― Pete (Pete), Friday, 7 April 2006 14:04 (eighteen years ago) link
― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Friday, 7 April 2006 14:18 (eighteen years ago) link
― Konal Doddz (blueski), Friday, 7 April 2006 14:21 (eighteen years ago) link
― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Friday, 7 April 2006 14:25 (eighteen years ago) link
Scott: Are you gonna get rid of the child?
Dave: No, no, of course not. We're just gonna go one with our lives, but openly and honestly. Thank you.
[Dave, Kevin, and the boy turn and go into the house. As they do, the reporters yell questions and take pictures, and Dave and Kevin mutter replies back.]
Scott: Tommy! A little smile there, Tommy?
Dave: [quietly] C'mon, Tommy.
Kevin: No more photos, please.
Scott: Tommy! Can you smile still, Tommy? Do they treat you well?
Dave: [muttering] Treating him very well.
Scott: Just let me just see the kid, just one little picture.
Kevin: You've had enough.
[Dave, Kevin, and the boy go into the house, closing the storm door behind them. Scott follows them up the steps and squats, peering through the door into the house.]
Scott: Hey c'mon, c'mon, c'mon, hey Tommy? Whoa, what's that, that's just a black and white TV in there! Hey Tommy!
― Jordan (Jordan), Friday, 7 April 2006 14:28 (eighteen years ago) link
― Dadaismus (Dada), Friday, 7 April 2006 14:44 (eighteen years ago) link
― Tim (Tim), Friday, 7 April 2006 14:51 (eighteen years ago) link
― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 7 April 2006 14:53 (eighteen years ago) link
― Tim (Tim), Friday, 7 April 2006 14:58 (eighteen years ago) link
― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 7 April 2006 15:02 (eighteen years ago) link
― Tim (Tim), Friday, 7 April 2006 15:06 (eighteen years ago) link
― Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Friday, 7 April 2006 15:09 (eighteen years ago) link
― Laurel (Laurel), Friday, 7 April 2006 15:09 (eighteen years ago) link
― Tim (Tim), Friday, 7 April 2006 15:13 (eighteen years ago) link
― Konal Doddz (blueski), Friday, 7 April 2006 15:14 (eighteen years ago) link
― Markelby (Mark C), Friday, 7 April 2006 15:16 (eighteen years ago) link
at least until they were thirteen or so, the threat would probably seem pretty plausible.
― Sterling Clover (s_clover), Friday, 7 April 2006 15:23 (eighteen years ago) link
This wasn't really a problem in NY, where none of my friends were baby makers, but now that I live in VA (temporarily) I'm in a much more conservative environment, and I think it is a bit of a mystery to my coworkers now as to why I am not married and making babies. If/when I move back to a large city this will hopefully change.
Also, now I work with a lot of kids and parents and I think the kids are so charming and wonder if I shouldn't embark on my own little vanity project after all. But I like to come home to peace and quiet and I wonder how I could deal with raising a child and being peppy and not cranky. Because I realize how depression in parents easily manifests itself (somewhere down the line) in depression in children. Luckily, there's no sperm donor in the picture so I don't have an opportunity to test my recent musings.
FInally, dealing with my mom's health now makes me think about who will look after me when I get older...and maybe I should have a child as a form of security. But again, this is fear speaking.
So childness for now and for the forseeable future, but not ruling out possible changes of mind, as circumstances permit.
Also very disturbed with why someone would state point-blank that childness women are somehow going against their nature. If you feel that you are not going to be a good mother, or don't have the wherewithal to raise a child, or simply aren't interested in having children, surely it's better to realize that than to blindly go along and have a child for the sake of it?
I also respect those who do have children, whatever their motivations, the delivery process itself seems massive, and all of those minutes and hours and days dedicated to childcare. I wonder how people entertain their children all day? I think I was just put in front of the tv or left with a good book, but I feel like it's important these days to be stimulating baby's brain at every moment.
― Mary (Mary), Saturday, 8 April 2006 02:18 (eighteen years ago) link
Way to generalise!
