Just when you thought it was safe - OK CUPID PART 3: The Return of the WOO!

groucho lorax

I don't want to be with someone whom I'm not interested in. Furthermore it would be bad if we got drunk and had sex and she likes me and I don't like her... I have never broken a girls heart before.

maybe you should consider giving her a chance before you decide you're not interested in her? especially considering that you don't seem to be swimming in opportunities.

And mh obviously I would want want someone who is interested in me and vice versa (isn't that what we all want). I don't know what you are getting at but it's not like I get hung up on a girl if she has a boyfriend. I just move on. And no I don't give some girls a chance if I know it would never work out.

I'm not officially looking for a girl atm iatee

hey Lorax you realize this is you being weird right

Lorax, I *completely* know where you're coming from, and I don't know the specifics of this case, and I wouldn't like to say! But when I was 15/16 and was kinda weird about girls there were two occasions on which I turned ppl down because I didn't fancy them, and, looking back, this was totally a wrong and stupid and a terrible decision. I dunno, you're probably ahead of the level I was at then.

if she were really, really hot, would you be 'officially' looking for a girl?

although frankly Lorax i do NOT blame you for getting the jitters over actually meeting someone that you just now had an online conversation with. the whole scenario of talk-over-internet-then-meet-f2f produces a whole host of odd anxieties i think

xp yes iatee

"hey Lorax you realize this is you being weird right" - Tracer Hand
is it weird that I am choosy before having met someone who I don't think I would ever be physically attracted to?

she's a bbw isn't she

you gotta hit that

no comment

you made this difficult for yourself when you had imaginary drunk sex with her and then she imaginarily fell in love with you.

actually I made it difficult when I initially talked to her and gave out tmi about myself, but the problem was solved 3 hours ago when I blew her off.

i can only imagine what you told her, but it helps me understand why she fell in love with you

well I never said she fell in love with me but like an idiot I gave out to much information and she has already texted me

I guess my problem is that I never completely blew her off

you made this difficult for yourself when you had imaginary drunk sex with her and then she imaginarily fell in love with you.

― estela, Tuesday, October 27, 2009 4:17 PM (6 minutes ago)

for once I exhibited more restraint than estela. i thought about posting something along these lines, but felt it would be too cruel.

ug my problem is that I listed that I wanted new friends on OK CUPID but I only did that because some girls don't want to date someone unless they become friends first...

but since ilxor has made this into a big deal maybe I'll text her back and take her out to the bar for trivia tonight. she is poor and doesn't have a car - a real diamond in the rough

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the thing is, xp, I'm not looking for new friends unless it leads to a relationship or nsa partner, but even with nsa partners I have never hit an obese girl and I still am picky!

but like I said - I made it difficult on myself as soon as I first started chatting with her

wait she's POOR? nevermind then
you could just be friends though, for real. you might like her.

you are just way way ahead of yourself imo.

if I do take her out tonight my only hope is that I am wrong about what type of people I'm interested in meeting (maybe friends is okay). but as you all can tell I am feeling pretty weird about taking her out so I probably shouldn't do it at all

i think you are giving yourself a little too much credit in this situation.

dude, aren't you living at home with your parents?

xp i wasn't being cruel, i think people often cause themselves unnecessary stress by scripting difficult situations that might never happen.

you gotta hit that

keep diggin' that hole, big man

if anything, what I learned from all this is that I should never tell a girl that she is pretty in an introductory e-mail on a websites like okcupid. it might scare her off

this girl has scared me off and I totally agree estela

xp to estela: - oh definitely, but it also functioned as a pretty powerful zing, dear.

did it occur to you she may have offered to hang out of pity since you made such a point of not having anyone to go with?

keep diggin' that hole, big man

i got nothing to hide

I would have taken her - the concert got canceled.

i got nothing to hide

what about that scarf collection

women's, men's or both?

we're gonna stop talking about my situation because I rather hear yall's OK CUPID stories from now on (and I hadn't planned on talking so much about this in the first place. I fail at being 100% open to everyone about anything - it's a personality trait of mine that led to a much longer board exchange than it should have been.. and it also led me to talking to this girl in the first place)

honestly though, estela, tehresa, and the other girls reading this: would you be scared if a guy said you are pretty in an introductory e-mail off a dating site?

it depends on what else the guy said, honestly.

are you a girl too?

a girl sockpuppet, yes

xp I always thought you are a boy kinda like the German dude I knew named Sasha. Maybe you come off as a boy?

what sarahel said, but no, not immediately.
if that is ALL they said, i'd probably be annoyed and not interested.

me & harbl:

http://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/thumb/b/b3/Female_troll_2.jpg/180px-Female_troll_2.jpg

damn I would put my hand in that sockpuppet

^ the wrong way to go about it

well the problem is I only want to put my hand in sockpuppets that don't seem interested in me

xpost - if it were just "hey you're pretty" i probably wouldn't bother replying, if he said other stuff that could start a conversation it could be fine though. it's not a SCARY statement.

i agree that you shouldn't go out with people you're fairly sure you won't be interested in, but it seems to me the bigger issue here is giving out a lot of personal information all at once to someone you're fairly sure you won't be interested in. maybe it's because i'm female and trained into paranoia, but i'd be careful with that even if i felt more excited about the person.

the other issue here is that, if you said you were interested in meeting friends, why it's such a big deal to hang out w/ someone you don't want to fuck. but i guess you do want to meet sex partners and are just being dishonest, which is why most internet sites like this are creepy.

otm

I said I was interested in everything tehresa

but maybe I should scratch friends off the list.

OK girls, I'll let you deconstruct how bad my last letter was to random stranger

Subject: hello miss mysterious

I like your profile.. my first impression is that you are adorable. I've always wondered if girls like you that seem to be really strong-willed (second impression) are girly-girls or not?

So that's my question. Do you have a girly-girl side to your personality? How would you describe the part of your personality that you said might get mistaken for "bitch" - the part of your personality that I guessed was strong-willed?

I have a side to me that isn't anything like the pictures of stuffed animals on my profile... yeah, I'm 100% male and probably more hetero than the average guy (that's why once you get to know me I could get away with posting pictures of myself with cuddly stuffed animals)

Please write back :)
What is your ethnicity?