Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Date rematch today with guy I failed to meet the other week.

my ex-that-i-met-on-there keeps popping up on my homepage - but it's cool - she writes good journal posts

also good luck ljubljana! or at least, make sure this episode of the OKCdyssey winds up one of the more entertaining ones...

Jesus, stood up a second time! Well, not really. I guess we left it casual and he had a legit work reason (involved with the immigration march on DC today). The bizarre thing is, my texts don't arrive with him and his don't arrive with me.

oh no! are you sure your texts don't arrive with him? it is not beyond some people to dick about with others. although if he's on a protest march he MUST be a good, conscientious fella eh?

recommend you affirm text status asap before proceeding, but you probably knew that already

Yeah - not sure how it can be affirmed, though, other than meeting him and trying it out on the spot. Not gonna push this one, up to him...

poor fella doesn't know what he's missing u_u

Call me paranoid but "oh i sent you a txt and i'm not getting yours" sounds like a bit of a porky to me :/

im limited e, if texts don't arrive it's because someone doesn't want them to arrive

yeah, it's a little hard to believe. His general vibe is good though, so he gets the benefit of the doubt.

Everyone always gets the benefit of the doubt. This is probably a bad thing.

Mind you, last year I had a 'voicemail message arrived 3 weeks later' experience, and that sure as hell was for real, and had serious consequences beyond arsing around with online dating.

Stupid technology.

I want to edit all the profiles and change the three descriptors to 'taking' 'myself' 'too seriously'.

haaaaaaaaaa americans amirite

I'm a opponent of knee-jerk UK antiamericanism and my last two thangs have been with Americans but... yes :-(

my housemate and I have the same provider and sometimes get txts three hours late

and a friend of mine can send me texts but never receive them from me

be cautious but not paranoid imo

I remember some funny story (I probably read on ILX) where a guy went backtracking in Europe and his GF forgot. Anyways, the story was basically reading the messages she sent him which begin harmless enough and then she starts getting angry and then she says she dumps him for not answering her and then she says she wants him back and then she changes her mind and sleeps with his friend. Dude comes back home from his trip and gets all the messages... hilarious. Anyone got a link?

Backtracking? Nice freudian.

It's on YouTube:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qg-heCy0CbQ

my ex-that-i-met-on-there keeps popping up on my homepage - but it's cool - she writes good journal posts

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looool as of y/day evening she has officially won the race to get back into a relationship

Received v apologetic email ...

well I should hope so!

btw I'm convinced that meeting girls in real life is prob more my speed than meeting girls on OKC, I'm doing much better out of the former atm with one rather terribly nice girl

that stuff about the texts not arriving is some lying-ass bullshit imo

delivery reports are your friend. or an additional source of paranoia, depending.

If you're giving him another chance I say try calling and not texting although you might get the claim as you noted about not seeing the call or getting the voicemail.

i seriously cannot believe that people actually make pathetic, insane-o excuses like "i guess the text just didn't get to you". email getting stuck in spam folder MAYBE but texts do not just fricking disappear. sometimes they can take an hour or two to arrive. this will happen maybe once a year to a person. not twice in a row. maybe this boy has some kind of electromagnetic force-field around him, the result of a childhood radiation accident, that causes texts to not arrive or get sent. disrupto-boy! just when the villain is texting instructions to his henchmen, disrupto-boy arrives! hahaha! foiled again!

i remember when i lived with my parents, boys would "forget" my phone number all the time -- i found this perplexing because i had written it down, and it was in the phone book. additionally, the number was xxx-1234. and this many people just forgot? i believed it for a long time, but looking back, there's just no way.

don't mean to be a bummer, but i'm just saying you deserve better treatment than this. twice!

yeah balls in his court now, if he has the balls. don't put up with this bullshit

he does not have the balls, i guarantee you

I guess we left it casual

I do not think you should leave it "casual" next time. Agree to a specific time and place.

fwiw i get bad reception at home and at office and my txt (and vmail) situation is mad flaky. can be off by hours and some of mine don't end up going out at all.

so presumably you don't rely on it to convey time-sensitive information!

I do try not to, though obv it doesn't always work out that way. i've certainly missed important txts I was watching for. c'est la vie moderne in a big city with poor cell coverage and lots of bandwidth-hogging iphones on the network.

I actually legit have texts not go through all the time. Fucking AT&T. Or I'll get them like, 7 days late.

Anyway just act really fucking aloof men love it

women love it too, for that matter

see: girl advice thread on crutisborad for more questions

Yeah I have trouble with sending texts to certain phones too, although it's not that often.

my point is that if you know that about your phone, you will not rely on texts to cancel a date with someone. you will make an effort. and if you don't know that about your phone then.. uh..?

So, on my way now to meet this miscreant / victim of phone service. I am late, and this is a good thing.

slap him hard in the face, turn and leave. if he calls you tomorrow, he's a keeper

;)

Hahaha, sadly that's prob about right

Be sure to text him that you're running late.

Text him to say you'd been standing there for half an hour and didn't see him, and had gone home. If he's still there when you arrive, slap him hard across the face and spit on his shoes. He should follow you to your door.

Well, that was a pleasant enough evening with absolutely no spark whatsoever.

^^ shd be new thread subtitle imo

esp now that the WOO! is no more

hahahaha agreed

maybe start new board I Love Dating with that as description

Sorry to put a spanner in the works, but my Blake/Mahler-initiated relationship seems to be going rather swimmingly!

I've totally jinxed it now, of course.

I Love 'Bating morelike

also well played maestro - maybe take her up the Bach next week?