Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

Suddenly I have all these emails and I'm leaving down for 5 days! Bad timing. But ok because it gives me time to get psyched up to do this right. Usually I worry to death about whether the guy likes me enough and never think about whether I like him. This time, I will be RUTHLESS and HEARTLESS and cut them down like stalks of grain instead of trying to win their approval. That sounds like a good plan, right?

Whoo go Laurel! You will have too many options not to anyway ;)

Fine line. Trying to be interested in anyone besides the ex because, uh, there's a reason he's "ex," but only his type really appeals. Except, y'know...better.

Yeah, it's hard to know when you're maybe interested vs. giving someone a chance vs. leading them on, too...I guess that's the point of actual dates, you figure this out, but sometimes it's just more trouble than fun.

I will summon my inner heartless bitch as soon as I get back from the left coast.

i signed up 4 this over the wkend. eep!
first convo i had w/ someone was abt jodorowsky ! tho, im a little worried that she has no picture

er...ask for email picture? seems a bit awkward but i think it's fair given that it's not just a friends-making site....

am currently attempting to meet people by spending more time at the grad student bar. so far working socially but not romantically, but i figure a) the more friends i have the more friends-of-friends i can meet, and b) the fact that two friends i go with frequently are really hot does NOT HELP.

Hm well, yes to the "socially" part. Plus, let's face it, while we wd all like to find twoo wuv, ultimately the most stable thing you got is the friends that think you're rad. Cold comfort when you're going home alone and everyone else is paired off, I guess, but more lasting.

and at least half my friends are in long-distance relationships so they're lonely and want to hang out more too. too bad for them, lucky for me.

yea i guess i will if we keep talkin...im ok w/ just a friendly vibe for now

i need more ppl who will go out 2 bars w/ me, preferrably not late on wknights tho

Late on weeknights is the best time to go out! Happy hour is a douchebag blue-light special almost everywhere and weekends are too busy. But I understand it's not rly convenient if you have a long trip home on a Tuesday.

Definitely but it's hard to get up in the morning when you're out late on weeknights!

I am going to maybe sign up now, now that I have no interest in this "twoo wuv" that Laurel mentions

Ah, but how wuv can strike when you're just there to test the waters...

My own equivalent of Pato's girl's "it's like we've already been on 20 dates" line was "It's like beginning a relationship halfway through a relationship", which was somewhat lovely to hear. All I need now is for sic to turn up and observe that as we'd only known each other IRL for less than 5 hours before we were hooked up, I'd be out on my arse by dawn.

(May I stress that over 350 often lengthy and of course exuberantly-written emails were exchanged over a period of 3-4 months prior to meeting up)

guess who's back

back again

i signed up for this yesterday. :S

found my future wife yall

http://cdn.okcimg.com/php/load_okc_image.php/images/16/150x150/558x800/0x54/379x433/0/16634607336749199939.jpeg

LOL

Re-launched self with new pictures, slightly more text and zero enthusiasm. Sloooow so far.

berkeley phd student messages me about whether i know David Wojnarowicz's band, 3 Teens Kill 4. hmmm.

also, yeah, i just relaunched myself on this site, mostly because i am tired of going out and seeing all the same old queens and queers hanging around.

lol ok this works UP TO A POINT

kbp, you may be banned, but you won this one. 'mon the west indies.

he's unbanned btw.

i am possibly developing interest in people i have met in real life, whoa, that is not normal! the question is at what point do i become interested enough to actually DO something about it, which would probably be painless enough, i'm just indecisive.

is there some activity you would like to engage in with these people?

too many girls on this have chuck palahniuk listed as a fav

how many have chuck listed vs. haruki mirakami (sp?) ?

Hey now, ain't nothing wrong with Haruki Murakami.

20:1 at least

yea i dont mind murakami from what ive read

i'm just saying both are popular.

in america

Yeah but not in a way that is really comparable imo.

it's just harder for me to ignore chuck p being listed than the xmillion who list twilight/harry potter...idk maybe it's irrational

all the ones you mentioned are gross

I'm just thinking about how you would go about conveying your interests or what kind of person you are through a list of things you like that would attract the attention of someone you would want to date. That including popular things besides obscure things might be the way to go, unless shared likes for the obscure stuff is a requirement.

x-post sry that was mean

(but true)

xps, mostly because the ones who have a higher match percentage with the intellectual crusader that you are will be more apt to list intellectually crusading material such as chuck p's rather than populist shit?

;)

I mean, yeah, Murakami and Chucky are different and signify different things, but presumably the people they are looking to attract would read into those as signifying something about these girls' personalities or sensibilities?

fwiw harry potter would not put me off, twilight would

(but not much!)

it would depend on what else the person said about themselves - probably a guy that reads twilight would be more interesting to me than a guy that reads harry potter, though neither have innate appeal for me - neither do murakami or chuck.

idk none of them would really put me off someone but they're all books/writers that just seem annoying somehow. *shrugs*

on the other hand, if someone listed a bunch of authors I wasn't familiar with, I might have absolutely no clue whether I'd be compatible with that person.

basically very few things no matter how populist are a turn-off for me but overtly dumb, trendy shit like dan brown or twilight kinda are

sorry for being captain obvious

but maybe they don't have trendy reason for reading or liking twilight? I don't know. I haven't read those. Like I could say I have read "The Seven Habits of Highly Effective People" - but I wasn't reading it for the same reasons most people who read that book read it.

hmmmmmmmmmm

in other words - people could like trendy crap and still be interesting. Like - there could be a guy that liked chart pop that I might cringe at, but he could still be a totally awesome guy that has interesting reasons for liking it.