"Can I say you're my girlfriend on Facebook?"

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well that's not saying a whole lot kit.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:17 (twelve years ago) Permalink

We call them 'ball bags' these days g-kit, do you not slavishly follow Am I Russell Brand Or Not like wot everyone else doth?

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:19 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Incidentally (hello I am old), isn't there something else called faceparty? Is it the same? You young people!

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:19 (twelve years ago) Permalink

If I put myself down as 'staff' and not 'student', does that exlude me from one set or the other? Cos like, I know other staff at [INSERT UNIVERSITY NAME HERE] and don't want to exlusively find out details of academics/administrators when I could larff at STEWWDENTS :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:21 (twelve years ago) Permalink

faceparty is different
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Faceparty

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:23 (twelve years ago) Permalink

who wants to be in my Ballsbook, ladies?
xpost Ballsparty?

teh_kit has 22 friends (g-kit), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:24 (twelve years ago) Permalink

I don't know Starry. I'm not sure if the site is able to verify past a legitmate .edu address. I am uni staff but have yet to facebook myself. the shame.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:32 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Answers for starry re Facebook

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Facebook%27s_use_in_investigations

wikipedia:

Privacy Settings

Facebook contains privacy settings that individuals can set to prevent school administrators or other groups from accessing their profiles or photos. Under the "My Privacy" settings page, a facebook user can select which of the following groups are allowed to view a page:

* Undergrads
* Grad Students
* Alumni
* Faculty
* Staff

However, there is no guarantee that school administrators or law enforcement agencies will not choose to identify themselves falsely on Facebook, or that they cannot gain access to profile information via other means.

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:33 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Can you change your profile if necessary? What if you are eg, an employee doing a research project, for debate :)

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:39 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Two stories:

1. My girlfriend just graduated from college last year (2005) and doesn't have a Friendster or MySpace profile but does have a Facebook profile. This makes me feel old. However, I think what she likes about Facebook is that it is relatively closed off to the outside world, whereas I don't generally care what yahoos have a gander at my drunken photos.

2. I was at a frat party at the Univ. of Chicago a couple months ago ... an ILXor invited me, and I went for the anthropological experience as much as anything, really. Anyway, so I'm talking to this BMOC in a felt cowboy hat, who's somehow convinced that I had been dancing with this girl he has a crush on named Allison. (The only girl I'd been dancing with was this gawky philosophy major named Ethel who hurriedly told me within the first minute, "By the way, I don't wanna hook up with you, I have a boyfriend." Whatever!) I try to deny it at first, but he's not upset or anything, his attitude is more like "good for you, bro -- she's fuckin' hot, isn't she?" -- so eventually I agree that yes, I was dancing with Allison. "You know what you can do for me?" he slurs. "You can have her look me up on Facebook. That's Bret. With one T." At which point I laughed out loud.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:48 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Oh and re the thread title: when my gf was showing me her Facebook profile, I was surprised to see that not only could you say you were "In a Relationship" but you could actually designate who your partner was and link to their profile.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:51 (twelve years ago) Permalink

no idea !

i would expect most streetwise students would probably lock out snooping staff via the privacy settings

DJ Martian (djmartian), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:51 (twelve years ago) Permalink

BMOC

??

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:54 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:57 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Facebook is pretty useful. It makes keeping in touch with uni friends nice and easy. I'm young and went to a 'posh' uni though.

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 13:59 (twelve years ago) Permalink

No-one has yet addressed the fact that the titular quote is incredible cute!

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:07 (twelve years ago) Permalink

jng, how long can you keep your uni account open in the States? Over here, perhaps a few months... i mean, you cannot really use Facebook (if I got the rules right now) to keep in touch with uni friends once you graduated

olenska (olenska), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:09 (twelve years ago) Permalink

most universities offer alumni accounts.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:10 (twelve years ago) Permalink

surely it stops people who aren't at uni going on it? what happens when you graduate?

