Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

yeah, if i see decent new pic of myself on facebook, i'll add that to my OKC pix and maybe delete an old one. although there are a couple of good ones i keep up permanently.

Yeah I did and I also need a new username cos I honestly think my stupid one might be a bit misleading (its so childish). I know I can pay for a bit and change it but nah. I'll just ditch and start again.

For one thing - right now my ex (the one I live with) is my #1 match and has been for ages. Out of everyone in my town on OKC! What are the odds. Anyway, I'd be curious to see if that remains so if I redo the thing.

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Haha I also went on a spree a few weeks ago of hiding girls I had high match with who were obscenely taller than me

The hide button is your friend, is wht I mean!

Oh lol I dont mind N being my highest match! He's my best friend after all. In fact we jokingly send each other stupid okc messages all the time going OMG A/S/L and stuff.

I JUST started doing this. Being newly single for the first time in six years, the dating landscape in general seems newly disorienting. It is going to take some practice to regain the swagger I had in my mid-20s, tho I do like this concept of online romantic browsing (completely new to me), mainly b/c it gives me the opportunity to make a solid first impression verbally - I've always been much better at writing than talking, so by the time we actually meet up & I start saying ridiculous things, they'll at least know that I'm passably intelligent & not actually mentally retarded.

The last time I went on a first date with someone from a site like OKC, it was really great. We had plenty to talk about and stayed out for several hours that night...until I got choked when taking a sip of my drink at the bar after dinner and coughed up a piece of bread from earlier that night. She didn't call again.

Have officially rescheduled coffee date #2 so that I'm not in the comedy scenario of trying to have my two dates avoiding meeting each other.

it would have been so playa to just welcome #2 into the date in progress and seen how things went

hahaha

i won't lie and say i didn't imagine introducing one to the other

I just disabled my own profile and made a brand new one.

N is still in my top 5 of matches, roffle.

Would it be gauche if anyone here looked up each others profiles to see what matches we are for a larf? It would, wouldn't it.

lj and i are like 95% match iirc

no hoos on jagger thoughts, please

x-post Is that supposed to be surprising?

i am only a reporter!!!

my new profile name if you feel like some detective work is a cocteau twins song starting with M that Harold Budd plays piano on.

lol mh I think you just found me didnt you ;P

Woah 93% match, nice.

I haven't a clue what you're talking about (yes)

hee hee.

Actually just got one of these things tho I'm in the forlorn age-group ilxor's here seem to consider their prime. Where I spend my days don't really provide a whole lot of f3malez so I don't consider it really pathetic on my part or anything, and hell, it's the 21st century.

My "most secret thing you're willing to admit" reads, "When I get home from a long, hard day at work I like to strip naked, rub myself in baby oil, and smoke the lint from the belly-button". I have 0 views.

my username is my ilx name and my former state of us residence btw

big texas aka the austindriver

lol

Well I couldnt find you.

Got messaged by one of my regular customers on here, who, by the way, has no recognizable pictures because she's an instructor at the University, so she was basically just anonymously hitting on the barista.

God damn that would be creepy if the genders were reversed, but

God damn am I not in the slightest bit creeped out and in fact am just excited because it turns out she's a customer I've often thought was way cute.

That gives me hope for hitting on the metal dude at the pub! hah.

(I would never stalk ppl onto internet sites tho, thats just WEIRD)

Considering putting up a picture onto my OKC profile and doing this properly. It's time to get back in the game after a 6 month hiatus! From what I can gather from this thread, the advice seems to be

1) be yourself
2) message EVERYBODY who it looks like you might have something in common, it never hurts
3) embrace rejection as part of the path to success

Have I got that pretty much?

Also, we don't really do "dating" in the same way in the UK, although the idea of just no pressure hanging out and seeing what happens has gotta be a good one. Anyone got any specific UK-centric advice?

yup, and use the quickmatch and 4-5 star everybody that you might like too, it's quicker than messaging loads of people. i've got a couple of dates this way.

Just as a counterbalance I def don't rec quickmatch as a great many girls explicitly say on their profiles--in parts you often don't see on quickmatch--that they "don't respond to winks or quickmatch, just man up and send me a real message with more depth than 'hi'"

Diff strokes for diff folks I guess, but I trust "oh he put some time into this" personal message way more than a mouse click as a way to get a response.

yeah, course. i'd say write a thought-out message to those girls you deffo really like and have stuff in common with. but it doesn't hurt to use the quickmatch, they're not going to know it's you unless they rate you 4-5 as well anyway.

a fair point

Yeah when I get "winks" I tend to be immediately put off, cause it feels... sleazy I dunno. Then again it's only ever much older men who approach me that way (whyyyyyy).

I want to msg a guy I've found but I never know what to say. The last 3 or 4 ppl Ive messaged have not replied. I'm reluctant to be set up for a letdown, as Lou Barlow would muse.

yeah, but when you've got nothing, you've got nothing to lose, as Bob Dylan would muse

Heh. Good point!

When you browse privately, does it show up as you being online? Or does it just keep you from showing up on somebody's "visitors" page?

I was having a great dialogue w/ one girl until I decided, finally, to do that 25 question thing. We answer near identically 'cept on the the "do you want a partner to have kids with?" whereas I checked down a vehement "NO" and her's the obvious opposite. I mean it's just idiomatic of our genders, this couldn't be the reason why she's suddenly stopped replying...??

Hey did someone on here from St Louis look at my profile? Just wondering if its an ILXor cz I dont recognise them.

^^^braggin

It weirds me out sometimes when I get visitors from far flung areas. It shouldn't, I guess, cause I turn on "search ::anywhere::" sometimes too out of curiosity, but when I get a visitor from like Ontario I go 'huh'

I dont mind people from far away checking me out, but it is disheartening when theyre a gorgeous high match and live in another country :(

And whoevr this person was who visited was CU-ETTT.

just sayin :/

That said, I also sometimes get hilarious "hello pretty lady I KISS U" type mangled engrish messages from guys in like, thailand and stuff. Wuh.

my new pickup line

It doesn't work unless you phrase it like a question.

NO ONE EVER ANSWERS ME

ALSO WHY DO I GET MESSAGES FROM PEOPLE WHO WANT ME TO BE THEIR SLAVE

do I have that elusive SLAVE look???

Are you using a picture of you with your s&m gear on?

No one ever answers me either Mandee :( Stupid menfolk :|

i cannot even imagine doing this but i guess i should maybe?

like, even if there were some magical woman who wanted to be my slave was interested, i don't know what i'd do with that. other than feel flattered. i don't want to message people or wink at people. i'd kind of like some extended hugging tho