no boys allowed in the room!!!!

however, at 43, one thing I'm less good at that I value is seeing clearly out of my right eye. So, I get to join the ranks of wearers of glasses.

https://www.bitchmedia.org/article/fragility-body-positivity

that confirmed some of my feelings about being sold stuff, esp as a woman
i enjoyed looking at some of the other pieces in the series on fragility
it's an interesting theme

speaking of bodies and clothes, i really enjoyed this article -- honk if you have ever dressed in a way that is intentionally unflattering so that pigs would leave you alone
https://www.chicagoreader.com/chicago/womens-fashion-history-rational-dress-society-universal-standard/Content?oid=36044487

I feel like more and more of a fraud every time I post on this thread (but it is technically, the "no boys" thread, and I am no boy) but this, on the demonisation of women and gossip:

https://tankmagazine.com/issue-70/features/hannah-black/

And this thread, from the author, of the political context of the book which inspired it:

gonna share some quotes from silvia federici's book caliban and the witch, about the genesis of capitalist patriarchy, that this lil essay is based on https://t.co/ElxxbHrWVa

— hanni b (@nanpansky) January 11, 2018

feel really important and urgent and even key, at this time and many others.

have I missed it or has there been no notice/acknowledgment of dramatic drop off in chixor presence on ilx

not to take away at all from stalwart women posters!

I may be wrong because I stick with my biased bookmarks

what is up, i dunno

hallo! yep noticed it as well

Oh we've definitely noticed and talked about it within the last couple months though I can't remember on which thread. It makes me sad and is absolutely one of the reasons I post less, I think.

some prominent women posters have been gone for a very long time
others have disappeared in the last year or two
still more continue to post periodically
a handful post regularly

honestly idk that proportionally the # of women posters who have departed has been greater than the # of men who have stopped posting, it's just more noticeable because there were fewer women posters to begin with

Hello broads and other not-boys.

Should I quit my job or wait until I get fired? I have nothing lined up except volunteer work.

Last fall the new CEO told the managers he wants everyone to drink the Kool-Aid, and am tempted to hand in a picture of Jonestown as my resignation.

Also tempted to leave saying "MISS VANJIE"

lol yes

if you are truly deeply miserable, quit
if you can weather the ennui, stay. then again getting fired is no picnic... shrug

I quit my job without something else lined up.

Thought I had a new job in the bag after what I thought was a great interview two weeks ago. They said they'd let me know last week. The week came and went, no return phone call from recruiter or return e-mail from the hiring manager.

Rude!

Tokyo, are you still in NJ? You should try to get fired/volunteer to be laid-off for better chances of severance/unemployment.

i don't have the energy to post but i'm here

Not that many threads interest me tbh? I read the politics threadz for my own information and check on a few others, but mostly I'm busy, stressed, tired, over-stimulated already. Hi though!

quincie: super rude!

Yerac: I'm in NY. I don't think I'd get severence and applying for unemployment seems like so much work!

After 14 years NOW they are taking wearing the official uniform seriously? And no fun colors for nails? NO THANKS.

I kind of love applying for jobs while I already have another job; my anger at a current jobs motivates me. And then I accept interviews not even wanting the job and one thing leads to another. Start looking now.

"I quit my job without something else lined up.

Thought I had a new job in the bag after what I thought was a great interview two weeks ago. They said they'd let me know last week. The week came and went, no return phone call from recruiter or return e-mail from the hiring manager.

Rude!

― mom tossed in kimchee (quincie), Sunday, May 6, 2018 5:10 PM (yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink"

SAME. It's so frustrating, right? The recruiter I'm working through hasn't heard from the company and keeps saying she hopes she'll know something soon. :/

Apparently I am naive and did not know that ghosting was a thing in these situations. I mean, the hiring manager basically asked me how soon I could start and said "HUG!" and hugged me goodbye???

WTF.

