Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Seriously, what does one write in an initial message on these things? I'm finding this very hard.

um a one-line witty comment that engages something in their profile? generally my choice, although i'm really not using okc or at least initiating message exchanges much at all atm

I set up an account a couple of days ago, half to try and break myself out of the miserable rut I've been in for the last five years and half so I can goof off answering questions on my ipod during slow periods at work. So far my matches have either been amazing people seemingly selected to throw my own failure as a human being into even starker relief or people with inexplicably high "match" percentages with whom I have nothing in common. OK, well, that's a lie, there have been a couple of crazy-eyes "back slowly away, do not let them smell your fear" types, but those are easily avoided.

Definitely got me out of a funk a few months ago, went on a few nice dates that didn't go anywhere, but now I seem to have had some sort of interaction with everyone in this smallish city who is both interesting to me and on okcupid, so now it's just kind of depressing.

i think i might send this lady i am apparently very compatible with who gave me a high rating a link to the stevie nicks wild heart backstage video because that is important 2 me.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=4DkGa0JNVE0

If I can meet even one date that doesn't go anywhere it will be a huge improvement on my situation as it is. It's been a year since I moved here and I have no friends, shit sucks pretty bad right now.

ian before u do that maybe save it for when you really think she ~might be the one~

every ilx thread should be all wild heart all the time tbh

i am just sayin that when we all have ipads you should embed wild heart in one and then when shes all "omg this is wonderful i love you" you can turn on the hologram feature and show her super detailed close-ups of the ring that you then give her which is a ring made out of vinyl, with laser etchings that play wild heart if you were to play it on a super custom sideways record player (which you bought for yourself anyway)

actually, scratch that, the ring should probably play 'tusk'

face down ass up

i am pretty sure that "even one date that doesn't go anywhere" is achievable. things can only go up from here!

You'd think so, anyway.

if i do do this i am totally lying about my age, haha, but srsly i am

the rest will be absolute truth tho rite

don't lie about your age! why would do you that???

Haha I really wouldn't, if only bc I wld feel like a hypocrite. Truth is kinda key to it all really! Ideally...
Just that all new-ish people I meet are incredulous abt me being 35. I mean we do judge by age. But hell, I AM that age! You don't just do 35 years on the planet and then pretend as if you haven't. Ok I feel better now thx ian :)

ageist

xp

how old are you ian?

I am 38 and most of my 'visitors' are either about 27 or about 48...

rrrobyn, speaking as someone who serially dates older women who are often incredulous abt me being 25, i feel where yer coming from, but... i'm not gonna start saying i'm 30 just to get chix. xp

just make me some beef chili between dates, thx

bill i am not going to continue to discuss my dating decisions with you if you continue to be so snarky, and also because i don't think i've since i've known you you've been in any kind of happy relationship.

sorry that was incomprehensible but you get it!

I think I'm just generally freaked by the whole online dating thing and should first try just smiling at more people while out in the world and at events etc.

chill dude

a) we all agree that you are awesome

b) also we want chili

i will make some chili.
but no vegetarians allowed, fuck being accommodating to disgusting savages imo. ;) ;) ;)

sorry pal, i wasn't trying to be snarky.

i've never been in any kind of happy "relationship." i'm not really that kind of guy. the same person in one's life day after day... hmmmmm. not really necessary, is it?

I'm 38 and a lot of my visitors have been in their 50s :/ *shudder* one lives in my *suburb* too and I'm terrified he'll recognise me in the street uuuughhh .

i feel like i know a lot more single (straight) women than (straight) men -- could be an east coast usa thing?

wait trayce aren't u involved with robots

Yeah I am - as I said upthread I'm only on OKC for the quizzes - have had an account on it since like 2004, I didnt even know it was a daeting site when I joined and then I forgot all about it for like 2 years.

Also my profile makes it v clear I'm taken, not looking, not interested; doesnt stop ppl :/

^^^hey baby

Take her, dude

apparently I never told ian that I have "To love oneself is the beginning of a life-long romance" tattooed on my ass.

somehow this thread got me 2 messages from cute ladies. :) they have kids :/

... burn

pretty sure i just found a friend of my old roomate's on here. we're 92% matched. o_o

girl i had a bad date with just sent me an im on this thing?!?!? you can im on this thing???

You have all the luck ian, whatever you're doing keep it up.

yah same guy tried to im me everytime i fell asleep listening to music with this logged in

found the iming thing pretty annoying myself - i got more ims than messages, they'd generally just say "hi," then i'd have to go find the person's profile to see if i wanted to bother starting a conversation and whether we might have something to talk about. if i didn't respond people would just continue writing "hi" and "you there?" basically, it was people's way of starting boring small talky conversations, but i think messaging where you have to think of something, anything to say makes a way better first impression.

I think I'm just generally freaked by the whole online dating thing and should first try just smiling at more people while out in the world and at events etc.

― mind crystals over matter (rrrobyn), Friday, 26 February 2010 05:40 (7 hours ago)

i decided this and met someone at a BAR. this is still hilarious to me because it is v. out of character but whatever not complaining! the thing is it's way more dependent on luck, and i think online dating is more dependent on just putting in the time.

I think the "hi" people are spambots

I just made an account for some damn reason. I don't have money for rent or groceries, let alone dating, but damn it I'm lonely and desperate.

I seriously until now thought people on ILX were using OKC as an abbreviation for Oklahomah City.

Honestly, the people near me aren't anybody I would want to pursue like many people said up thread,

why, did any straight females from your area post upthread?

egh, i'm about ready to give up on this thing

me too.