UGH, so since then, things got pretty hectic around my house. As I've noted elsewhere, our baby daughter was born Oct. 9 and she had to go back to the hospital a couple of times due to illness. So while she and mommy were in the hospital, I didn't let the kid come over because I mean, hell, my son and I were both extremely stressed out and I just couldn't deal.
Early last week, now that everything has settled down a little better in our family life, we noticed that not only was the neighbor kid not coming around, he wasn't out playing in the street at all, which was his usual habitat. So we're a little worried about him, but we think that custody may have somehow switched to his mother. She has her problems, but we like her better and so does the kid. It's sort of on my wife to check around with the neighbors to see if they've heard anything*, but she's been busy with the baby. One of the neighbors had mentioned that they were going to call social services, so maybe that's it. We really need to follow up with some people, is what it boils down to.
*neither of us feel comfortable approaching the father's house.
― kkvgz, Wednesday, 10 November 2010 01:24 (thirteen years ago) link
The kid had broken his arm very badly in a fight with another kid on Halloween. He had been staying with his mother while he was out of school. He came over for a few hours yesterday and played with my kid. Both of them played together pretty well. Just gonna have to see how things go and be observant.
― kkvgz, Monday, 15 November 2010 19:06 (thirteen years ago) link
Just by way of bringing this chapter of the story to a close. xposted from the prison thread.
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OK, should xpost this to the hillbilly thread - there are cops at my neighbor's house right now! I might know someone in prison before too long! : )
― rake rock reggae (kkvgz), Monday, December 20, 2010 3:15 PM (2 days ago) Bookmark
The cops were there because he died. I don't have any other details, except that his son who lived with him in those crummy conditions gets to go live with his mom now, which he desperately wanted.
― rake rock reggae (kkvgz), Wednesday, December 22, 2010 6:04 PM (2 minutes ago) Bookmark
― rake rock reggae (kkvgz), Wednesday, 22 December 2010 23:11 (thirteen years ago) link
:-/
― kanellos (gbx), Wednesday, 22 December 2010 23:26 (thirteen years ago) link
yeah mega-bummer
aaaaaand to close out the story that started this thread: the teacher who presided over my child's beating had her last day today. she is 4 mos pregnant and is leaving to take time off and pursue her master's/get properly accredited and the whole process of her leaving has made it ABUNDANTLY clear what an incompetent prima donna she is (complaining that the term "discipline" should have no place in the co-op's rules and regulations, demanding that she be able to tell parents, individually and personally, when she was leaving rather than let the board handle it, e-mailing parents about how unlikely it is that the co-cop will be able to find a replacement with her "experience" etc.) just ridiculous behavior, the woman does not know how to leave a job. my wife really had to bite her tongue through the whole process.
― twat dust and ego overload (Shakey Mo Collier), Thursday, 23 December 2010 00:33 (thirteen years ago) link
Wow.
― Fig On A Plate Cart (Alex in SF), Thursday, 23 December 2010 00:37 (thirteen years ago) link
haha maybe not the first ILP thread you should have clicked on...
― twat dust and ego overload (Shakey Mo Collier), Thursday, 23 December 2010 00:45 (thirteen years ago) link
Hah well I'd followed this earlier. I will say one of the things I am not looking forward to is dealing with a wider assortment of mentally ill people in San Francisco.
― Fig On A Plate Cart (Alex in SF), Thursday, 23 December 2010 01:19 (thirteen years ago) link
jesus christ can you imagine what her kid is gonna be like?!
― just1n3, Thursday, 23 December 2010 02:48 (thirteen years ago) link
is it just me who was all 'yay!' when they read kkvgz's asshole neighbor died???
― calling planet dearth (sunny successor), Monday, 27 December 2010 06:57 (thirteen years ago) link
You would be joining my wife. : ) I was certainly repulsed by and lived in fear of the guy. We had an alarm installed after one incident with him. We seriously considered buying a gun for home-defense.
But like in many, if not most, abusive relationships, he wasn't 100% always an asshole to his kid. So the memories of him hollering at the boy and the squalid and dangerous conditions the poor kid had to live in are offset a little by memories of the man fixing up the old dune buggy he kept in his yard and taking the little boy out for ice-cream this summer. It's a balance. I imagine the kid's memories of his dad will be bittersweet and Christmas might be a more difficult time of year to deal with now.
It's all I can do to hope that the boy's life gets better from here. I don't know how much better it will get, but I'm pretty sure it will.
― kkvgz, Monday, 27 December 2010 13:16 (thirteen years ago) link
(all of which as a way of saying that I'm not exactly all "yay", but more just like cautiously optimistic)
― kkvgz, Monday, 27 December 2010 13:33 (thirteen years ago) link
why wasnt he living with his mom in the first place?
― calling planet dearth (sunny successor), Tuesday, 28 December 2010 08:05 (thirteen years ago) link