crazy chinese mother

my parents were uber supportive. they probably went to every sporting event, recital, theatrical performance I was ever a part of up until they moved out of state 1.5 years ago.

sports seen as lowbrow; music seen as highbrow.

one of my favorite memories as a young teen was my brother playing in a soccer game and this anonymous parent, for whatever reason, kept riding him the whole game, and finally he said it again and my mother turned around and SHRIEKED at him to shut the hell up and leave him alone, and the sideline was silent for like a half hour.

haha, dude, this happened to me when i was maybe thirteen or something, and my friend/teammate's dad kept yelling from the sidelines at me during a game (he wasn't even a coach at the time) and then finally i stopped running and looked at him and just yelled "okay, okay... SHUT. UP!!". I just couldn't help myself any longer. after the game my mom was like "oh i can understand why you were frustrated but there was probably a better way of dealing with that situation..."

fucking adults amirite (btw i am 38 as i write this :/)

keep thinking this says crazy chinese motherfuckers

fine motor skills vs gross motor skills xp

oh i can understand why you were frustrated but there was probably a better way of dealing with that situation

probably not honestly

lol many adults need to be screamed at like kids, serves em the fuck right

the people above adults are even worse, though

this thread title reminds me of rem

crazy chinese mother swallowing the ocean
Seven thousand years to sleep away the pain
She will return, she will return

i just damn refused to do shit i didn't want to do like play piano etc

r u chinese, if no plz shut it

^^^^^Shaggy lyric

ice cr?m is crazn board lawyer

ain't gonna listen to u

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I'm using the term "Chinese mother" loosely. I know some Korean, Indian, Jamaican, Irish and Ghanaian parents who qualify too.

reminds me of that 'azns are the new jews' model minority pos article from last year

i was talking with someone a couple of wks back about family stuff and she was saying how she felt really lucky b/c her parents were so sweet and supportive... but, almost too supportive. the nature of her complaint was that she said she could tell her parents that she was up to anything in life and they would be unswervingly supportive of her. i don't think she was lamenting a permissiveness, but more almost half-heartedly wishing that they would push her more at times? she also mentioned that she had an older sibling who was ridiculously successful, so i guess maybe that figures into the picture somehow

they've already settled imo

idk my parents have always been *pretty much* "its ur life to fuck up", this is fine w/ me

what is this thread about anyway

thread is about what u want it to be [via liberal caucazn parenting]

they've already settled imo

lol imo they recognize that she is cool and pretty set with good shoulders up there, and she was just being a tad neurotic. IMO

this thread will be more fun as it begins to reek of virtuosity

a good set with good shoulders is half the battle imo

a good set with good shoulders is half the battle imo

yeah, with earlobes like hers, there's nowhere to go but up towards the crown of her gaul head

but anyway, yeah, parenting, i hate it just as much as phil donahue does.

speaking of parenting, have you guys seen the morton downey, jr. documentary?

when these kids grow up they're gonna find out that their mom used their life experiences to troll for hits on the internet

not as bad as

http://www.guardian.co.uk/lifeandstyle/2010/dec/18/television-talent-children-alice-douglas/print

Love these sports stories. Reminds me of this starting at about 7 minutes in:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ntisjBTiX6I

My Dad told my Mum that she probably shouldnt come watch me play sports. Every time she did she would end up reaming me out on the car ride home about not taking sport seriously enough or w/e and I would walk back into the house in tears. Dad was a "just have fun" guy and Mum was "Fight first! Fight hard! No mercy served!" Cobra-Kai crazy woman when it came to sports. She was like town sports superstar so I don't think she really understood about not being competitive and not caring about sport (ie, my mindset as a kid)

i want to apologize to sandra tsing loh for suspecting she had anything to do with this article.

I'm kind of amazed that she would publicly admit to this:

Lulu couldn't [learn a difficult piano piece]. We worked on it nonstop for a week, drilling each of her hands separately, over and over. But whenever we tried putting the hands together, one always morphed into the other, and everything fell apart. Finally, the day before her lesson, Lulu announced in exasperation that she was giving up and stomped off.

