Have you mastered being the Big Spoon?

hah it's really scary - it'll be the middle of the night and my arm will not respond to my brainwaves and it will have no feeling. I'm glad I'm not a blackout drunk (yet) otherwise I'm sure I would have lost a limb by now.

If the *inner* spoon is particularly hourglassy, under the stomach is extremely comfortable and just the best dang ol' time, intimacy-wise.

ass-to-ass w/ hand on her hip is the best compromise I've found

Sometimes I have fallen asleep with hand on her hip or otherwise lightly snuggly, and then she tries to move my hand or roll over or something, and I get really grumbly in my sleep and object and even say aloud, "No!" I don't remember doing these things, but I hear about them later.

I have the same problem - absolutely impossible to sleep spooning, almost as impossible to sleep touching. Does everyone feel like this or are we just a bunch of message board addicts with greater than normal fears of intimacy?

No, I can quite happily fall asleep tucked away as either spoon...

Mind you I wont *stay* that way if the other person moves, but thats sleep for ya.

attention future girlfriends if I will not fall asleep spooning with you its not cause I dont like you I HAVE A CONDITION this thread is proof LOOK AT THE TIMESTAMP

haha

I have no problem being either spoon.

I'd rather be a spork.

Please unpack that for us.

generally comes in easy to rip open plastic wrapper iirc

there's often a napkin included

That's very thoughtful, to include a napkin.

Misread this as Have You Masturbated The Big Spoon?

That's very thoughtful, to include a napkin.

And one that's already folded, to boot.

Basically I don't sleep while touching at all. And every time I fussily arrange my pillows at night and sink gratefully into them, I feel a twinge of guilt that I'm depriving my partner of something sweet and important, that I'm some kind of overly fussy neurotic who can't relax if there's any stimuli. Also if I don't support my feet the right way etc, I wake up with horrible back pain, so this isn't just fussiness on my part.

How sad would you be if yr partner slept like a corpse, with hands folded on stomach, and didn't want to be touched? I wonder how much of a priority I should make it to find a new & better mattress so that maybe I don't have to do this.

I have no problem being either spoon.

― Un peu d'Eire, ça fait toujours Dublin (Michael White), Monday, 30 August 2010 22:07 (Yesterday)

I have to admit I'd find it a bit sad if I couldnt cuddle in bed, L! But then again, one's partner's comfort and health is also important!

If you married someone like that, you might need an arrangement allowing a cuddler on the side.

Mainly tho tbrr it's all about finding a comfortable tangled leg arrangement

Spooning by itself is classic of course, but touching while sleeping is a lie we have all been told - free yourselves!