thread to get over a breakup

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Hmm. Now, how do I spell schadenfreude again?

poetic justice? or repeat offender?

poetic justice, it might appear. I dont know, just his very vague mutterings and "yes i know dont tell me" is all i have to go on.

I'm suprisingly not gloaty actually, more concerned for him. I'm too nice.

well . . . that's nice of u

Person's gotta really do baaaaad by me before I give them the shrift tbh.

Unless I didn't like them much to start with, then they can sneeze near me and I'll cut a bitch.

never hated on an ex before, but . . .

call me kelis cuz I hate u so much right now

it was five months ago since we called it off

but dude you fucking ripped my heart out on the way out the door

can't believe I still think about this situation every damn day

lame = that I fell so hard for such a selfish dickhead

more lame = me, for still caring about someone I know objectively is not even worth it

and even lamer still = that I'm still this torn up . . . . FIVE MONTHS LATER? seriously, what is my problem?

I've been trying not to blow my cool in public

maybe this thread should be the dumping ground for:

the racist jokes you told when you were really drunk

the way you managed to hustle me to pay for shit (food, tix, shows, booze, movies, everything)

the times you "borrowed" the car and drove across town drunk off your ass like an idiot

your shitty taste in porn / literature / food / TV / crush objects

your lack of any sense of timing

your lack of ambition

your lack of intelligence

your terrible writing

your lack of any discernible talent other than smiling shyly and implying that favors are desired

the way you use people and then bounce

fuck you, dude, for real

fuck you

yes this thread was created w/ the intention of being a dumping ground

pls dump away

and fuck this dude for real he sounds like a dumb shithead

he was, thank god he was never my boyfriend but still . . . what a waste of time/soul/head-space

sounds like a real dickwad

sounds like me

lol

do you have back zits? cuz he did, and man that shit was nasty

do you claim to be "a christian" at strange, random times? cuz he did

are you a lame, selfish dumbass? cuz he was

maybe, no, yes

oh and thanks for getting back in touch after dropping me like a rock for months in order to scam some favors for your band by temporarily pretending to be my "friend" again so that I would pull strings with actual bonafide decent human beings to get yr sorry ass a half decent show through my recommendation, and then you pay me back by being a dick to them and harassing them about trivial crap like the fucking amateur that you are and shall remain- well played! nice one!

he was, thank god he was never my boyfriend but still . . . what a waste of time/soul/head-space

― the tune is space, Sunday, December 12, 2010 2:19 PM (2 hours ago)

ugh!!!

thanks for losing the power supply for the camcorder i lent you.

thanks for doing jack-shit to promote the show I booked for you.

you cannot expect anyone to think you're a bad-ass while wearing flip-flops

your ponytail looks stupid.

you were the most vanilla guy i have ever been with.

your music is really boring.

i wish i could contribute to this thread, but for the first time, my last breakup has turned into a friendship of awesomeness. like, we're going to Tijuana together type awesomeness.

you could contribute by commenting on my recent post, as you know this guy

oh, well:

- his music is boring and academic, and he thinks it's the most significant thing in the universe
- he treats women like garbage, as evidenced from my friends' experiences with him at lolcollege
- he isn't an interesting or cool enough person to be considered part of the Sh1nk0y0 crew
- he is the epitome of an outdated hippie who doesn't know it.

- you envisioned a platonic ideal of family that was unobtainable, let alone by you and me
- you said stuff like 'should have went'
- you were a yankee fan
- you were a huge dismemberment plan fan despite acknowleging that travis sucks
- our second-biggest argument ever was about whether professional baseball players should be capable of putting down a bunt. you were wrong
- you were my best friend
- you were probably the best thing ever to happen to me no shit

</3

srsly most tearjerking post in, like, ever

Sh1nk0y0

googleproof please!!

- you were a huge dismemberment plan fan despite acknowleging that travis sucks

hey now

dammit the asshole who broke my heart liked dismemberment plan too

note to self: stay *away* from dp fans from now on

*trying not to remember how good the sex was*

tune, forgive my nosiness, but I thought you had er, a very long term dude you were happy with? *confused*

thank god he was never my boyfriend

some couples roll open y'know

yeah that was what I assumed, but was confused nonetheless. Sorry D dont mean to pry :/

it's alright, it IS the TMI thread right?

yeah, not breaking up with my real bf

just whining about a yearlong affair that went fucking haywire

he was straight and 21 years old and I'm the only dude he'd ever slept with

from the crap he pulled I think I know a teensy bit now about how straight women get treated by douchey guys