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (twelve years ago) Permalink

xpost, sorry.

dog latin (dog latin), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:11 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Over here, perhaps a few months

Says you. I've had mine for nearly 10 years after graduation by now.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:12 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Aww yeah - I just signed up as an alumni! It makes me feels old and lecherous though. Like going to a student party would, I guess.

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:13 (twelve years ago) Permalink

But Alumni can only perv on other Alumni? I might be wrong.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Clearly I am, if I'm capitalising alumni.

Andrew Farrell (afarrell), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Haha, I started doing some work and clicked away from the register window, I guess I am not that bothered after all!

The sad truth is that I think it would make me feel lonely, and out of it! And I have a perfectly good LIVEJOURNAL for that arf arf ARF.

Bhumibol Adulyadej (Lucretia My Reflection), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:15 (twelve years ago) Permalink

I'm in the UK, so no idea about the US. I signed up with my uni email account a couple of years ago, and then just switched the profile over to my alumni email account when I graduated.

xpost

jng (jng), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:17 (twelve years ago) Permalink

maybe we could have an ILX SOCIAL GROUP????

Baaderonixx immer wieder (baaderonixx), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:19 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:23 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Big Man On Campus! (I hope)

Yes. He seemed to know everyone and was walking around making sure people were having a good time.

I never signed up for an alumni e-mail account, and now I'm unsure of how to do so, but the only people I'd know on Facebook are young punks like deej, anyway.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:30 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Its a really good way to stay in touch w people after you graduate.
-- deej.. (clublonel...), June 27th, 2006.

a bit like MEETING THEM, HOLDING CONVERSATIONS, THAT KIND OF SHIT.

Roughage Crew (Enrique), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:31 (twelve years ago) Permalink

As a current college student, I can vouch for how omnipresent it is. In the official UC Berkeley student questionnaire (rate the counselors from 1-10 etc.) the university had an entire section in the survey asking students about facebook. I can think of two people I know who *aren't* on it.

It's far classier than myspace because you can't change your page much. No background music. No videos. This is good.

Very recently though, there has been a very noticeable trend (in Berkeley at least...can't speak for the nation) to make your profile super-private and only visable to friends. People are either getting wary, or snobby, I'm not sure which.

starke (starke), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:33 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Yeah its real easy to do that with my friends in San Francisco xp

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:35 (twelve years ago) Permalink

A few more things:

1. My brother is a grad student and when he TAs a class, he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles and is sometimes surprised at what they're willing to divulge. (Then he stores this information in an Excel spreadsheet ... oh wait.)

2. I have a cousin who just finished his freshman year at Northern Illinois University. He tells me that as soon as he received his school e-mail address last summer, he immediately signed up on Facebook and found that dozens of other incoming students had done so as well. In fact, the ability to notate your dorm and room number within your profile meant that he knew nearly everyone in his hall before they ever actually met face to face.

3. Haha, my dad moderated a panel about Facebook last month.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:41 (twelve years ago) Permalink

High school students can join it now too. Which is weird.

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:44 (twelve years ago) Permalink

See, that's not weird to me because as far as I'm concerned, EVERYONE under 25 is on it.

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:57 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Yeah, trading facebooks was the first thing the staff did when we got to camp. I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Gravel Puzzleworth (Gregory Henry), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 14:59 (twelve years ago) Permalink

he always checks out his students' Facebook profiles
Not always, just for the cute ones ;)

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:06 (twelve years ago) Permalink

facebook is even creepier than myspace/friendster cuz then you can anonymously crepe on cute girls in your classes.

the eunuchs, Cassim and Mustafa, who guarded Abdur Ali's harem (orion), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (twelve years ago) Permalink

It's strange--I do feel like there is a generational divide with facebook. I joined just this year, as a 24 year old grad student. But, the first year grad students, who are right out of college, already had facebook accounts from undergrad days. they just had to switch over the designation to their new university affiliation. But the point is they already had them and were totally accustomed to using them, whereas they had convinced me to join, and then were disappointed when facebook did not function the same way they were used to (nobody checked it frequently enough, thereby making announcing parties useless).

robots in love (robotsinlove), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:09 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Did you read the Lewis Flyer article yet, M.?

