I probably sound like a selfish cunt. Im just exhausted.
Who's got advice?
― OLD MAN YELLS AT SHOUT RAP (chrisv2010), Tuesday, 22 February 2011 21:01 (thirteen years ago) link
You're trying to get over a breakup that hasn't even happened yet?
What's the status as of right now. Are you def splitting?
Also, :( I am sorry to hear this. I know how much it sucks.
― ENBB, Tuesday, 22 February 2011 21:09 (thirteen years ago) link
chris, what's she doing? I mean, is she working, does she spend time with friends or with other moms, does she have things she does in spare time?
I have friends in this boat and it really sounds like she's either genuinely down on the relationship, or she just isn't getting any validation from her life so she's searching for it from her parents or by constantly having you engage in "family" stuff.
― mh, Tuesday, 22 February 2011 21:12 (thirteen years ago) link
yup, because im actually more sad at the thought of not seeing my son daily at this point then not seeing her. Sometimes I feel that if we did seperate it would help me realize that i still do care about her but im terribly worried that i'll realize i don't...and that scares me. SHe's all i've know for a long time, we've been through hell and back together (fertilty issues, her post partum psychosis etc..) and we made it through. How can we not get through this baffles me.
we are up in the air at this point, we go from lets seperate to lets wait it out. Which i don't know if we are holding on to something purely for our boy or because we still care for one another? I do still love her...just seems not as much as I used to.
― OLD MAN YELLS AT SHOUT RAP (chrisv2010), Tuesday, 22 February 2011 21:15 (thirteen years ago) link
Sometimes I feel that if we did seperate it would help me realize that i still do care about her but im terribly worried that i'll realize i don't...and that scares me
that's heartbreaking stuff chris. all the best.
― Achillean Heel (darraghmac), Tuesday, 22 February 2011 21:15 (thirteen years ago) link
if couples counseling helped you guys rebound once maybe it would help again?
― max, Tuesday, 22 February 2011 21:16 (thirteen years ago) link
yes, she works constantly. she has a great job, which stresses her out and she travels a lot for it..she just got back from a 5 day trip. and she does spend time with friends and other mothers...she tells me she wants the best for me and just feels disappointed. I'm not a very ambitious guy.
She was brought up in a house where "appearance to others is everything"....social stats etc....education...she always follows up things with "what are my parents going to say"...WHO CARES, its your life now...not your parents. When i got tattooed a month ago it was "my parents are going to think your a bum". FUCK OFF.
― OLD MAN YELLS AT SHOUT RAP (chrisv2010), Tuesday, 22 February 2011 21:19 (thirteen years ago) link
honest to god, the only response to that is "if you care more about what they think than what I think, then it's obvious who you need to be living with."
― old man yells at poop first thing in the morning (pixel farmer), Tuesday, 22 February 2011 21:21 (thirteen years ago) link
I'm really sorry about your troubles & situation, btw. Not trying to be flippant.
― old man yells at poop first thing in the morning (pixel farmer), Tuesday, 22 February 2011 21:22 (thirteen years ago) link
she also used to make me cover up my tattoos when visiting her parents and not smoke cigarettes at their house (outside and away from the house) until last year I said fuck it and took my shirt off and lit up a camel wide right on the front lawn.
i think we will probably give the counseling another shot, its worth it. I guess.
pixel, thats actually something I need to say to her and i didn't take it as flippant at all.
― OLD MAN YELLS AT SHOUT RAP (chrisv2010), Tuesday, 22 February 2011 21:22 (thirteen years ago) link
and granted my upper body looks like a russian prisoner but it doesn't make me any less of a person because im tattooed and not a college graduate.
― OLD MAN YELLS AT SHOUT RAP (chrisv2010), Tuesday, 22 February 2011 21:23 (thirteen years ago) link