Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

risk of seeing ppl one knows in real life om okcupid kinda freaks me out tbh. like once i sent a girl a message and it was killy. o-O

― ian, Wednesday, November 4, 2009 2:17 AM (1 month ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

did her status not say she had a boyfriend??

― quaq quao, sweetie (electricsound), Wednesday, November 4, 2009 2:20 AM (1 month ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

she was single iirc

― ian, Wednesday, November 4, 2009 2:23 AM (1 month ago) Bookmark

He wasn't single then, but he is now!

you should go for it, L.

OKC is confusing me at present.

Either I'm ultra-picky right now with OKC or the pool has shrunk dramatically.

Maybe it's a spring/summer thing. What action there's been of late has been with a nice lass whom I met there but who's deleted her profile. I think it's not a good time of year for internet dating. You'd think it'd be great what with everyone spending more time indoors and perhaps more inclined to actively seek human company rather than let it happen organically but no. Even my own date-drive is down, slightly.

The lesson here is that SAD is a thing, basically.

that is kinda true, holidays make people feel frazzled and spring makes people (well, me) very antsy. maybe even january will be an improvement?

laurel you should get back in touch with the guy, maybe having met before will make things easier

I did already! It was kissy. Will go out with again when I get back.

ooooooooooooh!!!

there are good people on this site...for definite

Ty, Ian & Maria! Counting down the days to flying back, actually. I am such a sucker for wuv.

"Kissy"!! <3

http://i50.tinypic.com/2yunf6a.jpg

http://i50.tinypic.com/2yunf6a.jpg

lollllll

I just found that in a big picture thread on another forum, coincidentally the same page had a funny picture/ad about Tim Finney o_0

"mommy can't have a job anymore, daycare is not part of daddy's fantasy life"

oh god, that picture lol

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Either I'm ultra-picky right now with OKC or the pool has shrunk dramatically.
― ljubljana, Friday, December 25, 2009 8:35 AM (1 week ago) Bookmark

the pool sucks - always has - and you're probably picky
but I bet straight girls probably have a larger pool to choose from than straight guys

but single people really oughta try online dating more often if only to fill the pool
because quiet folk don't really get much of a chance to meet someone irl anyways let alone someone compatible
not to mention that after college you don't really have those ample opportunities to join clubs or whatever

not to mention that after college you don't really have those ample opportunities to join clubs or whatever

that's not entirely true.

"it's easier when you're in college" applies to a lot of social activities.

also outside of college, a pilates class would probably have a greater age disparity, and as people get older more and more of them are already taken

I would have much rather done yoga at college than with the randoms from my suburb. I miss Athens

wait, Lorax, which Athens? I did my idyllic undergrad-and-on-from-there years in Athens GA.

I'm an UGA Alumni in Statistics, go dawgs!

When I go on okcupid I browse the Athens area code as well as my home.
I just sent a normal letter to a really interesting person in Atlanta (25 minutes away from home). Hopefully I will get a letter back. That would be pleasant.

I will be unsubscribing from all this dating services because it worked. Feeling quietly yay about it.

wd!

Aw, L :D

Dating site for beautiful people expels 'fatties' after holiday weight gain
http://www.cnn.com/2010/LIVING/personal/01/04/dating.site.overweight/index.html

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/01/20/the-4-big-myths-of-profile-pictures/ This has some good moments.

http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/four_myths/outdoors_vs_cleavage.png

I mean, even just the IDEA of making such a graph - I've always loved how proudly they show off the incredibly stat-nerdy behind the scenes stuff on this site.

Great link, Dr.

And I never thought I'd see a graph with "body + cleavage pics" being measured either

Of course, we wouldn’t recommend that you meet someone in person without first seeing a full photo of them, that still seems like a recipe for disaster.

Doing this next week.

and yet the stats nerdery involves shit like this:

We then lopped the most and least attractive members of the pool, fearing that they would skew our results. So all the data in this post is for “average-looking people;” here’s a graphical representation of that concept for the female pool.

http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/four_myths/decent_women.png

graphing your personal opinion just makes statistics about your personal opinion, the pretension to objectivity here kills me!

Don't they use the personal opinions of their male cohort - i.e. those 'star' attractiveness ratings?

lol okcupid

you can log out any time you like but you can never leave

Yeah, I think ljub is right - the "attractiveness" stat is generated from user behavior.

The thing to bitch about with this study is its heterosexist bias. I mean it's just taken from the get-go as a male+female coupling thing.

^^^truth. also it doesn't seem to take into account the possible behaviours of people who take 'myspace shots' - they might be more forthcoming

lol there i go with my stereotypes

i mean there's something to be said for that study, but i'd say it's largely bleeding obvious or irrelevant

Dr C otm. I didn't even think about that :-(

and why did I say male cohort? Clearly I think this site and study were designed to help me out personally.

you meant consort, clearly

ahahah

http://blog.okcupid.com/index.php/2010/02/16/the-case-for-an-older-woman/

^^^ this one is way better

http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/older_lover/Male-Match-Prefs.png

As you can see, a man, as he gets older, searches for relatively younger and younger women. Meanwhile his upper acceptable limit hovers only a token amount above his own age. The median 31 year-old guy, for example, sets his allowable match age range from 22 to 35—nine years younger, but only four years older, than himself. This skewed mindset worsens with age; the median 42 year-old will accept a woman up to fifteen years younger, but no more than three years older.

http://cdn.okcimg.com/blog/older_lover/Male-Msg-Prefs.png

This next graph is what's called a heat map. It shows messaging concentrations by age; for each vertical age bracket, the greenest areas have the most messages, the reddest have the fewest, and the yellow have the average. As you can see, men tend to focus on the youngest women in their already skewed preference pool, and, what's more, they spend a significant amount of energy pursuing women even younger than their stated minimum. No matter what he's telling himself on his setting page, a 30 year-old man spends as much time messaging 18 and 19 year-olds as he does women his own age. On the other hand, women only a few years older are largely neglected.

omg, the sexual peak slider map is awesome

that is an astounding page, Dr C

yeah, pretty interesting.

intended audience clearly not well-established career men searching for nubile young things to bear their children though.

http://www.okcupid.com/profile/fofomag?cf=regular

definitely finding those blog posts interesting

i am seeing someone because of this website

:o

tell me more abt this plz

what do u want 2 kno