jaymc (jaymc), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:12 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Regarding the quote in topic, yeah, the relationship status on Facebook does lead to a lot of awkward situations. A friend of mine had that she was married to her boyfriend on Facebook. After they broke up for a while, he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

There's an annoying girl at my job who has some serious growing up to do. One of her many horrifying common behaviors is playing "house" at the job and designating different coworkers as different members of her family. For a while she had a huge crush on me, and thus I became the husband. Whenever new people were hired, she'd excitedly hug me and exclaim in her nasal voice, "This is Derek, he's my husband! He's the best husband in the world!" Then she'd switch to a more serious tone to warn the girls that they'd better not flirt with me. Terrifying. Of course, she wanted to marry me on Facebook. After weeks of continually reminding me that I have yet to click "yes" that we are indeed married, I finally gave in and did it. After a while, trying to finally give her the message that I'm not interested, I switched to being married with another one of our coworkers, a girl I'm good friends with but my "wife" hated. When she saw that I'd switched the status, she had a real break down. Female co-workers told me about her heart break over the incident.

In conclusion, jesus christ, be glad you're not on Facebook.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:42 (twelve years ago) Permalink

why is this any better than myspace? i don't get it.
-- dog latin (doglati...) (webmail), June 27th, 2006. (dog latin)

Certain features that make it really useful for college students. You can list your classes in your profile and the page can create a list for you of people in your classes. You can easily find people in your class to ask them questions about upcoming tests, what the homework was, etc. Also, unlike MySpace, there's more local community centered stuff since the only people on Facebook I interact with are fellow UNCC students and I don't see anyone from Harvard. For example there's groups with local interest like "I LOVE " rather than just "I LOVE LIMP BIZKIT." Like other people mentioned, there's the announcing/organizing events too.

like murderinging (modestmickey), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:49 (twelve years ago) Permalink

But what is this thing that US students say is now more important than sex and texting?

MORE IMPORTANT THAN TEXTING?!?!?!?!??!

matlewis (matlewis), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (twelve years ago) Permalink

he eventually changed the setting to say single which automatically did it for her profile too. It was like a whole 'nother stage of breaking up.

That is pretty harsh.

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 15:54 (twelve years ago) Permalink

I think the basic reason it's so much more universal than eg friendster is the total lack of crepey hookup connotations?

Au contraire. I think a lot of people use it for exactly that reason. That's the impression I've gotten, anyway.

Deric W. Haircare (Deric W. Haircare), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:36 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Facebook is fucking annoying. I'm an elderly undergrad, surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication. So I decided to get kicked off of Facebook but it's not working yet--I've replaced my entire profile with excerpts from Pilgrim's Progress and some Duran Duran slash fiction, I've started reporting every person whose profile says "Libertarian," etc. No luck.

adam (adam), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:41 (twelve years ago) Permalink

surrounded by people who use it as a substitute for actual communication.

hi, do you know the internet?

Miss Misery xox (MissMiseryTX), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:51 (twelve years ago) Permalink

hah yeah wtf how is it different than anything else on the internet?

deej.. (deej..), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 16:56 (twelve years ago) Permalink

that facebook thing would have been so useful for my social life in '96. and myspace too. and p2p files exchange softwares (I was so informationally poor). also, ah, if only I had pentium3 +highspeed+100gig storage+ free video editing software back then, when
i was more interested in cinema , because most of the canonic cinematographic trips were new to me etc good grief I should have been born in '81

S. (Sébastien Chikara), Tuesday, 27 June 2006 17:03 (twelve years ago) Permalink

Man, trying to create a page and tack on some events used to be easy. Now it's like the hardest thing in the world to do. Thanks Facebook, nobbers.

brand new universal harvester (dog latin), Wednesday, 18 April 2018 09:21 (one year ago) Permalink

However, I think what she likes about Facebook is that it is relatively closed off to the outside world, whereas I don't generally care what yahoos have a gander at my drunken photos.

Lol irony reading this now.

Stoop Crone (Trayce), Wednesday, 18 April 2018 11:46 (one year ago) Permalink

five months pass...

