Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

hetty is here to clean up this polluted world
http://www.reevoo.com/decidewhattobuy/wp-content/uploads/2009/01/love-hetty-and-henry-numatic.jpg

awesome

it's just so romantic ...

i really can't decide if lorax is a sock or not

if he is, the person responsible is the most amazing puppeteer ever

sarahel if u care i am playing rekkerds now on eastvillageradio.com

a mellow night.

no chixxx.

i've heard of that actually - i thought it was a storefront space? but yeah, doing a radio show isn't a great way to meet people - been there.

Too bad Cassavetes isn't around to turn this thread into another masterpiece. Would someone give Elaine May the money to do it?

I must say, all of this talk has really made me convinced that I should create an OkCupid account. It sounds like there are a lot of unique personalities out there.

holy shit, lorax.

In case you are still reading this and not a sockpuppet, the point isn't that you're too unique for most girls, it's that you're flipping back and forth (in the pasted email) between trying to convey that uniqueness through quirk of writing, and trying to cover it up/explain it away. This is separate from the whole issue of just saying kind of rude/awkward stuff like asking their ethnicity or the whole "your type of girl" which most people aren't going to receive well - I mean, right or wrong, I like to think of me as ME rather than as a member of a type, you know? There's actually very little in that email that feels specific to the person you're writing to, and that's going to get it quietly ignored more than anything. The whole "that's my question" thing is just out of place - it makes it seem like you don't have much to say to her but felt obligated to say something, you know?

Just talk to them as the person they are on their profile and have a conversation with them (if they go for it). But you have to figure out why you're on the site and why you're emailing these particular people.

should all be taken with a grain of salt, tho, as it's been two years since i got laid from okcupid. I think my profile probably reads as pervy and nerdy to 99% of anybody, but I'm kind of OK with that because pervy nerdy people are what I'm after, etc. Not sure if this is really distinct from Lorax's "uniqueness" line but whatevs.

ps in case it's not clear above, I don't think conveying uniqueness through quirk of writing is a good idea, AT ALL
pps fair being fair my wordy, over-long okcupid profile is "alkibiades" for anyone that wants to heap on the abuse!

THREAD-KILLING advice, ladies and gentlemen!

Not your fault, we were in a mood of mourning after driving lorax away.

he should of wrote "if you get to know me"

http://www.iwatchstuff.com/2009/07/29/lorax.jpg

THREAD-KILLING advice, ladies and gentlemen!

Don't worry - LJ will be back in a matter of days, presumably.

OMG I totally just joined this. My roommate made me ("strongly encouraged" is, I believe, the polite term).

I'm going to write the arsiest profile, though.

let us help u

I have some photos you can use

Oh okay thanks. NO WAIT

Crepe-Suzette.

I kinda hope for a girl that likes the lovable loser

I guess it's unsporting to reply to Lorax a week after the fact, but I think both losers and those who might potentially love them are done a great disservice by all those Hollywood rom-coms where the beautiful starlet is bowled over by the sudden realisation of acute loserphilia

RIP Lorax, I snapped at you on some other "why don't girls like me with all my lovable flaws PS i just rudely brushed off a girl for having a flaw" thread so I guess you are not exactly looking for my opinion, but I will miss yr posts nonetheless

I like that it thinks I am a "similar user" to girls who are aged 20. Actually no I don't like that at all.

i got a free month of a-list, so if anyone wants some AWARDZ just lemme know

This website works btw.

Aw Phil :D

i might be going on a facebook 'date' on sunday.
but maybe i'll decide to flake out cuz i am scurred of womens.

quite right.

x-post Oh just go, you never know. I know what it's like to be weirded out though. The few dates I went on as a result of a dating website I was on years ago were never really all that great and it can be pretty intimidating. Just go and hang out and not dwell on the DATE factor.

Umm remember when I said I went on a date once with someone who got rly upset when I said I didn't think we should go out again, I thkn he might have cried and we had to leave the bar? Yep, he's on there.

lol!

Oh dear. You made him cry though so he probably won't bug you.

why u break <3

B/c he dressed like an Amish. As a lifestyle choice. NB: Was not actually an Amish.

did he own a possum?

I hope he doesn't read ILX b/c that will make him sound terrible when actually he was a nice, smart guy. But just...no.

Does an Amish allow pets? Maybe I should write him to ask.

A nice smart guy WHO CRIED when you told him you didn't think you should see each other again. O_O

This was just one date too, right?

y

I mean I like to think I give good first-date value, but that's just...a lot.

women spontaneously cry in public ALL THE GODDAMN TIME but when a GUY does it... ooooooh, boy.

x-post Yeah see, that's just not right.

lol I was going add that I'm sure you're a great date and that many dudes would be sad to not have a chance at a second date but seriously TEARS??? C'mon.

you know if i was dating a girl and she cried after 1 date i'd be turned off, too.

I went on a date with a girl, I made her cry when I told her the story about my dog dying. I never saw her again. I actually thought the date had gone quite well.

OK crying about your dog dying might be acceptable. Crying in the situation Laurel described? Not OK.

There are people on here that I know who they are in RL. Haha it's sort of like, one assumes that if we both wanted to go out, we'd have um spoken to each other already?

laurel i think you should go the eharmony route.

Laurel, I think that is an engaging and honest profile.

Not sure whether to go back on here. Like KBP I can vouch for the fact it works, but real-life serious heartbreak experiences may ensue. But I could just schedule nonstop datefests to keep me focused on, you know, possibilities.

I'm on it but I'm just too lazy and uncommitted to go on regularly enough to actually have exchanges with people, much less go on dates. (Still trying to decide whether I should get in touch with cute guy I met at party & facebook friended last weekend, or just be passive and assume we'll meet again...if THAT'S too much work then internet dating is way too much.) I think it's the kind of thing you can't really let lapse, you have to stay on or off!

Someone's IMing me and wants to meet and go bowling? I intended to go really slowly on this thing, but he's all Chatty Kathy.

er...is he nice?