i'm gonna use that as an excuse for everything from now on though
― jortin shartgent (harbl), Monday, 4 January 2010 19:04 (fourteen years ago) link
are we allowed to be unsupportive on the getting over a breakup thread? because um. 'biologically'.
― lords of hyrule (c sharp major), Monday, 4 January 2010 19:06 (fourteen years ago) link
wait as in they're literally getting ready to take care of a baby or the entrance into a serious relationship triggers similar instincts, in your opinion?
― sarahel, Monday, 4 January 2010 19:07 (fourteen years ago) link
i think he is saying entering a srs relationship puts them into 'nesting mode' or something but uh...
― tehresa, Monday, 4 January 2010 19:09 (fourteen years ago) link
yeah 'biological' is uh.jpg, but i dunno, some people do that. not just people, some relationships invite that or happen that way, healthy or not
― goole, Monday, 4 January 2010 19:11 (fourteen years ago) link
did he kick her out of the nest just as she was building it? I'm still confused.
― sarahel, Monday, 4 January 2010 19:11 (fourteen years ago) link
some people don't have ambition, talent, or friends but it's not because their body is preparing for a baby
― jortin shartgent (harbl), Monday, 4 January 2010 19:13 (fourteen years ago) link
I must admit I have never heard this "clearing plate" theory.
― quincie, Monday, 4 January 2010 19:14 (fourteen years ago) link
neither had I! which is funny, cos "girls who dump their friends cos they've got a boyfriend" is observational-comedy common, so you'd expect scientistic explanations.
― lords of hyrule (c sharp major), Monday, 4 January 2010 19:16 (fourteen years ago) link
Nesting is all I mean. It's my way of saying to myself, maybe there's some reason other than codependency that they're giving up all of these things.
― The Hood Won't Jump (Eazy), Monday, 4 January 2010 19:35 (fourteen years ago) link
this isn't thread to get over a not-breakup
― goole, Monday, 4 January 2010 19:36 (fourteen years ago) link
is this someone you're thinking about breaking up with? Broke up with?
― sarahel, Monday, 4 January 2010 19:36 (fourteen years ago) link
I was just responding to "people who don't have any friends except the people sleep/have-slept with" and offering barroom science.
― The Hood Won't Jump (Eazy), Monday, 4 January 2010 19:40 (fourteen years ago) link
i don't know any people like that, i don't think.
― sarahel, Monday, 4 January 2010 19:41 (fourteen years ago) link
Because they don't have any friends, sarah.
― kingkongvsgodzilla, Monday, 4 January 2010 19:42 (fourteen years ago) link
oh right! But maybe they post on ilx?
― sarahel, Monday, 4 January 2010 19:44 (fourteen years ago) link
XD
― kingkongvsgodzilla, Monday, 4 January 2010 19:46 (fourteen years ago) link
i was specifically referring to a man, iirc
― S.E., we runnin' this FAP shit (roxymuzak), Monday, 18 January 2010 14:17 (fourteen years ago) link
Hi guys, longtime reader, first time caller.
― Astronaut Mike Dexter (Jimmy The Mod Awaits The Return Of His Beloved), Friday, 5 February 2010 07:26 (fourteen years ago) link
sorry : (
i've been spending the last few months trying not to breakup
― velko, Friday, 5 February 2010 07:34 (fourteen years ago) link
I fell off the ex-sex wagon this week.
The next night she promptly got wasted and texted me talking some minor shit and reminded me why I dumped her lol.
― smashing aspirant (milo z), Friday, 5 February 2010 22:15 (fourteen years ago) link
as in you had it, or you stopped having it?
― sarahel, Friday, 5 February 2010 22:15 (fourteen years ago) link
Had it.
― smashing aspirant (milo z), Friday, 5 February 2010 22:17 (fourteen years ago) link
Don't beat yourself up over it. Just don't do it again if it made you feel really horrible.
― sarahel, Friday, 5 February 2010 22:18 (fourteen years ago) link
Oh, no, no guilt or horror. Our sex life was always great, I just didn't like her that much outside of the bedroom at the end. I told her up front that even in the event we continue sexing while we're both single, that's all it would ever be.
― smashing aspirant (milo z), Friday, 5 February 2010 22:39 (fourteen years ago) link
do it again until it makes you feel horrible
― mh, Monday, 8 February 2010 16:41 (fourteen years ago) link
given that her entire family was with her i think yr tactics are not indefensible. also, it's fun to have a little self-made adventure now and then.