"The previously unreported actions by Myanmar’s military on Facebook are among the first examples of an authoritarian government using the social network against its own people."

All of this reads like a more extreme, but familiar, version of what's happening in the U.S.:

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/10/15/technology/myanmar-facebook-genocide.html

... (Eazy), Monday, 15 October 2018 15:33 (eight months ago) Permalink

four weeks pass...

RIP

crüt, Monday, 12 November 2018 18:12 (seven months ago) Permalink

it had a bad run

wayne trotsky (Simon H.), Monday, 12 November 2018 18:14 (seven months ago) Permalink

hold me

j., Monday, 12 November 2018 18:15 (seven months ago) Permalink

It really says something when you go to a site out of habit and then breathe a sigh of relief when it's down.

change display name (Jordan), Monday, 12 November 2018 18:16 (seven months ago) Permalink

Don’t think of it as goodbye, think of it as... ello

coetzee.cx (wins), Monday, 12 November 2018 18:16 (seven months ago) Permalink

fb'd u for that

unproven (darraghmac), Monday, 12 November 2018 18:17 (seven months ago) Permalink

Not down for me at all btw, you guys are all gone cause they’ve finally done the purge

coetzee.cx (wins), Monday, 12 November 2018 18:36 (seven months ago) Permalink

already back for me :/

wayne trotsky (Simon H.), Monday, 12 November 2018 18:36 (seven months ago) Permalink

three weeks pass...

https://www.nytimes.com/2018/12/05/technology/facebook-emails-privacy-data.html

In January 2013, one of Mr. Zuckerberg’s lieutenants emailed him with news about Twitter, one of Facebook’s biggest competitors. The company had introduced a video-sharing service called Vine, which allowed users to create and post six-second video clips.

When new users signed up for Vine, they were given the option of following their Facebook friends — a feature enabled through Facebook’s application program interface, or API. This feature was widely used, and had become a valuable tool for new apps to accelerate user growth. But in Vine’s case, Facebook played hardball.

“Unless anyone raises objections, we will shut down their friends API access today,” wrote the lieutenant, Justin Osofsky, now a Facebook vice president.

Mr. Zuckerberg, the chief executive, replied: “Yup, go for it.”

resident hack (Simon H.), Thursday, 6 December 2018 13:53 (six months ago) Permalink

hmm u don't say

These emails reveal that in the formative years of Facebook’s growth, the company’s executives were ruthless and unsparing in their ambition to collect more data from users, extract concessions from developers and stamp out possible competitors.

We're in 2009—it's time to take risks, (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 6 December 2018 13:59 (six months ago) Permalink

obviously nothing is shocking here but the gory details.....sure are gory and detailed

resident hack (Simon H.), Thursday, 6 December 2018 14:19 (six months ago) Permalink

fun fact: no-one ever became a billionaire through scrupulously even-handed business practices

We're in 2009—it's time to take risks, (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 6 December 2018 14:28 (six months ago) Permalink

it's almost like amassing ungodly sums of money might be.. evil?

Nhex, Thursday, 6 December 2018 16:39 (six months ago) Permalink

hmm, makes u think

We're in 2009—it's time to take risks, (bizarro gazzara), Thursday, 6 December 2018 16:39 (six months ago) Permalink

> fun fact: no-one ever became a billionaire through scrupulously even-handed business practices

the minecraft guy?

koogs, Thursday, 6 December 2018 17:54 (six months ago) Permalink

one month passes...

they need to cut it out with the "your facebook memories" shit

Trϵϵship, Wednesday, 30 January 2019 13:07 (four months ago) Permalink

every time i click the box that says "show me less things like this" and i still get these updates multiple times a week. sometimes it's nice to reflect on the past but it has to be on my own initiative. the past is full of traps--photos of exes, reminders that life is fleeting, whatever. who do they think they are?

