― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 14 October 2002 16:43 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Sterling Clover (s_clover), Monday, 14 October 2002 16:44 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 14 October 2002 16:49 (twenty-one years ago) link
― s trife (simon_tr), Monday, 14 October 2002 16:56 (twenty-one years ago) link
If a person uses it in conversation with me it depends again. If they're not black, well, firm request and if they don't stop or seem to relish it I usually stop talking to them but this happens rarely. If they're black, as I said, most black people who use the word still often don't do it talking to people who aren't, and hardly anybody really minds of I ask 'em not to. I mean it's a respect thing. If I respect you, I don't wanna hear language that disrespects yourself. (er, grammar allowing for clarity of thought there). & if you respect me, you're just sensitive to that whether or not I go through a whole round of argument with you on the generalities of it.
Also two days ago I was driving with my girlfriend and her little sister (13) who allovasudden starts quoting Busta Rhymes lyrics and uses the word and we both just got sort of shocked and gave her a talking to. The thing that she knows better than to ever use the word to refer to herself, but she doesn't quite get what it means in a broader social context, just that it's somehow "forbidden". She's also got a nearly completely white group of friends and is in somewhat of a bubble as to what it means to be black beyond a suburban jr. high.
I don't know the point of that story.
― Sterling Clover (s_clover), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:15 (twenty-one years ago) link
― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:16 (twenty-one years ago) link
― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:24 (twenty-one years ago) link
― s trife (simon_tr), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:25 (twenty-one years ago) link
i mean, is it primarily because you would fear for your safety or because you would fear offending somebody?
― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:30 (twenty-one years ago) link
Do you use it, though?
― Jody Beth Rosen, Monday, 14 October 2002 17:33 (twenty-one years ago) link
I mean like that's like if I say "I'm gonna kill you" and you say "man, stop threatening me" and I'm all like "no way, if I meant it I would have said 'going to' instead of 'gonna' because the two are completely different"
haha graham to thread!
― Sterling Clover (s_clover), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:35 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:38 (twenty-one years ago) link
gah sterling got in while i was posting, one moment dude!!
― s trife (simon_tr), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:40 (twenty-one years ago) link
is it because there's still work to do? i mean, do we need oprah to start referring to martha stewart as "my nigga" before this wonderful utopian cleansing can begin? and if she did, and the word became as ordinary and as torpid as "lampshade", would that be a good thing?
― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:40 (twenty-one years ago) link
― geeta (geeta), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:46 (twenty-one years ago) link
― s trife (simon_tr), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:47 (twenty-one years ago) link
U+K! U+K! U+K! U+K!
― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:50 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Jody Beth Rosen, Monday, 14 October 2002 17:51 (twenty-one years ago) link
― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:51 (twenty-one years ago) link
heh. i totally don't get it.
― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:52 (twenty-one years ago) link
what "good" qualities might n-a with an "a" signify, simon?
― Sterling Clover (s_clover), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:53 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:56 (twenty-one years ago) link
sterl you know what nigga with an a means, you listen to rap, do you really not 'get' it every time its mentioned? its my crew, i love my niggas, thats all there is, sometimes ill talk about some nigga im impressed by, 'that nigga beat me at street fighter twelve times!!', its a term of love and respect, and ill bet anything vice dudes were saying nigga, theres a pretty long history of totally square news herbs not knowing theres such a word and transcribing it as nigger instead
― s trife (simon_tr), Monday, 14 October 2002 17:56 (twenty-one years ago) link
GM: "Well, at least they’re not fucking niggers or Puerto Ricans. At least they’re white."
(Yeah, real affectionate.)
― Jody Beth Rosen, Monday, 14 October 2002 18:05 (twenty-one years ago) link
― s trife (simon_tr), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:07 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Jody Beth Rosen, Monday, 14 October 2002 18:08 (twenty-one years ago) link
― geeta (geeta), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:09 (twenty-one years ago) link
― totally square news herb (geeta), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:15 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Andy K (Andy K), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:17 (twenty-one years ago) link
but it was a really good quote!!
― geeta (geeta), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:17 (twenty-one years ago) link
― s trife (simon_tr), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:19 (twenty-one years ago) link
― boxcubed (boxcubed), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:22 (twenty-one years ago) link
come back, simon!!
― geeta (geeta), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:23 (twenty-one years ago) link
I use it too, out of habit. I guess it's offensive, but this country doesn't really have a long and rich tradition of Retard Persecution, so it's not quite as bad as any of the other loaded words.
― Jody Beth Rosen, Monday, 14 October 2002 18:24 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Sterling Clover (s_clover), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:25 (twenty-one years ago) link
It's not like you ever pick up on when I'm being sarcastic, but whatev.
― Jody Beth Rosen, Monday, 14 October 2002 18:28 (twenty-one years ago) link
or is it that it's more easily co-opted because they're not able to defend themselves?
― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:34 (twenty-one years ago) link
That's true too -- although there are varying degrees of retardation. Some "retards" are normal, functional people; some of them have fairly decent cognitive skills and might very well understand what "retard" means. But there isn't much they can do to stop the epithet from being used.
― Jody Beth Rosen, Monday, 14 October 2002 18:40 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Tom (Groke), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:44 (twenty-one years ago) link
jbr, if we accept that this word is commonly used b/c the ramifications are far less severe than if we were to use, for example, the n word with similar abandon, i think we could probably draw some ugly conclusions about society in general...
― mark p (Mark P), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:48 (twenty-one years ago) link
Apparantly they should get their arty friends to publish articles in a magazine that make reference to their retard friends.
― Dan Perry (Dan Perry), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:49 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Tracer Hand (tracerhand), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:53 (twenty-one years ago) link
― Jody Beth Rosen, Monday, 14 October 2002 18:58 (twenty-one years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Monday, 14 October 2002 18:59 (twenty-one years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Monday, 14 October 2002 19:01 (twenty-one years ago) link
Vice makes me laugh, which is more than most things do these days.
― geeta (geeta), Monday, 14 October 2002 19:03 (twenty-one years ago) link
I 'love' a white guy living in Japan telling black guys in New York that they're wrong to object to these white guys using the word 'nigger' and trying to act like the black men are being patronising! Hilarious irony!
My best gay friend likes and uses the word faggot, but the wrong person uses it the wrong way, in the wrong tone, he's liable to break them in half.
― Martin Skidmore (Martin Skidmore), Monday, 14 October 2002 19:04 (twenty-one years ago) link
― jess (dubplatestyle), Monday, 14 October 2002 19:05 (twenty-one years ago) link
― geeta (geeta), Monday, 14 October 2002 19:05 (twenty-one years ago) link
― geeta (geeta), Monday, 14 October 2002 19:06 (twenty-one years ago) link