ban em all, let mod sort em out
― forksclovetofu, Monday, 17 May 2010 19:57 (thirteen years ago) link
^free username btw
no thx
― ban em all, let mod sort em out (ksh), Monday, 17 May 2010 20:23 (thirteen years ago) link
already been used iirc
― J0rdan S., Monday, 17 May 2010 20:24 (thirteen years ago) link
btw ban l0u1s jagg3r ftr
GOD MOVE OUT ALREADY YOU LITTLE SHIT *&%^^$%#%$#
― demiurge overkill (Trayce), Sunday, 23 May 2010 23:29 (thirteen years ago) link
Jesus Christ! This fucker has overstayed by far too long.
― frozen cookie (Abbott), Monday, 24 May 2010 00:04 (thirteen years ago) link
Most of the time he's not around, so thats not the prob - its more that poor Nick is waiting, not knowing when he can give notice on *his* old place so he can move in.
LOL i must have cursed the gods right tho cos about 15 mins after that last post R txted me to tell me he got a flat. So there you go.
This whole situation has made me lose all faith in the goodness of anyone, if one of the sweetest and kindest guys Ive ever known can become such a passive, useless, sneaky prat.
― demiurge overkill (Trayce), Monday, 24 May 2010 00:43 (thirteen years ago) link
'people save their worst till last,' someone said to me once and i think she was right.
― estela, Monday, 24 May 2010 00:58 (thirteen years ago) link
Alas even I have been guilty of said :(
― demiurge overkill (Trayce), Monday, 24 May 2010 01:12 (thirteen years ago) link
every time you say that vanessa williams breaks a fingernail
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Monday, 24 May 2010 09:10 (thirteen years ago) link
lol, aw
― peacocks, Monday, 24 May 2010 14:00 (thirteen years ago) link
I still feel like a damn fool
― dud rock (crüt), Saturday, 29 May 2010 07:25 (thirteen years ago) link
I don't know how to get over a break-up, I have always chain-smoked and hated myself. Perhaps that's redundant.
― the soul of the avocado escapes as soon as you open it (Laurel), Sunday, 30 May 2010 04:12 (thirteen years ago) link
sucks when you are watching this unfold and people try to make it last past the worst.
― tehresa, Sunday, 30 May 2010 04:22 (thirteen years ago) link
Yeah :(
Also Laurel otm :(
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Sunday, 30 May 2010 05:28 (thirteen years ago) link
I should say, Trayce, that I don't know how the "getting over" happens, but it does. There was a time when I started crying before I got out of bed in the morning and didn't stop until I fell asleep again, and I didn't care who saw me. It was the only thing I had inside, and it had to come out, public embarrassment didn't mean anything compared to the sadness. But one Saturday morning the sunlight looked a certain way and I watered my basil and made some tea or something and realized I was done grieving for the dead relationship. It still made me sad but it was like it had happened to someone else, or 5 years ago -- the immediacy was gone. And that's how it is, at least for me.
― the soul of the avocado escapes as soon as you open it (Laurel), Tuesday, 1 June 2010 14:04 (thirteen years ago) link
Actually I just remembered what happened and I know I've told this story before: I went to a family bbq with some friends and hung out with the host's kids. I think the kids cured me.
― the soul of the avocado escapes as soon as you open it (Laurel), Tuesday, 1 June 2010 14:05 (thirteen years ago) link
Yep. You told that story last summer to give me some hope when I was going through a rough spot and you know what? It did help. :D
― Aqua Backrat (ENBB), Tuesday, 1 June 2010 14:07 (thirteen years ago) link
Yeah! The morning after the bbq I sat on my fire escape and just looked at stuff, and it all looked different. It will happen, Trayce. But getting the cancer OUT of your life and OUT OF YOUR HOME would be the first step, yes? Just guessing.
― the soul of the avocado escapes as soon as you open it (Laurel), Tuesday, 1 June 2010 15:14 (thirteen years ago) link
Yeah, during my last heartbreak I made a habit of babysitting for a good friend and that little bastard did all sorts of wonders to raise my spirits. And I don't even like kids.
― Fetchboy, Tuesday, 1 June 2010 19:38 (thirteen years ago) link
Unless of course one of the stated reasons why your ex broke up with you was because they thought you "would make a bad parent" in which case, being around other people's children is like being stabbed repeatedly through the heart with a glass shard...
― just saying like, Wednesday, 2 June 2010 16:33 (thirteen years ago) link
or if they never wanted kids...
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 2 June 2010 16:39 (thirteen years ago) link
And I don't even like kids.
what a weird thing to say. whats to hate?
― no more springs no more summers no more falls (sunny successor), Thursday, 3 June 2010 03:21 (thirteen years ago) link
lawyers have a saying: in criminal law you see bad people acting their best; in divorce law you see good people acting their worst. an overgeneralization, but there's some truth to it.
i would never practice family law. it's too heart-wrenching.
― Daniel, Esq., Thursday, 3 June 2010 03:24 (thirteen years ago) link
I said "don't like", not "hate". I have very little patience for hissy fits and absolutely zero interest in changing diapers. Luckily this kid was potty trained and well-behaved while I was around.
― Fetchboy, Thursday, 3 June 2010 07:44 (thirteen years ago) link
Children are of no use to anybody but their parents until they're able to have a conversation.