Trϵϵship, Wednesday, 30 January 2019 13:11 (four months ago) Permalink

facebook memories is actually my favourite bit (because facebook is worse than it used to be so past = better)

koogs, Wednesday, 30 January 2019 13:12 (four months ago) Permalink

it's a form of torture

Trϵϵship, Wednesday, 30 January 2019 13:13 (four months ago) Permalink

If I were that terrified of being reminded of my life I wouldn’t record it for posterity tbh

gray say nah to me (wins), Wednesday, 30 January 2019 13:50 (four months ago) Permalink

it's a form of torture

― Trϵϵship

this also applies to facebook as a whole, fyi

The Elvis of Nationalism and Amoral Patriotism (rushomancy), Wednesday, 30 January 2019 15:06 (four months ago) Permalink

I was having a bad day a while back and Facebook was nice enough to show a post and pic of me and our dog the day before we put little Dottie to sleep : (

Blues Guitar Solo Heatmap (Free Download) (upper mississippi sh@kedown), Wednesday, 30 January 2019 15:10 (four months ago) Permalink

That's horrible. I live in fear of the day my RIP post for my cat shows up in FB memories - it got tons of engagements at the time so I think they'll definitley go for it.

Daniel_Rf, Monday, 4 February 2019 10:45 (four months ago) Permalink

So happy I'm off fb. It's been 2 weeks now? Haven't missed it at all.

nathom, Monday, 4 February 2019 12:58 (four months ago) Permalink

i don't think it filters 'memories' in any way, based on the four bits of absolute tosh it just gave me, none of which has a single like.

"is imagining he's playing tennis"

oh look, 6 years ago i was in kensington waiting for the comedy to start. i know this because i checked in from the pub next door. fascinating.

koogs, Monday, 4 February 2019 13:17 (four months ago) Permalink

congrats nathom!

i don't miss facebook but i do miss talking to most of my internet friends. they're good people but the opportunities for quality socialization on facebook just aren't there, i find it to be an addiction that ultimately does more harm than good. i need to find more friends i can hang out with in person, but the social anxiety makes it challenging...

The Elvis of Nationalism and Amoral Patriotism (rushomancy), Monday, 4 February 2019 13:48 (four months ago) Permalink

ilx is the only good place on the internet

Calgary customer Elvis Cavalic (bizarro gazzara), Monday, 4 February 2019 13:52 (four months ago) Permalink

(in b4 inevitable 'and even ilx sucks' posts)

Calgary customer Elvis Cavalic (bizarro gazzara), Monday, 4 February 2019 13:52 (four months ago) Permalink

i don't think it filters 'memories' in any way, based on the four bits of absolute tosh it just gave me, none of which has a single like.

They don't show YouTube links in memories anymore, but I think that's the extent of the filtering (aside possibly from game/app posts).

a large tuna called “Justice” (C. Grisso/McCain), Monday, 4 February 2019 15:47 (four months ago) Permalink

Have deactivated FB and IG for a little more than a month now and it's been brilliant. Don't miss either.

Wish I could take myself off Twitter too but it's a job requirement, unfortunately.

Roz, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 04:41 (four months ago) Permalink

I have been off fb for a couple of weeks. It's liberating. I do miss some people but the downsides being on it are outweighing the former. Back on ilx which feels grebt. Just can't access my stevienixed account. Nathom will do. Lol

nathom, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 12:58 (four months ago) Permalink

Well, you get the FB ilxors here too, so there’s that!

suzy, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 13:12 (four months ago) Permalink

Yes! Missed you guys

nathom, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 13:33 (four months ago) Permalink

yay!

Mark G, Tuesday, 5 February 2019 13:33 (four months ago) Permalink

"You have two memories..."

but before that, here's a crappy video of pictures you've posted floating around that we put together because it is Friends' Day

and here's a 3 word post from 9 years ago (that one's probably on me)

and here's a crappy video of pictures you've posted that we've cobbled together for no other reason than it used to be January and now it isn't. Your January Highlights.

and here's a memory from two years ago yesterday that you might have missed (but didn't)

meanwhile those group posts you made to that group with 26 people in it, we're only going to show that to two of them, despite the fact that they all subscribed specifically.

koogs, Tuesday, 12 February 2019 11:06 (four months ago) Permalink


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