well, i think timing has a lot to do with it - and maybe you just got over your previous relationship a lot sooner than other people tend to do. i just question the functionality/health of a relationship when at least one of the parties is still contending with the damage from a previous one.
― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:24 (thirteen years ago) link
i did unfavourably compare my new gf with the old one for the first few years, it's true
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:25 (thirteen years ago) link
Lol Nijoli - I met someone i clicked with and didn't go for it.
― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:27 (thirteen years ago) link
i just question the functionality/health of a relationship when at least one of the parties is still contending with the damage from a previous one.
eh i dunno that's something you have to work through yourself and obviously YMMV, but really that's btwn you and yourself, not between you and another person that's right for you.
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:27 (thirteen years ago) link
eh my last post was a joek btw pls dont sb me or anything
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:28 (thirteen years ago) link
i mean "right" is totally contextual - someone can be totally "right" for you when you're both drunk and maudlin at the bar, but when you're both sober, not so right.
― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:39 (thirteen years ago) link
nah that's not 'right' that's 'you'll do c'mere'
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:41 (thirteen years ago) link
right.
― Kelsey Glamour (Nijoli), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:42 (thirteen years ago) link
all i'm saying is don't confuse "you'll do c'mere" with "right"
― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:42 (thirteen years ago) link
and a lot of rebound situations are really just about "you'll do c'mere"
― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:44 (thirteen years ago) link
yeah we're allowing for that in fairness.
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:47 (thirteen years ago) link
just that you have to allow that they're not always 'you'll do c'mere's' either
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:48 (thirteen years ago) link
well, it's often a bit of both, and i think that taints the "rightness" - can it be overcome? Maybe. I don't know.
― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 20:51 (thirteen years ago) link
gf is watching 'the breakup' fyi
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 21:03 (thirteen years ago) link
Hahah well this thread went in an interesting direction while I was asleep =)
I'm not sure I even wanna sleep with anyone right now tbh, just lookin fwd to fun times finding out stuff about a new(ish) person. There's totally other guys Id'd crack onto/sleep with as well if I could but I'm not sure they are/would be interested (if I could dare ever let on I was! Thats the bit I hate...sigh).
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 21:05 (thirteen years ago) link
...sometimes, in my bleaker moments, I wonder if R settled with me because I was there for him, and he couldnt have the person/type he really wanted. I wasnt quite it, but I was good enough, and we were good friends.
The minute someone came along who fitted his needs/wants to a tee, he basically didnt hesitate to drop everything and run to her.
Sure makes me feel special :(
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 21:07 (thirteen years ago) link
just lookin fwd to fun times finding out stuff about a new(ish) person.
that's a good attitude to have - you're an awesome person, and there are a lot of other awesome, interesting, fun people out there, and your ex-bf is a statistically insignificant percentage of that number.
― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 21:09 (thirteen years ago) link
now we're talkin
― ...Funtown. (roxymuzak), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 21:32 (thirteen years ago) link
giving credit where credit is due -- i was merely paraphrasing a much more eloquent estela post from another thread.
― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 21:33 (thirteen years ago) link
i dunno if "the right serious relationship" is possible that soon after a major breakup― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Wednesday, June 9, 2010 8:16 PM (1 hour ago)
― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Wednesday, June 9, 2010 8:16 PM (1 hour ago)
it def can be, my upcoming gettin hitched is based on a situation that came out of those circumstances
― apparently not the band, but the lifestyle (jjjusten), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 21:41 (thirteen years ago) link
way to up the ante mayne, we're tryna manage expectations in the breakup room if you hadn't noticed.
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 23:51 (thirteen years ago) link
fair enough, have also gotten stuck in crap relationships due to over-exuberant rebounding
― apparently not the band, but the lifestyle (jjjusten), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 23:54 (thirteen years ago) link
You know, now its the morning, I am even more irritated with what my so-called best friend said to me y'day about this minor, silly passing crush. I wish I'd not said anything now, because he went on a rant about "we need to talk, this is a patter, you have a shit record with this" and now I'm like dude, what in the FUCK? I sit around lonely, isolated and moping and everyone tells me to get off my butt and get out and have fun.
So I get off my butt, get out and meet some awesome people, and admit I might like one of em a little bit. And now I'm "on a roundabout" and "a pattern" and other negative castigations.