(probably just imagining that part)

Sorry to hear it :( I know what thats like. I have a bff who is technically an ex, but we live together again now and he's like, my old married sock. And the both of us end up with casual partners we come home and rail about to each other as horrible decisions, ha :/

PS I did not mean sock in the ILX sense guhhh.

my douchey straight guy recently played a gig with tune's real bf = small world

these threads depress me because I feel like this is how my exes feel about me

everyone talks about certain exes like this, so i'm guessing that means everyone has exes who talk about them like this too.

xp - crut, your music is good and not boring like this dude's

Ya rly. <3

A few friends/family members are still "facebook friends" with my crazy-ass suicidal ex and there's some lighthearted joking on their part about how soft her boyfriend (ok, *husband* in that they got married so she can have insurance) is. I finally cracked a couple weeks ago and growled at my sister that apparently it's funny that this dude is having a shitty time, but when I was in a world of shit no one seemed to be interested in letting me in on this "humor."

It was mostly aimed at my sister, but somewhat the other friends who kind of mumbled but never spoke up.

Drunky ex called/texted 14 times at 4am a few nights ago, no voicemails, incoherent texts
She's the same one who once told me that Lady Gaga's "Bad Romance" should be the way relationship blueprints (ie I should accept and want her being an angry, mean alcoholic)

Totally over her and the one who followed, but I haven't even dated anyone since things ended with the latter.

^^ Bad Romance ref pretty on point for shitty ex relationship template

xpost don't even want to imagine the trash he could talk about me but I'm sure it gets harsh

Oh goody, earlier referenced girl is now commenting on another friend's facebook page. I think she added him when I was dating her although they never met in person. After my breakup, she advised him to join some writing group her now-husband is in.

wtf is this contrived horseshit? If this wears on me, I should politely request he flush her from his intertubes.

so he calls up my bf to say he's going over to our house to get some of his stuff that he stores in our basement and wants to warn me in advance so that I don't have to see him because he "doesn't want to upset me"

but the last time we saw each other he was a serious fucking asshole to me so I just split (the accusation of being "upset" is conveniently neutral about who and what caused the upset; the upset was a natural reaction to being trivialized, condescended to and insulted in public)

this so-called warning is not to protect my feelings but just to avoid having to face the music about his own lame, selfish behavior so he can carry on with getting what he wants

I am so sick of giving a shit about this person

but I'm still furious at him and don't really know how to process / expel / cathartically purge the big black ocean of hate and misery boiling up right now

I feel like if I stay away I tacitly grant him the right to think he's "really caring and sensitive" when he's not

but if I stick around and give him the tongue-lashing he richly deserves then I'm the uncool bitter guy who just can't get over it

so . . . either way I lose really

I guess I have to abandon the idea that "justice" is possible in this situation

he's too stupid, smug, shallow and narcissistic to understand all the good reasons why he ought to hate himself

but if my only consolation is the spiteful spectator sport of watching him fail at life

then I'm the real loser here, again, for bothering to feel that way in the first place

and his being a jerk isn't enough to haul me out of the pit I'm digging myself into

by posting on this thread

argh argh argh argh argh arggggggggggh

would it really make me feel better to explode in his face?

I don't really see any way to get out of this impasse with some dignity and self-respect intact

I have got to stop caring about this person but I can't seem to stop my mind from racing on its little hamster wheel of futility and hate

sounds like it's time to cut off this toxic asshole

but if I stick around and give him the tongue-lashing he richly deserves then I'm the uncool bitter guy who just can't get over it

since it seems like it's fairly recent, telling him off now doesn't make you the uncool bitter guy

or, you can always send him a turd in the mail in fine Baltimorean tradition

the accusation of being "upset" is conveniently neutral about who and what caused the upset

really well put. so frustrating. sometimes being reasonable is flipping out and calling someone on their shit.

thanks for listening everybody, I just needed to vent

I think I've got to stop believing that this is a situation where I will someday / somehow "teach him a lesson"

doing that is only making myself a hostage to him and it's a way of staying inside this problem (a sick way of preserving "what we had" in an inverted, rotten form)

if somebody is a stupid asshole then worrying about what they think and trying to somehow alter their opinion is just hopeless

it's not going to happen, which means I'm better off cutting my losses here

good riddance

if somebody is a stupid asshole then worrying about what they think and trying to somehow alter their opinion is just hopeless

agreed - but you can still tell him off if it's what you need to do, emotionally.

grown adults that you need to tell off are very rarely worth bothering to tell off.