-- ailsa (ailsa.watso...), April 6th, 2006.
Whoa there, Alisa. You sound a little neurotic
― Abbadavid Berman (Hurting), Saturday, 8 April 2006 03:13 (eighteen years ago) link
For Markelby:
(I'm kind of playing devil's advocate here a bit. I have no *desire* to give birth to a child. I'm not going to rush out and adopt a kid either. If I were to find myself pregnant, it wouldn't be the worst thing in the world. I'm only thinking about the issue right now because this thread is here.) -- ailsa (ailsa.watso...), April 6th, 2006 4:44 PM. (ailsa) (later)
And, as Andrew F pointed out, I wasn't extrapolating to the whole world. Basically, *I* don't have the desire to experience pregnancy, give birth, etc. And I don't really understand this urge in others. I do get that it's there, but without having experienced it, I can't understand how it would drive, for example, Nathalie to question Trayce's decision to not bring another child into the world, given that Trayce is a grown-up intelligent woman who has, presumably, given this matter a bit of thought.
I *do* understand that everything changes when you have a kid (I do have a mother, after all, and she didn't really want kids either, but has managed more than OK). I just don't understand this rampant biological ticking clock stuff. I can't imagine a point ever in my life where I'll go, "oh, what I need now is a baby". I'm 33, I've been happily married for five years. If I was going to do it, now would be as good a time as any. I JUST DON'T WANT TO.
I think I have stuff I could pass on to the next generation (I do "mother" problem teenagers for a living, you know) and I have considered fostering, as it's not so *final* as adopting and having a kid, but it can be... (my big brother was fosterered by us when he was 11, he's now in his late 30s and very much part of the family).
― ailsa (ailsa), Saturday, 8 April 2006 09:13 (eighteen years ago) link
― Markelby (Mark C), Saturday, 8 April 2006 10:40 (eighteen years ago) link
― ailsa (ailsa), Saturday, 8 April 2006 11:39 (eighteen years ago) link
― Konal Doddz (blueski), Saturday, 8 April 2006 11:53 (eighteen years ago) link
― Markelby (Mark C), Saturday, 8 April 2006 12:02 (eighteen years ago) link
Sorry, Mark, you called me a robot (and you know me well enough, I hope, to know that I'm not) so I just wasn't sure. Also because I use "cheers" in a sarky voice more often than not. Thanks :-)
Seconded on Mary's post. Much more eloquent than my ramblings.
― ailsa (ailsa), Saturday, 8 April 2006 15:16 (eighteen years ago) link
― Mary (Mary), Saturday, 8 April 2006 19:26 (eighteen years ago) link
― i'm in for it now, Saturday, 8 April 2006 20:05 (eighteen years ago) link
― accentmonkey (accentmonkey), Sunday, 9 April 2006 08:10 (eighteen years ago) link
If it helps - I have fallen pregnant before. I had an abortion. No regrets. Sorry. Not going to apologise for it.
― Trayce is not a guy! (trayce), Sunday, 9 April 2006 09:54 (eighteen years ago) link
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― typo hell #14: neanderthal started writing it not know how it (Karl Malone), Sunday, 24 October 2021 17:21 (two years ago) link
there is nothing inherently wrong with either group
― sarahell, Sunday, 24 October 2021 19:22 (two years ago) link
i just found out my mom smoked throughout her pregnancy with me. thanks mom!― the man from mars won't eat up bars where the tv's on (Jody Beth Rosen), Thursday, April 6, 2006 11:54 AM (fifteen years ago) bookmarkflaglink
she did look cool tho― Konal Doddz (blueski), Thursday, April 6, 2006 11:55 AM (fifteen years ago) bookmarkflaglink
Hahahaha
― Halfway there but for you, Monday, 25 October 2021 00:20 (two years ago) link
sarahell otm. the thread title sets up a pointless opposition that the OP then blithely ignores in order to make a blandly 'trenchant' observation. bfd.
― more difficult than I look (Aimless), Monday, 25 October 2021 03:35 (two years ago) link