Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

my new profile name if you feel like some detective work is a cocteau twins song starting with M that Harold Budd plays piano on.

lol mh I think you just found me didnt you ;P

Woah 93% match, nice.

I haven't a clue what you're talking about (yes)

hee hee.

Actually just got one of these things tho I'm in the forlorn age-group ilxor's here seem to consider their prime. Where I spend my days don't really provide a whole lot of f3malez so I don't consider it really pathetic on my part or anything, and hell, it's the 21st century.

My "most secret thing you're willing to admit" reads, "When I get home from a long, hard day at work I like to strip naked, rub myself in baby oil, and smoke the lint from the belly-button". I have 0 views.

my username is my ilx name and my former state of us residence btw

big texas aka the austindriver

lol

Well I couldnt find you.

Got messaged by one of my regular customers on here, who, by the way, has no recognizable pictures because she's an instructor at the University, so she was basically just anonymously hitting on the barista.

God damn that would be creepy if the genders were reversed, but

God damn am I not in the slightest bit creeped out and in fact am just excited because it turns out she's a customer I've often thought was way cute.

That gives me hope for hitting on the metal dude at the pub! hah.

(I would never stalk ppl onto internet sites tho, thats just WEIRD)

Considering putting up a picture onto my OKC profile and doing this properly. It's time to get back in the game after a 6 month hiatus! From what I can gather from this thread, the advice seems to be

1) be yourself
2) message EVERYBODY who it looks like you might have something in common, it never hurts
3) embrace rejection as part of the path to success

Have I got that pretty much?

Also, we don't really do "dating" in the same way in the UK, although the idea of just no pressure hanging out and seeing what happens has gotta be a good one. Anyone got any specific UK-centric advice?

yup, and use the quickmatch and 4-5 star everybody that you might like too, it's quicker than messaging loads of people. i've got a couple of dates this way.

Just as a counterbalance I def don't rec quickmatch as a great many girls explicitly say on their profiles--in parts you often don't see on quickmatch--that they "don't respond to winks or quickmatch, just man up and send me a real message with more depth than 'hi'"

Diff strokes for diff folks I guess, but I trust "oh he put some time into this" personal message way more than a mouse click as a way to get a response.

yeah, course. i'd say write a thought-out message to those girls you deffo really like and have stuff in common with. but it doesn't hurt to use the quickmatch, they're not going to know it's you unless they rate you 4-5 as well anyway.

a fair point

Yeah when I get "winks" I tend to be immediately put off, cause it feels... sleazy I dunno. Then again it's only ever much older men who approach me that way (whyyyyyy).

I want to msg a guy I've found but I never know what to say. The last 3 or 4 ppl Ive messaged have not replied. I'm reluctant to be set up for a letdown, as Lou Barlow would muse.

yeah, but when you've got nothing, you've got nothing to lose, as Bob Dylan would muse

Heh. Good point!

When you browse privately, does it show up as you being online? Or does it just keep you from showing up on somebody's "visitors" page?

I was having a great dialogue w/ one girl until I decided, finally, to do that 25 question thing. We answer near identically 'cept on the the "do you want a partner to have kids with?" whereas I checked down a vehement "NO" and her's the obvious opposite. I mean it's just idiomatic of our genders, this couldn't be the reason why she's suddenly stopped replying...??

Hey did someone on here from St Louis look at my profile? Just wondering if its an ILXor cz I dont recognise them.

^^^braggin

It weirds me out sometimes when I get visitors from far flung areas. It shouldn't, I guess, cause I turn on "search ::anywhere::" sometimes too out of curiosity, but when I get a visitor from like Ontario I go 'huh'

I dont mind people from far away checking me out, but it is disheartening when theyre a gorgeous high match and live in another country :(

And whoevr this person was who visited was CU-ETTT.

just sayin :/

That said, I also sometimes get hilarious "hello pretty lady I KISS U" type mangled engrish messages from guys in like, thailand and stuff. Wuh.

my new pickup line

It doesn't work unless you phrase it like a question.

NO ONE EVER ANSWERS ME

ALSO WHY DO I GET MESSAGES FROM PEOPLE WHO WANT ME TO BE THEIR SLAVE

do I have that elusive SLAVE look???

