Oh dear. You made him cry though so he probably won't bug you.
― bear say hi to me (ENBB), Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:20 (fourteen years ago) link
why u break <3
― mookieproof, Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:21 (fourteen years ago) link
B/c he dressed like an Amish. As a lifestyle choice. NB: Was not actually an Amish.
― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:25 (fourteen years ago) link
did he own a possum?
― sarahel, Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:27 (fourteen years ago) link
I hope he doesn't read ILX b/c that will make him sound terrible when actually he was a nice, smart guy. But just...no.
Does an Amish allow pets? Maybe I should write him to ask.
― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:28 (fourteen years ago) link
A nice smart guy WHO CRIED when you told him you didn't think you should see each other again. O_O
― bear say hi to me (ENBB), Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:29 (fourteen years ago) link
This was just one date too, right?
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― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:33 (fourteen years ago) link
I mean I like to think I give good first-date value, but that's just...a lot.
women spontaneously cry in public ALL THE GODDAMN TIME but when a GUY does it... ooooooh, boy.
― ian, Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:34 (fourteen years ago) link
x-post Yeah see, that's just not right.
lol I was going add that I'm sure you're a great date and that many dudes would be sad to not have a chance at a second date but seriously TEARS??? C'mon.
― bear say hi to me (ENBB), Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:35 (fourteen years ago) link
you know if i was dating a girl and she cried after 1 date i'd be turned off, too.
― ms. thighs (tehresa), Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:35 (fourteen years ago) link
I went on a date with a girl, I made her cry when I told her the story about my dog dying. I never saw her again. I actually thought the date had gone quite well.
― hey it's (jel --), Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:36 (fourteen years ago) link
OK crying about your dog dying might be acceptable. Crying in the situation Laurel described? Not OK.
― bear say hi to me (ENBB), Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:37 (fourteen years ago) link
There are people on here that I know who they are in RL. Haha it's sort of like, one assumes that if we both wanted to go out, we'd have um spoken to each other already?
― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:43 (fourteen years ago) link
laurel i think you should go the eharmony route.
― ian, Tuesday, 3 November 2009 22:46 (fourteen years ago) link
Laurel, I think that is an engaging and honest profile.
Not sure whether to go back on here. Like KBP I can vouch for the fact it works, but real-life serious heartbreak experiences may ensue. But I could just schedule nonstop datefests to keep me focused on, you know, possibilities.
― ljubljana, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 01:18 (fourteen years ago) link
I'm on it but I'm just too lazy and uncommitted to go on regularly enough to actually have exchanges with people, much less go on dates. (Still trying to decide whether I should get in touch with cute guy I met at party & facebook friended last weekend, or just be passive and assume we'll meet again...if THAT'S too much work then internet dating is way too much.) I think it's the kind of thing you can't really let lapse, you have to stay on or off!
― Maria, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 01:41 (fourteen years ago) link
Someone's IMing me and wants to meet and go bowling? I intended to go really slowly on this thing, but he's all Chatty Kathy.
― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 01:43 (fourteen years ago) link
er...is he nice?
― Maria, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 01:52 (fourteen years ago) link
Um. I think so? I can't really tell. If it were left up to me, I'd just rule out everyone I didn't already know, who didn't already know my friends, and with whom I didn't already share music, subculture allegiance, etc. Which leaves me pretty much where I am, which is why I'm online dating.
― I would feel confident if I dated her because I am older than (Laurel), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 01:54 (fourteen years ago) link
go for it laurel, whats the worst that can happen, besides him turning out to be a murderer
― Bobby Wo (max), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 01:57 (fourteen years ago) link
i'm more judging him for suggesting bowling...on the bright side it's low pressure but man it's sort of boring
― Maria, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:04 (fourteen years ago) link
so uh do it if you like bowling?
I don't like the IMing because there's real-time pressure to agree to a date. You can turn it off in settings...
― ljubljana, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:14 (fourteen years ago) link
risk of seeing ppl one knows in real life om okcupid kinda freaks me out tbh. like once i sent a girl a message and it was killy. o-O
― ian, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:17 (fourteen years ago) link
did her status not say she had a boyfriend??
