xp I thought it was literally about THE history of violence, maybe a documentary? It was kind of a date too I think.
― peacocks, Monday, 19 July 2010 20:43 (thirteen years ago) link
OK I may have to watch that again because I don't recall that scene on the stairs as being a rape scene. In fact, I remember it being pretty hot. :/
― o sh!t a ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ (ENBB), Monday, 19 July 2010 20:44 (thirteen years ago) link
That sounds like a horrible date movie, unless I happened to be on a date with someone who was very turned on by hearing my feminist discourse on depictions of violence against women in popular entertainment.
― sinister chemical wisdom (Jenny), Monday, 19 July 2010 20:44 (thirteen years ago) link
my immediate goal is to have my apartment not look like it's inhabited by a mentally ill rodent
haaaa, I fear this shd be mine too, definitely familiar with the self-loathing feedback loop of putting off cleaning
thank you for all your bike tips! the way the local bikes and buses compete for a shared bike/bus lane is kind of terrifying to me so I don't think I'd even consider it if I couldn't think of a way to get 80% of the way between work and home without going on the road - but this route is a dirt path and unlit during early winter evenings, so maybe also not a good plan, but hey
can't find any council bike training, but I did find a local cycle co-op which claims to offer cheap training and cheap bikes (though it doesn't specify the prices, so, uh)
― atoms breaking heart (a passing spacecadet), Monday, 19 July 2010 20:46 (thirteen years ago) link
p-style is great for stand-up peeing in portapotties at jobsites/outdoor festivals. I can imagine skirt-wearing, but not trouser-wearing, standup peeing.
spacecadet, check to see if any of the local bike shops do rentals!
― Jaq, Monday, 19 July 2010 20:48 (thirteen years ago) link
Just added History of Violence to my netflix because I wanted to watch it again anyway. Just found this quote from an interview in the Montreal mirror with the actress involved which seems to coincide with the way I remember that scene:
I pity the reporter who interviewed Maria Bello shortly before me. The misguided feminist apparently referred to the animalistic stairwell sex in A History of Violence as a “semi-rape” scene. Big mistake.
“I was so angry,” says Bello, the star of David Cronenberg’s most Hollywood effort to date. “I mean it’s unforgivable. If you look at the scene, we were fighting and fighting and then he starts pulling away ’cause he feels bad. So then I pull him to me because I want to fuck this person I’ve never met before, and I feel a desire and loss of control that I’ve never felt before. It’s a huge turning point for my character. So for someone to even allude to that as rape is just stupidity.”
It’s especially frustrating for Bello because of the efforts made with co-star Viggo Mortensen before shooting the scene to ensure that the choreography couldn’t be misconstrued.
― o sh!t a ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ (ENBB), Monday, 19 July 2010 20:52 (thirteen years ago) link
Not trying to start any big discussion on that movie btw (sure there is probably a thread for it anyway) just thought that quote was interesting.
― o sh!t a ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ (ENBB), Monday, 19 July 2010 20:53 (thirteen years ago) link
ENBB: clearing shit up.
― kate78, Monday, 19 July 2010 20:53 (thirteen years ago) link
yeah, i didn't read it as rape at all - i also thought it was pretty hot.
― sarahel, Monday, 19 July 2010 20:54 (thirteen years ago) link
lol. I can totally see how someone would be disturbed by that scene. Sex + violence is a combination that will always be disturbing at least on some level. Like everything it's open to interpretation and will effect everyone differently. I just thought it was interesting to see what Maria Bello had to say about it.
― o sh!t a ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ (ENBB), Monday, 19 July 2010 20:56 (thirteen years ago) link
the lol there x-post to Kate btw
― o sh!t a ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ (ENBB), Monday, 19 July 2010 20:57 (thirteen years ago) link
that sex scene just didn't strike me as particularly violent ... like it seemed very much an emotional tension leading to sexual release kinda thing.
― sarahel, Monday, 19 July 2010 20:58 (thirteen years ago) link
Apparently a lot of ppl thought that was a semi-rape scene and in retrospect I can see where that stems from. I just find it really interesting that the same scene can cause such different reactions in ppl. You know?
― o sh!t a ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ (ENBB), Monday, 19 July 2010 20:58 (thirteen years ago) link
It's been too long for me to remember real details but I think that's sort of what I thought too well other than "damn, that's some hot stair fucking".
― o sh!t a ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ (ENBB), Monday, 19 July 2010 20:59 (thirteen years ago) link
yeah - it makes me wonder what their sexual histories are like - not saying that the rape/semi-rape reading is "wrong"
Me & the ex-bf would watch Cronenberg movies in the way that other couples watch porn as a "marital aid" - sorry if that's TMI.
― sarahel, Monday, 19 July 2010 21:00 (thirteen years ago) link
. . .