With friends like these, etc. They're really overthinking what I'm doing here, surely? I hardly wanna DATE anyone!
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 23:56 (thirteen years ago) link
this is a pattern, that should read above.
dr. me says "do whatever the fuck you want to do"
― apparently not the band, but the lifestyle (jjjusten), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 23:57 (thirteen years ago) link
Trayce, is the best friend a woman or a guy?
― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 23:58 (thirteen years ago) link
i mean that in a totally empowering way, not a not giving a shit way, to clarify. xpostt
― apparently not the band, but the lifestyle (jjjusten), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 23:58 (thirteen years ago) link
yeah trayce ppl have probably given you enough "advice" at this point--i think you know what you want to be doing
― call all destroyer, Thursday, 10 June 2010 00:00 (thirteen years ago) link
if the dude's good people and you're good people then throw him a gday bounce imo and yknow ur friend'll get over the rejection of the intervention
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Thursday, 10 June 2010 00:00 (thirteen years ago) link
sara: a guy, and he is ALWAYS REALLY NEGATIVE about everything, I do love him dearly but god he can be a pain in the ass sometimes.
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Thursday, 10 June 2010 00:10 (thirteen years ago) link
Trayce, does this guy have a crush on you (your best friend that is)?
― C.H.U.D.D.Y. Chasers (sarahel), Thursday, 10 June 2010 00:11 (thirteen years ago) link
Oh god no, he's married :) we're just like naggy brother and sister rly.
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Thursday, 10 June 2010 00:13 (thirteen years ago) link
"this is a pattern, you have a shit record with this"
otm tbf but wth
― on some kinda serial killer ish (sic), Thursday, 10 June 2010 00:38 (thirteen years ago) link
Yeah sure, I can dig his observation and agree with it, but god, just be happy for me getting on with my life for once, dude jeez.
My ex, N? He was the first to jump in and say "good on you! Go for it, have some fun, you deserve it!". Bless him. I let a good one go, there :/
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Thursday, 10 June 2010 00:41 (thirteen years ago) link
Crushdude just rang me at work mid=afternoon while "between meetings" to ask me for a coffee (which sadly I had to decline as I'm flat out)
This guy is doing some srs "hey Im interested" legwork here isnt he?
I'm not used to this haha.
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Thursday, 10 June 2010 05:18 (thirteen years ago) link
'gday bounce' OMG
― no more springs no more summers no more falls (sunny successor), Friday, 11 June 2010 00:55 (thirteen years ago) link
I feel stupid for not being able to work out wth kind of euphemism that is.
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Friday, 11 June 2010 01:00 (thirteen years ago) link
australian tigger
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Friday, 11 June 2010 01:01 (thirteen years ago) link
BTW aforementioned dude is totes interested in me, as I found out last night.
Ah still got it *struts*.
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Friday, 11 June 2010 01:03 (thirteen years ago) link
With Trayce's moniker on the page, I misread this title as thread to get over a handjob.
― mandatory seersucker (Eazy), Friday, 11 June 2010 03:41 (thirteen years ago) link
Yay Trayce, you go girl!
― Tuomas, Friday, 11 June 2010 06:47 (thirteen years ago) link
Went on date last night (well, with other friends), everyone got well trashed, then eventually had the place to ourselves.
Yeah, that was a very successful evening <3 Recovery time is now.
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Saturday, 12 June 2010 07:23 (thirteen years ago) link
daaaaammmmmnnnn
fucking awe3some
― before you post, consider just admitting you are wrong (jjjusten), Saturday, 12 June 2010 07:26 (thirteen years ago) link
Iknowrite? It really has helped me get past everything. Not saying I'd get involved with this guy, but life is fun again for a change.
Ow my liver, tho.
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Saturday, 12 June 2010 07:34 (thirteen years ago) link
Bingobango! Congrats, Trayce!
― Fetchboy, Saturday, 12 June 2010 11:05 (thirteen years ago) link
:D
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Saturday, 12 June 2010 11:16 (thirteen years ago) link
Did you disrespect his property?
― kkvgz, Saturday, 12 June 2010 11:31 (thirteen years ago) link
Properly?
Bwahaha.
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Saturday, 12 June 2010 11:35 (thirteen years ago) link
feel so sad. :\ miss her.
― not everything is a campfire (ian), Sunday, 11 July 2010 02:07 (thirteen years ago) link