― quaq quao, sweetie (electricsound), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:20 (fourteen years ago) link
she was single iirc
― ian, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:23 (fourteen years ago) link
Argh I still have an okc profile wtf. I just edited the whole thing so it gives away as little info as possible. And says I like futurama. Also, the photo on it appears to be at least 8 years old and I have brick red and blonde hair.
― i obtain much semillon (Trayce), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:29 (fourteen years ago) link
ok i just read the last week of this thread - lol what the fuck lorax. i'm kinda mad at all of u for scaring away this delicate aspie flower, how about soem constructive criticism instead of snickering at him like he is the uncool kid at school
― spergliacci (cankles), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 02:54 (fourteen years ago) link
bowling is really fun! and there is usually beer!
― paragon of incalescence (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 03:07 (fourteen years ago) link
the secret to bowling: do it exactly the same every time = wini don't know what the secret to winning dating is tho. possibly not that.
― paragon of incalescence (rrrobyn), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 03:10 (fourteen years ago) link
Yeah I love bowling. I'd be psyched to be asked on a bowling date tbh.
― bear say hi to me (ENBB), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:19 (fourteen years ago) link
me too.
― sarahel, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:20 (fourteen years ago) link
So the secret to winning at dating is to finger the balls as deftly as possible and then throw them down a hallway... wait, thats not right.
― i obtain much semillon (Trayce), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:27 (fourteen years ago) link
No, the secret is not to put too much spin on things, and if you're just starting out, it's okay to put it between your legs and push.
― sarahel, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:31 (fourteen years ago) link
<3 this and all the bowling jokes
― mh, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:41 (fourteen years ago) link
The secret is not to put too much spin on things, and if you're just starting out, it's okay to put it between your legs and push.
Really good general advice for the graduates imo.
― all yoga attacks are fire based (rogermexico.), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:42 (fourteen years ago) link
but seriously, if i signed up on that site, i'd probably do something like post a picture of myself wearing a Child Abuse band t-shirt standing in front of an elementary school, that would seem funny at the time, but probably a bad idea in terms of attracting dates.
― sarahel, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 04:59 (fourteen years ago) link
well, it would probably attract a few people who get it and a lot of people who "get it" and would annoy you and think they know you.
― all yoga attacks are fire based (rogermexico.), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 05:22 (fourteen years ago) link
lj would be on it tho
― mookieproof, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 05:29 (fourteen years ago) link
xp - at least it would probably deter guys who want kids.
― sarahel, Wednesday, 4 November 2009 06:37 (fourteen years ago) link
wait, there are guys who want kids?
― ms. thighs (tehresa), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 06:39 (fourteen years ago) link
I read somewhere that bowling actually was the perfect activity for a first date... not as much interaction as going for a coffee or dinner, but not as little as going to watch a movie. Or maybe I made it up?
― one boob is free with one (daavid), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 06:57 (fourteen years ago) link
tza I've been with a couple of guys who desperately wanted kids! (so they were shit out of luck with me). It is interesting how few guy actively want kids though: I run with the theory many men just let it happen.
― i obtain much semillon (Trayce), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 07:26 (fourteen years ago) link
I want kids eventually
― But no hope for norwegian posters, sorry. (Curt1s Stephens), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 07:37 (fourteen years ago) link
eventually
the cunning escape clause
― niggaz thought M.A.S stand for mop and shit (sic), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 09:13 (fourteen years ago) link
"why don't girls like me with all my lovable flaws PS i just rudely brushed off a girl for having a flaw"
This is why I cannot be bothered with online dating, TBH.
― The Paisley (shop) Window Pane (Masonic Boom), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 11:39 (fourteen years ago) link
you gotta kiss a lot of frogs loraxes to find your prince captain
― niggaz thought M.A.S stand for mop and shit (sic), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 11:46 (fourteen years ago) link
My captain, he is looking for me. High and low. On the seven seas.
http://www.bbc.co.uk/pressoffice/images/bank/programmes_tv/drama/ends/300_jared.jpg
But I've given up looking for him, and am sticking to wasting my time on twitter.
― The Paisley (shop) Window Pane (Masonic Boom), Wednesday, 4 November 2009 11:48 (fourteen years ago) link