― call all destroyer, Saturday, 20 March 2010 05:33 (fourteen years ago) link
Unless she's going to start screaming at you in the middle of the restaurant, seems pretty unnecessary. (by pretty, I mean completely)
― FIST FIGHT! FIST FIGHT! FIST FIGHT IN THE PARKING LOT! (milo z), Saturday, 20 March 2010 05:45 (fourteen years ago) link
shouldn't judge a hoos imho. these situations are like panic stations all around.
― Wat ho, goatee'd man? Thy skinnee jenes hath byrn'd my corneyas. (stevie), Saturday, 20 March 2010 11:12 (fourteen years ago) link
A+++++++ post :D
― 12 monkeys of sex (acoleuthic), Saturday, 20 March 2010 12:01 (fourteen years ago) link
geez sorry hoos
― call all destroyer, Monday, 22 March 2010 02:23 (fourteen years ago) link
:-(
― t(o_o)t (ENBB), Monday, 22 March 2010 03:02 (fourteen years ago) link
damn homie
― billion holla baby (roxymuzak), Monday, 22 March 2010 04:18 (fourteen years ago) link
sorry hoos
― quincie, Monday, 22 March 2010 16:32 (fourteen years ago) link
Man, I would think doing anything other than acknowledging she was there would give her power, hoos! I really just ignore or give a polite nod to my ex's presence/friends/family if they're near me. I mean, unless you're in a situation that directly requires you to force a positive/negative interaction, then... they're just other people who happen to be in your vicinity.
OTOH, my ex was in some online poll my friends told me about after a week after it started and let me know they'd been voting against her for a couple days. We had some jokes about fixing it, then I went on with my life. Really, I think other people worry about that shit more than I do, although I appreciate it.
― mh, Monday, 22 March 2010 21:40 (fourteen years ago) link
Oh yeah, update:
My friends let me know the chick I broke up with in epic burnout fashion last year is still unemployed, lives in her overpriced condo, and has now adopted a dog in addition to her two cats! She also was doing some random traveling for a bit. I am guessing either her overly kind parents are doing some serious bankrolling. Glad it's not me.
― mh, Monday, 22 March 2010 21:41 (fourteen years ago) link
hi hoos' exes!
― LiveJournal (acoleuthic), Monday, 22 March 2010 23:05 (fourteen years ago) link
also wtg dude :(
― LiveJournal (acoleuthic), Monday, 22 March 2010 23:07 (fourteen years ago) link
pretty sure mh's ex has a sweet life
― no more springs no more summers no more falls (sunny successor), Thursday, 25 March 2010 03:25 (fourteen years ago) link
I hope for a Hoos's heart to heal with ease. *non-tangible hug*
― demonic splendor, demonic majesty (Abbott), Tuesday, 30 March 2010 01:50 (fourteen years ago) link
sorry to hear about the breakup BHakaTSD. be well.
― Daniel, Esq., Tuesday, 30 March 2010 01:54 (fourteen years ago) link
dag exes reading is always a fear of mine.
co-signed what Daniel said.
― Phoenix in Flight (Cattle Grind), Tuesday, 30 March 2010 02:05 (fourteen years ago) link
sup exes of the world
― billion holla baby (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 30 March 2010 07:16 (fourteen years ago) link
saw the dude i started this thread about out last night and we talked a bit. he told me he wasn't doing or accomplishing anything except musical stuff. i told him that that counts. he was nice, asked me what i thought about his band and told me he always valued my opinions about "things"
― billion holla baby (roxymuzak), Tuesday, 30 March 2010 07:18 (fourteen years ago) link
"oh i can point you to some other opinions about you online if you like?"
― egregious apostrophising (schlump), Tuesday, 30 March 2010 13:07 (fourteen years ago) link
Crazy-ass ex got banned from the bar we'd always go to! My life just got even easier.
― mh, Wednesday, 31 March 2010 14:22 (fourteen years ago) link
my dumb ex just saw me on the street next to my newly obtained car and actually asked if i would drive him out of state on a vacation so he could shop for records and do fun things.
wtf? drive yourself. oh, wait. you sold your car for booze money. lolz.
― mr. waffles (Nijoli), Wednesday, 31 March 2010 14:27 (fourteen years ago) link
man sorry to hear bout that hoos
― max, Wednesday, 31 March 2010 14:34 (fourteen years ago) link
^haha, i read this as meaning that nij's ex was hoos, and you were sorry to hear he sold his car for booze $ lol
― billion holla baby (roxymuzak), Friday, 2 April 2010 01:02 (fourteen years ago) link
aw, poor hoos selling his car for booze.
― mr. waffles (Nijoli), Friday, 2 April 2010 02:29 (fourteen years ago) link