― Grisly Addams (WmC), Thursday, 3 June 2010 13:29 (thirteen years ago) link
um nobody likes children xcept for their parents iirc
― plax (ico), Thursday, 3 June 2010 20:12 (thirteen years ago) link
but theyre so pure and you can totally fuck with their minds. honestly ive never met an adult who has anything to say that comes even close to as interesting as a 2-5 year old does.
― no more springs no more summers no more falls (sunny successor), Friday, 4 June 2010 04:32 (thirteen years ago) link
Laurel - thanks, yeah I do feel like I am starting to come out the other side of this, finally. R is technically not living with me anymore (as in, he hasnt stayed in the house for about a week now) and just has to move the last of his few things out. I dont mind that - we're still friendly to each other, there's no major animosity in the immediate sense.
But every time I see him I just start crying. Even though the rest of the time I am fine.
And don't get me started on the new bitch. The very sight of her name makes me tense up and want to slap a ho. Unfair perhaps, but kneejerk.
Still - tonight, I shall gather myself together, meet up with dear N (he has been a rock to me) and go out to a bar/club and hang out with my homies. And have Fun, Dammit.
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Friday, 4 June 2010 04:58 (thirteen years ago) link
Kinda feel like you need to get really mad at this guy
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Friday, 4 June 2010 08:57 (thirteen years ago) link
Yeah, you should be way more pissed at him than you are at her.
― Fetchboy, Friday, 4 June 2010 10:43 (thirteen years ago) link
Perhaps. But as the Wedding Present once sang, "why didn't you just say no?".
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Friday, 4 June 2010 10:55 (thirteen years ago) link
(that applies to them both, obv).
applies to him a lot more, imo.
But in any case she's not responsible for his shitty behaviour since day one of this.
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Friday, 4 June 2010 10:56 (thirteen years ago) link
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Friday, June 4, 2010 1:57 AM (12 hours ago)
give her time
― sarahel, Friday, 4 June 2010 21:13 (thirteen years ago) link
well hello
― plax (ico), Friday, 4 June 2010 21:56 (thirteen years ago) link
i've just started thinking about dealing with breakups of ltr's like dealing with being sick. It's hard because i'm a horrible invalid - i get too impatient about wanting to get "well" already, and then i end up being sicker longer because i try and go about my life as if i'm perfectly healthy.
― sarahel, Friday, 4 June 2010 22:00 (thirteen years ago) link
thread to get over a breakup (with ILX)
― BUT IT WOULD BE A CHALLOP TO BAN JOHN JUSTEN (acoleuthic), Friday, 4 June 2010 22:01 (thirteen years ago) link
oops I need to change my DN
― BUT IT WOULD BE A CHALLOP TO SUGGEST BAN SARAHEL (acoleuthic), Friday, 4 June 2010 22:02 (thirteen years ago) link
Trayce just out of curiosity when this happened with you and N and R did N want to slap a ho? Were they friends beforehand and then stop being friends? Seriously not being all YOU DID THE SAME THING (because ive done it myself yo) just curious how guys react.
― no more springs no more summers no more falls (sunny successor), Friday, 4 June 2010 22:19 (thirteen years ago) link
and by Ho I dont mean you, I mean R
Heheh no its a fair question - but it shuld be pointed out N and I didnt break up because of R, it was because of someone else, and I have to be honest the reason that didnt turn into a massive drama is entirely N's doing. He just accepted our time was done, ended things, moved out and we remained friends. He never begrudged me gettin' with R, even though he could have (its complicated and I wont go into it on here).
Its easy to say that makes me a hypocrite. but its more that I now realise how much I put N through, and tbh that just made me feel even worse :/
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Saturday, 5 June 2010 10:18 (thirteen years ago) link
And yeah N and R get on fine. And frankly. I dont know how N does it. Esp now - he could be dancing with schadenfreude about all this gleefully in my face. Instead, he offers to move back in with me.
Guy is damn Ghandi.
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Saturday, 5 June 2010 10:19 (thirteen years ago) link
Ugh sorry if that was a muddled explanation, I'm all post-hangover and car prang fogbrain.
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Saturday, 5 June 2010 10:20 (thirteen years ago) link
So I caught up with a random acquaintace last week at said lost-beret clubbing and since then he's added me to LJ and FB, and has been emailing me heaps and we're having a ball, and now we're planning drinks on friday and he's burning a DVD of Millenium to watch at my place after.
Guy is interested in me Y/N?
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 11:10 (thirteen years ago) link
Y
(ffs)!
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 11:18 (thirteen years ago) link
Friday night drinks and an excuse to go to your place afterwards? Have you discussed plans for who's cooking breakfast Saturday morning?
― Fetchboy, Wednesday, 9 June 2010 11:24 (thirteen years ago) link
LOL oh gawd.
All my close friends are like ITS TOO SOON FFS DONT DO ThIS YOU MORON YOU HAVE A SHIT TRACK RECORD WITH SHAGS.
:(
Just wanna have some confidence back!
― property-disrespecting Moroccan handjob (Trayce), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 11:35 (thirteen years ago) link
If shagging is mandatory after a movie then I've been missing out on my due for a looooong time
― May be half naked, but knows a good headline when he sees it (darraghmac), Wednesday, 9 June 2010 11:43 (thirteen years ago) link