Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

i am possibly developing interest in people i have met in real life, whoa, that is not normal! the question is at what point do i become interested enough to actually DO something about it, which would probably be painless enough, i'm just indecisive.

is there some activity you would like to engage in with these people?

too many girls on this have chuck palahniuk listed as a fav

how many have chuck listed vs. haruki mirakami (sp?) ?

Hey now, ain't nothing wrong with Haruki Murakami.

20:1 at least

yea i dont mind murakami from what ive read

i'm just saying both are popular.

in america

Yeah but not in a way that is really comparable imo.

it's just harder for me to ignore chuck p being listed than the xmillion who list twilight/harry potter...idk maybe it's irrational

all the ones you mentioned are gross

I'm just thinking about how you would go about conveying your interests or what kind of person you are through a list of things you like that would attract the attention of someone you would want to date. That including popular things besides obscure things might be the way to go, unless shared likes for the obscure stuff is a requirement.

x-post sry that was mean

(but true)

xps, mostly because the ones who have a higher match percentage with the intellectual crusader that you are will be more apt to list intellectually crusading material such as chuck p's rather than populist shit?

;)

I mean, yeah, Murakami and Chucky are different and signify different things, but presumably the people they are looking to attract would read into those as signifying something about these girls' personalities or sensibilities?

fwiw harry potter would not put me off, twilight would

(but not much!)

it would depend on what else the person said about themselves - probably a guy that reads twilight would be more interesting to me than a guy that reads harry potter, though neither have innate appeal for me - neither do murakami or chuck.

idk none of them would really put me off someone but they're all books/writers that just seem annoying somehow. *shrugs*

on the other hand, if someone listed a bunch of authors I wasn't familiar with, I might have absolutely no clue whether I'd be compatible with that person.

basically very few things no matter how populist are a turn-off for me but overtly dumb, trendy shit like dan brown or twilight kinda are

sorry for being captain obvious

but maybe they don't have trendy reason for reading or liking twilight? I don't know. I haven't read those. Like I could say I have read "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" - but I wasn't reading it for the same reasons most people who read that book read it.

hmmmmmmmmmm

in other words - people could like trendy crap and still be interesting. Like - there could be a guy that liked chart pop that I might cringe at, but he could still be a totally awesome guy that has interesting reasons for liking it.

i mean, im sure 9 times outta 10 it isnt something that affects their irl persona...it's just a book they read & liked

and felt it was important or worth putting in an online dating profile.

x-post yeah, of course!

altho i have a chuck p bias i think and assume ppl who list him prob LOVE him, are crazy and annoying

meh, ppl dont know what 2 write i think

i have absolutely no idea what i would put in an online dating profile.

sarahel: popist about literature

but seriously, there's a difference between the visceral thrill of chart-pop and the trend-based herd mentality of reading shitty fad-creating bumfodder - to compare the two is false and i think does chart-pop a massive disservice

a better comparison to these books would be like angels and airwaves or something, but music and books don't really compare

my own profile is odd and may need some work

odd? pantene anyone?

;-) <3 you Louis.

that bit was removed months ago :p

xp - i dunno, what's viscerally thrilling about it? Isn't part of its appeal that it's popular? Dumb trendy novels could also be viscerally thrilling ... to someone.

xxxp - I use pantene conditioner, fyi

Pop music is by its very nature viscerally thrilling and arresting; that is how it works. See Tim F after class.

Dumb trendy novels in practice tend to be stodgily written and the thrill is 'aspirational'; the reader is sucked into a thought-process where they are concerned with the direction of the narrative.

I guess I'm coming from a perspective of someone that is unthrilled by trendy novels and chart pop - harry potter, twilight, miley cyrus, brittney - none of that appeals to me.

You obviously haven't heard Party in the USA.

xpost- i think it's sometimes easier to get along with people who like cheesy popular stuff like twilight than people who are passionate about obscure stuff...for example, people i like and people i meet at metal shows have very little overlap. and yeah, i'm stereotyping in the opposite direction there, but that's been my experience so far. i'd rather meet someone with different interests who otherwise is pleasant and shares my values than someone who matches up well in certain categories but is super-alternative or pretentious.

is there some activity you would like to engage in with these people?

well yeah but you know it's finals and then there is a long break before next term and maybe i should just wait until january or february because thigns are so busy now...it's easy to justify doing nothing.

xp - No, I live under a rock.

kinda guessing that my response to it - were i to hear it - would be akin to that of my grandmother were she to be exposed to Lightning Bolt.

to put a book on one's list of favourite books is not like putting a musical artist on one's list of favourite music; the two signify different things, and different kinds of attachment.

some trendy novels are well-written and i can understand the appeal (harry potter); others aren't and gain their success through appealing to a herd mentality (twilight)

most or all chart-pop is written to appeal to people who might only hear it in passing, and isn't about the formation of a specific cult (obv those more general cults of lol youth and lol beauty receive plenty of fellation)

i kinda like super-alternative people, as long as they have some connection to reality

i think it depends what role music and books play in your life, though.

Right cause Lightening Bolt isn't popular at all.

TBH I love popular crap as much as the next person but there is something very annoying about Chuck P to me. Bah. Couldn't really give a shit about the others really although I'd be skeptical of someone who listed HP or twilight and only that.

God why is this conversation still happening. I'm so made at myself for starting this.

yeah like twilight isn't THAT offputting, i was just saying it would make me pause, it could say very little about them

I'm just saying that based on my tastes I would probably find any Miley Cyrus song painful, and my grandmother who likes easy listening crooners would find Lightning Bolt painful.

btw

http://23.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_kuayurGAzw1qzpwi0o1_400.gif

it isn't about whether something is popular at all. I'm a huge fan of Adam & the Ants for chrissake.