Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

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guess you don't know yet which one you'll rly hit it off with if at all, and dammit will a hoos ball otherwise

haha i mean the thing is

my strategy basically is when i'm 'on okc' i'll message a bunch of girls at once, 5-6, assuming a 10-20% reply avg. they're all genuine messages--my perpetually single friend up here is like 'what do you say to them??' and i'm like 'dude i just read the profile and if i think i have something interesting to say about the contents i say it'--so if i get a reply it's usually substantial, and after last week's round of messaging i got like 6 replies, so it feels like a waste not to make plans to at least meet!

Hoos did just move to a new city so if even if nothing comes of all these get togethers romantically speaking, at least it's a good way to meet new ppl imo. Also I admire his drive and persistence. I've always hated this sort of thing.

playing the numbers haha, well it can work! more likely than not you'll know from the profile when it's someone you'll really click with thermonuclear stylee but if these girls all have interesting shit you can engage with I don't see why not give them all some irl company. the only misgiving I have is that with 6 on the agenda, it'll be easier to concentrate on the ones that come later (unless you had a stellar encounter first up, in which case go animal)

you did the right thing arranging to meet quickly though. my only tip is to be a teeeeny bit more discerning before messaging - in order to avoid a potential emotional pile-up like this, message 1 or 2 a week. there's always time.

Going out with one person is stressful enough for me. Doing it with five different people in one week would make me a wreck.

also the new city thing otm - but you gotta take it p easy unless they're of a wild persuasion too

btw there is a romantic email hoos definitely needs to write at some point in the approximate heretofore

r u implying i owe u a romantic email sir

with flowers n shit

............make that two on sunday

lol

Bit the bullet and sent someone a message the other day. Another non-response.

Why am I bothering? I need to kill my profile and make a new one.

don't laugh, but would love to hook up with someone via tumblr... loads of fit/stylin girls on there.

I try to at least add a couple new photos every month or so, and I have a part sectioned off as [IRREGULAR UPDATE] where I get a bit more specific about what I'm up to last/this/next week that's worth relating, just so the thing stays maintained.

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Like, just suggesting that rather than scrapping the whole thing, but I forget you'd said you wanted to reanswer all the qs right?

yeah, if i see decent new pic of myself on facebook, i'll add that to my OKC pix and maybe delete an old one. although there are a couple of good ones i keep up permanently.

Yeah I did and I also need a new username cos I honestly think my stupid one might be a bit misleading (its so childish). I know I can pay for a bit and change it but nah. I'll just ditch and start again.

For one thing - right now my ex (the one I live with) is my #1 match and has been for ages. Out of everyone in my town on OKC! What are the odds. Anyway, I'd be curious to see if that remains so if I redo the thing.

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Haha I also went on a spree a few weeks ago of hiding girls I had high match with who were obscenely taller than me

The hide button is your friend, is wht I mean!

Oh lol I dont mind N being my highest match! He's my best friend after all. In fact we jokingly send each other stupid okc messages all the time going OMG A/S/L and stuff.

I JUST started doing this. Being newly single for the first time in six years, the dating landscape in general seems newly disorienting. It is going to take some practice to regain the swagger I had in my mid-20s, tho I do like this concept of online romantic browsing (completely new to me), mainly b/c it gives me the opportunity to make a solid first impression verbally - I've always been much better at writing than talking, so by the time we actually meet up & I start saying ridiculous things, they'll at least know that I'm passably intelligent & not actually mentally retarded.

The last time I went on a first date with someone from a site like OKC, it was really great. We had plenty to talk about and stayed out for several hours that night...until I got choked when taking a sip of my drink at the bar after dinner and coughed up a piece of bread from earlier that night. She didn't call again.

Have officially rescheduled coffee date #2 so that I'm not in the comedy scenario of trying to have my two dates avoiding meeting each other.

it would have been so playa to just welcome #2 into the date in progress and seen how things went

hahaha

i won't lie and say i didn't imagine introducing one to the other

I just disabled my own profile and made a brand new one.

N is still in my top 5 of matches, roffle.

Would it be gauche if anyone here looked up each others profiles to see what matches we are for a larf? It would, wouldn't it.

lj and i are like 95% match iirc

no hoos on jagger thoughts, please

x-post Is that supposed to be surprising?

i am only a reporter!!!

my new profile name if you feel like some detective work is a cocteau twins song starting with M that Harold Budd plays piano on.

lol mh I think you just found me didnt you ;P

Woah 93% match, nice.

I haven't a clue what you're talking about (yes)

hee hee.

Actually just got one of these things tho I'm in the forlorn age-group ilxor's here seem to consider their prime. Where I spend my days don't really provide a whole lot of f3malez so I don't consider it really pathetic on my part or anything, and hell, it's the 21st century.

My "most secret thing you're willing to admit" reads, "When I get home from a long, hard day at work I like to strip naked, rub myself in baby oil, and smoke the lint from the belly-button". I have 0 views.

my username is my ilx name and my former state of us residence btw

big texas aka the austindriver

lol

Well I couldnt find you.

Got messaged by one of my regular customers on here, who, by the way, has no recognizable pictures because she's an instructor at the University, so she was basically just anonymously hitting on the barista.

God damn that would be creepy if the genders were reversed, but

God damn am I not in the slightest bit creeped out and in fact am just excited because it turns out she's a customer I've often thought was way cute.

That gives me hope for hitting on the metal dude at the pub! hah.

(I would never stalk ppl onto internet sites tho, thats just WEIRD)

Considering putting up a picture onto my OKC profile and doing this properly. It's time to get back in the game after a 6 month hiatus! From what I can gather from this thread, the advice seems to be

1) be yourself
2) message EVERYBODY who it looks like you might have something in common, it never hurts
3) embrace rejection as part of the path to success

Have I got that pretty much?

Also, we don't really do "dating" in the same way in the UK, although the idea of just no pressure hanging out and seeing what happens has gotta be a good one. Anyone got any specific UK-centric advice?

yup, and use the quickmatch and 4-5 star everybody that you might like too, it's quicker than messaging loads of people. i've got a couple of dates this way.

Just as a counterbalance I def don't rec quickmatch as a great many girls explicitly say on their profiles--in parts you often don't see on quickmatch--that they "don't respond to winks or quickmatch, just man up and send me a real message with more depth than 'hi'"

Diff strokes for diff folks I guess, but I trust "oh he put some time into this" personal message way more than a mouse click as a way to get a response.

yeah, course. i'd say write a thought-out message to those girls you deffo really like and have stuff in common with. but it doesn't hurt to use the quickmatch, they're not going to know it's you unless they rate you 4-5 as well anyway.

a fair point

Yeah when I get "winks" I tend to be immediately put off, cause it feels... sleazy I dunno. Then again it's only ever much older men who approach me that way (whyyyyyy).

I want to msg a guy I've found but I never know what to say. The last 3 or 4 ppl Ive messaged have not replied. I'm reluctant to be set up for a letdown, as Lou Barlow would muse.

yeah, but when you've got nothing, you've got nothing to lose, as Bob Dylan would muse