thread to get over a breakup

is this someone you're thinking about breaking up with? Broke up with?

I was just responding to "people who don't have any friends except the people sleep/have-slept with" and offering barroom science.

i don't know any people like that, i don't think.

Because they don't have any friends, sarah.

oh right! But maybe they post on ilx?

XD

i was specifically referring to a man, iirc

Hi guys, longtime reader, first time caller.

sorry : (

i've been spending the last few months trying not to breakup

I fell off the ex-sex wagon this week.

The next night she promptly got wasted and texted me talking some minor shit and reminded me why I dumped her lol.

as in you had it, or you stopped having it?

Had it.

Don't beat yourself up over it. Just don't do it again if it made you feel really horrible.

Oh, no, no guilt or horror. Our sex life was always great, I just didn't like her that much outside of the bedroom at the end. I told her up front that even in the event we continue sexing while we're both single, that's all it would ever be.

do it again until it makes you feel horrible

given that her entire family was with her i think yr tactics are not indefensible. also, it's fun to have a little self-made adventure now and then.

Unless she's going to start screaming at you in the middle of the restaurant, seems pretty unnecessary. (by pretty, I mean completely)

shouldn't judge a hoos imho. these situations are like panic stations all around.

A+++++++ post :D

geez sorry hoos

:-(

damn homie

sorry hoos

Man, I would think doing anything other than acknowledging she was there would give her power, hoos! I really just ignore or give a polite nod to my ex's presence/friends/family if they're near me. I mean, unless you're in a situation that directly requires you to force a positive/negative interaction, then... they're just other people who happen to be in your vicinity.

OTOH, my ex was in some online poll my friends told me about after a week after it started and let me know they'd been voting against her for a couple days. We had some jokes about fixing it, then I went on with my life. Really, I think other people worry about that shit more than I do, although I appreciate it.

Oh yeah, update:

My friends let me know the chick I broke up with in epic burnout fashion last year is still unemployed, lives in her overpriced condo, and has now adopted a dog in addition to her two cats! She also was doing some random traveling for a bit. I am guessing either her overly kind parents are doing some serious bankrolling. Glad it's not me.

hi hoos' exes!

also wtg dude :(

pretty sure mh's ex has a sweet life

I hope for a Hoos's heart to heal with ease. *non-tangible hug*

sorry to hear about the breakup BHakaTSD. be well.

dag exes reading is always a fear of mine.

co-signed what Daniel said.

sup exes of the world

saw the dude i started this thread about out last night and we talked a bit. he told me he wasn't doing or accomplishing anything except musical stuff. i told him that that counts. he was nice, asked me what i thought about his band and told me he always valued my opinions about "things"

"oh i can point you to some other opinions about you online if you like?"

Crazy-ass ex got banned from the bar we'd always go to! My life just got even easier.

my dumb ex just saw me on the street next to my newly obtained car and actually asked if i would drive him out of state on a vacation so he could shop for records and do fun things.

wtf? drive yourself. oh, wait. you sold your car for booze money. lolz.

man sorry to hear bout that hoos

^haha, i read this as meaning that nij's ex was hoos, and you were sorry to hear he sold his car for booze $ lol

aw, poor hoos selling his car for booze.

BIG BOOZE aka the nolongeradriver

Carnt you get one of those Brazilian cars that runs on the alcohol? Then you get a car AND booze!

Hello, thread. Didn't think I'd be seeing you.

Bf decided we broke up last thursday (not in a very clear way either, just "i guess we'll be doing this ok we'll have to sort stuff out" way). 1 day later I have to go on an interstate trip he was meant to come with me on, bt ditched on me as "too weird now".

He was busy, 1-2 days later, fucking the new chick he's seeing, and going to the gig I wanted to see with him real badly but thought we'd miss because we'd both be interstate.

So basically he ditched me and all our prior committments because it was just easier to go have fun and not think about it.

Dear males; can at least one of you not turn out to be a total cunt? That'd be super.

can't really defend the y chromosome on this one :/

I'm just a magnet for it I suppose.

The irony of this situation is my ex is now going to be my roomie. Oh, my life.

The worst thing is this guy has been one of my closest friends for 10 years, and my partner for 2. He's completely betrayed me and I dont know if I can even handle the thought of being a friend anymore. He seems baffled by this. WHAT IS WRONG WITH HIM.

Oh man Trayce that is the worst kind of dogballs. You can email me if you want to vent some more.

<3 Abb thank you I appreciate it.

aw t sorry <3

Jesus Christ trayce, that dude fucking sucks. Also I am really sorry that you have to go through this shit, but most importantly, srsly, that guy can fuck off.