I certainly lean more towards introverted, and find myself speaking out loud for the first time in days when I go to the market to respond to the "paper or plastic" question. Usually that same morning I'll have gone out to breakfast, alone with New York Times, looking around, wondering, "Christ, wouldn't you rather be eating alone?"
That said, there is more than one section of the paper.
― Colin Saunders (csaunders), Thursday, 27 February 2003 07:42 (twenty-one years ago) link
― dave q, Friday, 28 February 2003 12:29 (twenty-one years ago) link
I get told that I'm a rude cunt, that I have no social skills, because I can't chatter nicely and say "please" and "thank you" while I'm trying to wake up and get my "dealing with other people" head on. It's not that I'm being rude, it's just that I CANNOT DO IT. It takes energy to deal with other people, no matter how much I adore them, and I don't have that kind of energy before my first three cups of caffeine. Sigh.
― kate, Friday, 28 February 2003 12:51 (twenty-one years ago) link
― gareth (gareth), Friday, 28 February 2003 13:27 (twenty-one years ago) link
http://www.theatlantic.com/doc/200602u/introverts
― peepee (peepee), Monday, 20 February 2006 17:39 (eighteen years ago) link
― Boris and the Johnsons (kate), Monday, 20 February 2006 17:47 (eighteen years ago) link
that article was so otm for me when i read it in high school. i think college has somehow made me more extroverted, though. strange.
― Maria (Maria), Monday, 20 February 2006 18:04 (eighteen years ago) link
― oops (Oops), Monday, 20 February 2006 18:58 (eighteen years ago) link
― The Milkmaid (of human kindness) (The Milkmaid), Monday, 20 February 2006 19:06 (eighteen years ago) link
― RJG (RJG), Monday, 20 February 2006 19:12 (eighteen years ago) link
― Boris and the Johnsons (kate), Monday, 20 February 2006 19:15 (eighteen years ago) link
I dunno, it reads like one of those three-level jokes:
(a) "We're better than you."(b) Hahahaha, just kidding.(c) Hahahaha, I'm not kidding at all.
― nabisco (nabisco), Monday, 20 February 2006 19:22 (eighteen years ago) link
― RJG (RJG), Monday, 20 February 2006 19:22 (eighteen years ago) link
― Sterling Clover (s_clover), Monday, 20 February 2006 19:24 (eighteen years ago) link
― jaymc (jaymc), Monday, 20 February 2006 19:32 (eighteen years ago) link
For example:
(from the original article) Sometimes, as we gasp for air amid the fog of their 98-percent-content-free talk, we wonder if extroverts even bother to listen to themselves.
(or, dave q's whole rant, above)
― peepee (peepee), Monday, 20 February 2006 19:44 (eighteen years ago) link
― nabisco (nabisco), Monday, 20 February 2006 19:46 (eighteen years ago) link
ha. i know this guy who i would always see at parties who would just sit at the bar alone or stand by the wall, just watching people having fun. we're acquaintances, so i'd always felt bad for him, like "oh he doesn't have any friends here, i'll go chit-chat with him". i'd go over, make small talk, but he wouldn't be that responsive, so i'd talk even more to get him to talk more and 'have fun". i thought i was helping, but i guess really he just wanted me to shut the fuck up, go away, and let him soak things up. oh well. next time, i'll just wave from across the room.
― phil-two (phil-two), Monday, 20 February 2006 19:55 (eighteen years ago) link
― RJG (RJG), Monday, 20 February 2006 19:56 (eighteen years ago) link
― senseiDancer (sexyDancer), Monday, 20 February 2006 20:46 (eighteen years ago) link
― Erick Dampier is better than Shaq (miloaukerman), Monday, 20 February 2006 20:49 (eighteen years ago) link
― Abbott, Tuesday, 15 May 2007 22:36 (sixteen years ago) link
― Ned Raggett, Tuesday, 15 May 2007 22:37 (sixteen years ago) link
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― wanko ergo sum, Tuesday, 15 May 2007 22:48 (sixteen years ago) link
― estela, Tuesday, 15 May 2007 22:50 (sixteen years ago) link
― Just got offed, Tuesday, 15 May 2007 22:53 (sixteen years ago) link
― rrrobyn, Tuesday, 15 May 2007 22:57 (sixteen years ago) link
― wanko ergo sum, Tuesday, 15 May 2007 23:03 (sixteen years ago) link
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― Abbott, Tuesday, 15 May 2007 23:04 (sixteen years ago) link
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― jed_, Tuesday, 15 May 2007 23:11 (sixteen years ago) link
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― Just got offed, Tuesday, 15 May 2007 23:17 (sixteen years ago) link
A colleague is leaving at the end of the month and is "giving a leaving lecture" because he finds that less awkward than going down the pub. This is not an academic colleague, btw.
― Hey Bob (Scik Mouthy), Monday, 10 July 2017 13:12 (six years ago) link
APS, Yes, like do one uncomfortable thing every other day. Alternate home/personal with work tasks. Treat it like exercising.