Are you using a picture of you with your s&m gear on?

No one ever answers me either Mandee :( Stupid menfolk :|

i cannot even imagine doing this but i guess i should maybe?

like, even if there were some magical woman who wanted to be my slave was interested, i don't know what i'd do with that. other than feel flattered. i don't want to message people or wink at people. i'd kind of like some extended hugging tho

No! Resist the urge.

Yeh OKC is a tiny bit demoralising tbh :(

Fuck I'd kill for some cuddles now as well. Bleh.

hard to get cuddles via killing ime

Unless u r Gacey or some shit.

mooks, I thought you were married???

i was

still am technically

aw jeez

hey guys so maybe i'm not KING OF OKCUPID since i haven't exactly ~~found a girlfriend~~ on here or whatever, but i'm maybe doin ok on it in the sense of quantity of ppl i'm conversating with & meeting irl, and i have been asked to share my methodology and so here is my pamphlet

01:12:41 PM) HOOS: i mean its a task man i'll be real
(01:13:00 PM) HOOS: like i haven't honestly run my numbers but rough estimate if i send 20 messages i'll get 3 responses
(01:13:11 PM) homo ii: i never see even 20 people i want to message
(01:13:20 PM) HOOS: haha see thats the thing too like
(01:13:31 PM) HOOS: i set my search parameters
(01:13:57 PM) HOOS: '21-30' 'under 5'6' 'single' 'girls who like guys'
(01:14:28 PM) HOOS: and then look at percentages & the first profie pic
(01:14:55 PM) HOOS: if the percentage is above 60 and the pic is cute/ws/intriguing in some way, i'll open the profile in a new tab for further investigation
(01:15:19 PM) HOOS: which usually consists of 'skimming the profile til i find something i can be witty/interesting about'
(01:15:53 PM) homo ii: i pretty much do that too but most of the dudes look pretty dopey and/or have horrible grammar
(01:16:14 PM) HOOS: and my standard msg is subject line 'essential questions' and 3-4 cutesy/lol/'deep' questions
(01:16:34 PM) homo ii: ooh what are your essential questions?

(01:16:45 PM) HOOS: oh they're diff based on the contents of the profile
(01:17:30 PM) HOOS: but like lets say the girl mentions buffy and working for a nonprofit and liking some punk band
(01:17:38 PM) HOOS: i'd be like
(01:17:45 PM) HOOS: -which buffy character are you?
(01:18:05 PM) HOOS: -what is it about your job that you really love?
(01:18:43 PM) HOOS: -punk band XYZ is pretty rad, i love album 123, but have you heard ABC? check out this youtube video
(01:19:55 PM) HOOS: so yeah i'll send about 15 variations on that in a week
(01:20:04 PM) HOOS: and part of it is that like
(01:20:14 PM) HOOS: i'm in a new city with new people coming into it all the time
(01:20:19 PM) HOOS: so constant new pool
(01:22:19 PM) HOOS: but i mean i feel like just being genuine, curious & grammatically correct takes me light years

All good rules to work on but Mand is right, I never FIND that many ppl who fit my criteria and jesus, you sort by HEIGHT!? If I did that I'd never find anyone. My age bracket is huge - but skewed downward, and I suspect the younger guys ignore me cos of my age tbh? (I am talking 28-30yos not babies)

Also I kind of wont go below about 70% on matches. And if there is any bad grammar/spelling that is an instant bum-bowww.

So, for some reason, are people who are all "I am so outdoorsy and I go hiking in the mountains and I travel overseas at least twice a year". Cos that isnt the guy for me. But so many guys feel the need to be braggin' bout their travels idgi?

maybe its a australia thing

everybody in dc brags about their jobs on their profiles

not gonna lie, slightly creeped out by that hoos post

I'd be more attracted to some girl who brags about making mixtapes and watching Pawn Stars. a) admitting that is a big plus re: laid-backness and b) I'd never feel guilty for essentially wanting to do the same thing.

hahaha sorry everybody

everyone in Denver brags about their awesome outdoorsy-ness, too