Yeah the HR woman LOVED me and I got a note back from one of the people I met with saying she hoped to be working with me soon and then nothing. So weird. I was pretty excited about this place too. :/

Several times I've gone back to a company 3 times and spent the equivalent of 8 hours meeting people and been basically told that they would see me soon. And then ghost. Not even a template "we have decided on another candidate" email. It's pretty bad all around.

One week late though isn't terrible. Sometimes with vacations etc. it takes awhile to get proper approvals for hirings/salary. And if it's a large company and all the hiring approvals are systematically routed sometimes they get stuck/lost in the system. So fingers crossed still!

^ That is exactly what the recruiter said to me so we'll see.

yeah some companies take forever to do anything. I got a rejection email a month and a half after taking an online personality test with this one company, and all i could think was jfc i’d hate to see what their turnaround was for a candidate they DO like.

but yeah ghosting is all too common which sucks

I made 2 follow up calls to the HR recruiter and sent an email to the hiring manager aka the hugger; feels so ominous and I was so keyed up all last week that now I just want to forget it all happened :(

I dunno when I was a hiring manager at the very least I would have had HR follow up--ghosting just seems so unprofessional, but sounds like it is not uncommon.

DOUBLE RUDE

otm

A long time ago now, but I contacted a company after going through the interview process some weeks before - I hadn't heard after like a month or 6 weeks or so, so I did my routine (at that time) request for feedback only to be told they were still going through the recruitment process! I did eventually work for them in another capacity.

I don't want to post too many details but an ILX-most-hated entity was potentially linked to my org for a while - was quite WTF but it went away in the end.

The last part there is very cryptic and I'm intrigued.

^^^

NOT an ilxor, I should clarify!

she said "most-hated" so i'm thinking it was dave matthews, he is so bad and hated

Him and Nataly Dawn were hired to head up the party planning committee

Does anyone in this forum know about submucosal fibroids and their removal? I have a consultation next week with a gynecologist, and I'm hoping this will help with my massively heavy periods.

On the advice of my gyn and surgeon, I went full on hysterectomy to fix the fibroid problem. Went super smoothly for me. Seriously, I have had tooth extractions that were more difficult! But it was an easy decision for me since I wasn't gonna have kiddos anyway.

Between my age and certain other preexisting conditions, having a baby would be a terrible idea. (Unfortunately, if I take after my mother I have another 5-7 years before menopause.) The gynecologist I saw last week suggested that my case could be handled in a one-day procedure, so I'm trying to do some research to figure out just I should ask the doctor next week. I wouldn't categorically object to a hysterectomy, but the shorter the recovery period the better.

hi ladies!!!

Hiiiiiiiii I miss my wimmens

regarding fibroids, I can't speak to that situation exactly, but I had polyps removed 5 years ago and it was a cinch. It made my period get WAY better.

Now it's bad again, which I guess means I have more polyps again argh

Good news: The doctor I saw today recommended doing a myomectomy ("shaving" the submucosal fibroid) plus endometrial ablation. This probably wouldn't eliminate my periods, but it should significantly reduce them, which is just FINE BY ME.

good luck! btw that sounds like an intense procedure

Crossing my fingers. The doctor did describe it as an outpatient procedure, with "twilight sleep" as opposed to full anesthesia, and a couple of days recovery time. That makes it sound a lot less involved than a hysterectomy.

piece of cake <3

hope everyone and their periods are ok
i have monster cramps right now and was a complete monster for like 3 days before this onslaught started
bumping this thread as a uterine salute i guess

shouldn't say i was a monster -- i was extremely irritable and moody and unpleasant

yeah god i was practically in tears at my desk last week just bcz reasons idk it was rough, my moods have been crazier than normal around period time lately

#uterinesalute

yeah i did a little reading about PMDD but it doesn't look like i am quite there yet
just suuuuuuuuuper moody and unsure of what is a real feeling and what is a PMS symptom

this is sort of interesting -- i never thought about my relationship to calcium https://www.webmd.com/women/pms/features/diet-and-pms#1

(unless it was related to bone health -- that i know)