"Get back to the piano now," I ordered.

"You can't make me."

"Oh yes, I can."

Back at the piano, Lulu made me pay. She punched, thrashed and kicked. She grabbed the music score and tore it to shreds. I taped the score back together and encased it in a plastic shield so that it could never be destroyed again. Then I hauled Lulu's dollhouse to the car and told her I'd donate it to the Salvation Army piece by piece if she didn't have "The Little White Donkey" perfect by the next day. When Lulu said, "I thought you were going to the Salvation Army, why are you still here?" I threatened her with no lunch, no dinner, no Christmas or Hanukkah presents, no birthday parties for two, three, four years. When she still kept playing it wrong, I told her she was purposely working herself into a frenzy because she was secretly afraid she couldn't do it. I told her to stop being lazy, cowardly, self-indulgent and pathetic.

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I rolled up my sleeves and went back to Lulu. I used every weapon and tactic I could think of. We worked right through dinner into the night, and I wouldn't let Lulu get up, not for water, not even to go to the bathroom. The house became a war zone, and I lost my voice yelling, but still there seemed to be only negative progress, and even I began to have doubts...

Lulu learned the piece but I mean, still.

Yeah if the article isnt hyperbole (and I hope it is) thats abusive.

the best part about all this is that she's a yale law professor

and never goes home.

Funny thread, but as pointed out many times upthread, this behavior is not exclusive to Chinese parents, wtf.

Anyways, I was watching The Biggest Loser last night and there was a local (Bay Area) gal of Chinese descent on the program.

They interviewed her mother and the subtitles showed the Mom was saying something like "I am glad to have my daughter back"; however, in Cantonese I recognized her saying something like "She was so fat!" (wa ho fei wor ahhh*)

*please feel free to correct if I'm wrong.

Now I want to see the results of parenting by this mother and the guy who wrote this: http://www.thestranger.com/seattle/how-to-be-a-father-a-guide-to-unhappiness/Content?oid=5960877

wow thanks for posting that, great article

this article is kinda challoppy. "omg, everybody thinks childhood is a special, magical time, but it is RUBBISH i tells ya!" my childhood was pretty happy i would say, and one of the things i really miss about being a kid/teenager is the intensity and newness of everything. kids, like adults, can be miserable or happy, obvs.

the misery and fundamental unfairness in being a child has been well-established by Calvin & Hobbes (the cartoon), which speaks to childlike wonderment as well, but it's worth noting that a lot of Calvin's epic fantasies are basically escape from standard second-class citizen treatment that is fundamental to being a kid.

i thought that stranger article was a joke?

its no joke

No matter what you do, how much love and care you supply, how many toys and distractions you provide, a childhood will never be happy. Why? Because the content of a childhood is unhappiness. What's being a child? It's being something you do not want to be—incomplete, unshaped, future-bound.

This is complete bollocks, I had an awesome childhood.

"What's being a child? It's being something you do not want to be—incomplete, unshaped, future-bound."

yeah, looking forward to the future sure sucks. especially when you're naive and optimistic, what fresh hell!

I dunno, childhood does kind of suck.

it's true that you want to be something else when you're a kid, but that something else isn't necessarily "a full-grown adult" -- it's "10" or "13" or "15" or "18" or "21". it's exciting to count down to those things! adults only have one thing to count down to, and they'd rather not.

Isn't the way it goes essentially: kids want to be adults, adults want to kids, and therein lies the neverending discontent?

My dad gave me shit when I only got a 1400 on the SAT. Based on my reaction to that (it was sophomore year, I just stopped giving any kind of fuck junior and senior years), this woman would have killed me as a child. Or I would have pulled a Menendez Bros while she slept.

i remember really wanting to be 11 when i was 8

Isn't the way it goes essentially: kids want to be adults, adults want to kids, and therein lies the neverending discontent? chillwave

Being an adult is awesome, i would never trade it in a million years

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