Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

sooooo otm

update

well, the girl I met here 1 month ago and fell madly for...is back in touch, albeit from Spain - but visiting here next month, and wants to see me - innocently enough, I think, but there will be inevitable feelings -

now this of course has thrown my more recent burgeoning thing completely off-whack - I had to tell a really nice and interesting and cute girl only tonight that I had changed my mind and couldn't start anything with my heart so torn. while fully understanding my situation she peaced on me and I do not think she will speak to me any time soon even though we would make excellent friends. this is making me feel kinda shitty. but at least I was upfront.

both were from okcupid. oh you website!

nick!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

also yes well done nick I hope her personal life is not thrown into international turmoil w/in 1 week of u 2 inevitably getting it on

The guy I messaged above was a 92% or something match and is terribly cute and replied and we've now been on 2 dates and both have been incredibly sweet and succesful and I am really quite pleased with myself right now.

Thants, OKC!

First date today, got coffee, was absolutely lovely. Damn, she's like, a real person. Got a little bit of nervy "don't fuck this up" business in my stomach, but mostly just stoked.

Was only an hour and a half, so I'm all energetic now. Dating!

Also high fives all around!

High fives n1ck! :D Its invigorating innit :D

Last night I was all "sooo... second dates are kind of awkward arent they lolol what do we do now haha" but it was all ok in the end =) The thunderstorm we got to sit under at a bar really topped off the night, we were going "woooo!" at the lightning like tards, haha. I really really like this boy argh.

niiiiiiiiiiiiiick

Apparently friend of hers that she was having a casual 'convenience' thing with, when he heard she went on a date, was very hurt, so she's gone off to sort that out, no second date. Ugh, bad day.

What a gee dee roller coaster. Dating.

aw shit man

no second date like, at all?

or for now?

so it goes, tough break mister

At all, is the pretty clear implication.

sorry, man. fwiw my one experience with a 97% match/4% enemy, cuet, smart, magic first date, omg we have so much crazy stuff in common etc etc went more or less the same way. back to "uncomplicated/fun/likes me" as top criteria ;-)

sorry dude. as you so aptly put it, "dating!"

as said upthread, I've kinda inflicted something similar on someone this week

think i'm destined to speak to people and either lose interest or see them lose interest, on this site. i sometimes feel it's like a way to make yourself think you're attempting to date...

and also a great way to practice dating

So much for thinking my thing was going well, apparently despite what I thought it wasnt going well for him at all.

Confused, cos there def wasnt any awkward or get-lost body language. V confused. And bummed. Oh well.

have started getting in touch with people in dc, since i'm moving there in a couple weeks.

weird how i keep breaking news on the okcupid thread?

BIG HOOS dc will be delighted to have you--please let us dcilxors know how we can be of assistance in your relocation!

I'm kinda disappointed that I'm leaving this really great girl I met through OKC behind. I was gonna write her this sappy ass "you're really great, I'm gonna miss you, etc etc" thing, but it occurred to me that there'd really be no point. Cause what, I'm gonna stay behind for her? It wasn't that real yet, I just feel like it coulda been.

But I guess she won't be the last.

^ real talk

Guh, wish I could be that philosophical about it! :) I'm still bugged by what happened to me (only mildly though). I've taken it personally I guess? I'm like "what was it I did wrong?".

And I will never know, but thats how these things go eh.

i don't seem to be very good at this thing

LOL some old acquaintance of mine from the goth club scene who I havent seen since 2002 and barely spoke to much back then just "winked" me on OKC to say "long time no see", hahaha wtf. This world is too small.

trayce you did nothing wrong. this is how it goes. water is wet. the sky is blue. the ones you fall for don't fall for you.

it really is one of life's cruel ironies, and it's why in those rare occasions when the click and the timing are right for both parties we still call it "magic." all i can offer is to get bummed for a while, dust yourself off, rinse and repeat. i'm sure you break more hearts than the other way 'round.

If I do I'm pretty durn clueless about it :/

That's sort of how it is too!

Tryna do this again. Except now in the hometown.

My account name now says I am somewhere I am not.

Mine too, but I'm actually ok with that. It's a roots thing I guess.

i hate this site. i'm erasing myself again from it.

mine is not my roots tho, it's just some city i lived in for a year

right there u go

Oh awesome, OKC has given up on me to such an extent that it's putting lesbians in my suggested matches. Or maybe it's their little way of making fun of my haircut, I don't know.

eek, I accidentally clicked on the profile of the girl who assaulted me a little over a week ago (the one that strapped me down with cable ties at a bar (it wasn't funny and I didn't deserve it). My therapist said that it's perfectly normal for anyone to feel assaulted after that incident. I will now cease to discuss this any further))

she scares me and now I will be in her profile visitor page. I should find a real ugly pic so she won't click on me
:[

http://img121.imageshack.us/img121/3821/chav2.jpg

&^%%^#$%^ this thing is CRUL.

Most of the time, the guys on there are not my type at all - they cant spell, or theyre really not attractive to me, or obvious pervs. And then there is that 10% of OMGWTF awesome guys who you have *everything* in common with and are cute or at least mildly attractive and you send them a message and...nothing. Bah.

I dont need to know that the only guys out there I can find who are single and I have everything in common with still wouldnt give me the time of day :/

hm. At this point, my #1 match is my ex. The one who is my bff. Who I live with.

Maybe I should just stop kidding myself.

Grrrr, being a 40-something divorced parent and doing this is the worst. 40-somethings without kids are always busy doing something (yet do not always understand when divorced parents are busy), while 40-somethings with kids are usually busy with the kids. Once you get past the scheduling issues, you can then move on to other issues!

i have had nothing but disastrous results thus far

i think i'd have better results chatting up randoms at the bar, in all honesty

i've ultimately had nothing but disastrous results for my entire dating life! but i've had a lot of good times between disasters.

the friend of mine who told me back in february that i should sign up on OKC, because that's how he met his gf whom he felt was "the one" - "is now single"

I'm still trying on it (just have to remind myself not to get bothered by it). Just heard about someone who got married who met the gal on fastcupid (not as many people are on that one)

girl off this and I are now totally BFFs, the system works

our parameters aren't exactly strict though. 'intense friendship' is a good description. 'friend with benefits' is an inaccurate description despite appearances to the contrary. but aided by extreme mutual attraction we've flown into the fire twice now and both times the aftermath was more rewarding - moreover she's leaving the country soon. one thing's near-certain - the fire will be returned to, and the conflagration will be hotter than ever before.

*vomits*

this flying-into-the-fire guy

het furnace