― El Tomboto, Monday, 10 July 2017 13:19 (six years ago) link
Deadlines aren't useful but habits are.
Also "every other day" can be it's own reward mechanism, in that doing the thing means you get to not do it the day after
― El Tomboto, Monday, 10 July 2017 13:21 (six years ago) link
This is a thing I need to do in many respects, so, good idea to at least try out.
I like this thinking!
― a passing spacecadet, Monday, 10 July 2017 13:28 (six years ago) link
Scik, what's the leaving lecture going to be about, do you know?
I have found my previous traditional leaving drinks/pub lunches kind of awkward and embarrassing, but public speaking is actively horrifying and having to prepare a talk is exactly the kind of thing I put off forever, so no way would I swap.
― a passing spacecadet, Monday, 10 July 2017 13:32 (six years ago) link
I can't believe I just fucked up the apostrophe its
― El Tomboto, Monday, 10 July 2017 13:47 (six years ago) link
gonna give a lecture when i move out of my apartment
― j., Monday, 10 July 2017 14:34 (six years ago) link
it's gonna be about DOOR-SLAMMING and HALLWAY VOICES
https://scontent-lga3-1.xx.fbcdn.net/v/t1.0-9/31901827_10157401265114148_6592763726934310912_n.jpg?_nc_cat=0&oh=b7eaafd442efd1f183e4d6ed59a52494&oe=5B9C1D2E
― Fedora Dostoyevsky (man alive), Friday, 4 May 2018 18:55 (six years ago) link
Yes, thank you (although I would argue that most meetings could skip the call step and go straight to email).
― Love Theme From Oh God! You Devil (Old Lunch), Friday, 4 May 2018 18:59 (six years ago) link
That you have to have someone call you so you can adjust the ringer volume on your office phone is actually pretty funny.
― pplains, Thursday, 4 August 2022 20:52 (one year ago) link
lol had to do that today after getting a new headset...was used to being able to do test calls on Skype for Business but now we're on Teams who know
― nashwan, Thursday, 4 August 2022 22:41 (one year ago) link
Usually experience holidays as a kind of a They Shoot Horses, Don’t They non-stop marathon of talking by the extroverts.
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 01:22 (one year ago) link
Every boring story is another you’ve gotta hear this! Dick’s Picks version of “Dark Star.”
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 01:26 (one year ago) link
Perhaps with this I have already alienated a good portion of the posters who have frequented this thread.
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 01:28 (one year ago) link
It is a choice one makes as an alternative to being alone. It could be fortunate to have a choice.Family in particular ... why do we care what they say?
― youn, Thursday, 24 November 2022 16:13 (one year ago) link
As someone who is often extremely extroverted but then has to recoup that energy later with some low-demand days, I'm balancing today between people I have to put a TON of energy into being around, ie people who I'm not on the same wavelength as, so I have to heavily moderate my behavior/reactions...and later, going to see people who are very low-effort ie we're on the same page on so many things that being around them is a pleasure.
More of the latter in my life, pls.
― Ima Gardener (in orbit), Thursday, 24 November 2022 16:52 (one year ago) link
I mean idk if that's being extro OR intro-verted, I think it's just "being around people" but whatever.
amen to the latter
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 17:12 (one year ago) link
It's folks who talk about themselves at length but never once think to ask how I'm doing that I cannot be doing with anymore, which sadly is 90% of my wife's extended family.
― MaresNest, Thursday, 24 November 2022 17:54 (one year ago) link
Sorry. Feeling that one. Seems to me some people just keep talking the way they would keep the engine running in their car so their battery won’t die.
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 18:18 (one year ago) link
when I used to hang out with people my favourites were those who talked about themselves without wanting or expecting any reciprocity
― oscar bravo, Thursday, 24 November 2022 18:25 (one year ago) link
This is a interesting point. People talking about themselves at length is fine as long as they are picking up on the subtle or not-so-subtle cues of body language and such on whether you want to keep listening.
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 18:46 (one year ago) link
Which is similar to what MaresNest said.
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 18:50 (one year ago) link
I only learned “body language” is real a few years ago, I had thought it was made up for detective stories
― G. D’Arcy Cheesewright (silby), Thursday, 24 November 2022 19:39 (one year ago) link
i’m hyper-aware of body language & micro-expressions so my stories are like two sentences long bc i’ll cut it short at the slightest hint of boredombut my inner self just constantly tells me to shut up even when ppl seem intetested so i’m a better listener than talker lol
― werewolves of laudanum (VegemiteGrrl), Thursday, 24 November 2022 20:00 (one year ago) link
I feel like I'm a pretty good listener and am genuinely interested in other people's lives.
I don't think I really require much reciprocal engagement, but when someone is sorta stuck on transmit all the while, I begin to get nervous and wonder why I'm even here.
― MaresNest, Thursday, 24 November 2022 22:53 (one year ago) link
Otm
― Meet Me in the Z'Ha'Dum (James Redd and the Blecchs), Thursday, 24 November 2022 23:02 (one year ago) link