― o sh!t a ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ (ENBB), Monday, 19 July 2010 21:04 (thirteen years ago) link
;)
Not to be all womyn's issues message board on anyone, but I'm uncomfortable with questioning anyone's sexual history because they read a sex scene differently. If you allowed that, you could also say that anyone who works in rape crisis or counseling or agitates for greater awareness/protection must have been raped because they have particular empathy for the victims, or something equally illogical. It just doesn't follow and I don't like the direction of "She's more (read 'overly') sensitive because she's a victim/survivor/whatever."
― the soul of the avocado escapes as soon as you open it (Laurel), Monday, 19 July 2010 21:14 (thirteen years ago) link
oh, no, I wasn't even thinking of sexual histories in terms of experience/work with domestic violence at all! I was thinking primarily in terms of practices (like someone that is into bdsm might read it differently than someone who hasn't done that), or duration of relationships, or ways of relating with their partners - like, have they had the experience of getting in an argument or dealing with a traumatic event and then having sex.
― sarahel, Monday, 19 July 2010 21:17 (thirteen years ago) link
Okay, fine! Just me being over-sensitive, then. Nothing to see here.
― the soul of the avocado escapes as soon as you open it (Laurel), Monday, 19 July 2010 21:18 (thirteen years ago) link
No, you're not being over-sensitive at all - I realize that what I initially said was ambiguous.
― sarahel, Monday, 19 July 2010 21:19 (thirteen years ago) link
I thought she meant the sexual histories of the characters. Whoops. Yes Laurel, I agree with you 100%.
― o sh!t a ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ (ENBB), Monday, 19 July 2010 21:19 (thirteen years ago) link
Consent is instrumental to BDSM, though.
My perspective was that I was very uncomfortable with that scene. It was ambiguous enough with regards to consent that it seemed like it could be rape. But I don't remember the context well enough to be able to consider it beyond my memory of my reaction to that scene.
― JuliaA, Monday, 19 July 2010 22:24 (thirteen years ago) link
spacecadet, aren't you in oxford? </.xls> i'm moving there sept/oct -- seriously, if you haven't learnt by then i'll set you loose on my bike (i am q short, the saddle can be raised if necessary).
― oligopoly golightly (c sharp major), Monday, 19 July 2010 23:18 (thirteen years ago) link
http://chicago.craigslist.org/wcl/fuo/1849586554.html
Let's talk about whether these end tables are awesome enough to warrant a trip out to the 'burbs. I vote yes. Jeff is skeptical, but I think if we put the coffee table... somewhere else the end tables won't be too ridiculously overwhelming.
― sinister chemical wisdom (Jenny), Monday, 19 July 2010 23:35 (thirteen years ago) link
omg yes i want those
― the girl with the butt tattoo (harbl), Monday, 19 July 2010 23:38 (thirteen years ago) link
they're amazing! i can see how it might be hard to resist the impulse to redesign the room to match them, though.
― oligopoly golightly (c sharp major), Monday, 19 July 2010 23:39 (thirteen years ago) link
They're great!
― o sh!t a ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ (ENBB), Monday, 19 July 2010 23:45 (thirteen years ago) link
those are great, Jenny!
GIS has opened my eyes to the prospect of leopard print office chairs!
― sarahel, Monday, 19 July 2010 23:45 (thirteen years ago) link
Our living room furniture would all more or less coordinate, color-wise, although it would end up being a serious RIOT of random prints. We've been meaning to get a new rug for like, seven years (I love our rug (here - http://farm1.static.flickr.com/7/11135542_404d9d0697.jpg - it's hard to tell but the main color is navy blue), and I've had it forever but it's getting pretty beat to shit and is probably not worth the expense of having repaired, so maybe these crazy ass tables would be the catalyst we've been waiting for.
― sinister chemical wisdom (Jenny), Monday, 19 July 2010 23:47 (thirteen years ago) link
That particular sex scene in History of Violence – Cronenberg brought his wife on set, so they could act out for Mortenson & Bello how to do it on screen. Which made me lol at this sentence: "It’s especially frustrating for Bello because of the efforts made with co-star Viggo Mortensen before shooting the scene to ensure that the choreography couldn’t be misconstrued." Is this the "choreography" they were referring to?
I could defs see AHOV making people uncomfortable, esp. sensitive people. OTOH after someone did something really abuse-y to me, this was the first movie I wanted to see. I think I watched History of Violence four times that week. Then I made some friends come over & watch it with me a fifth time. I think I just wanted to see a movie I liked that featured bad guys getting their asses kicked.
― could be a bad day for (Abbott), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 00:00 (thirteen years ago) link
btw by "act out how to do it on screen" I mean Cronenberg fucked his wife on set, right in front of them.
― could be a bad day for (Abbott), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 00:01 (thirteen years ago) link
Whoa!!!
― sarahel, Tuesday, 20 July 2010 00:02 (thirteen years ago) link
Oh shit that's right! I'd heard that before but totally forgotten about it.
― o sh!t a ˁ˚ᴥ˚ˀ (ENBB), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 00:06 (thirteen years ago) link
wow.
also, jenny, BUY THAT. k votes for you to buy it too.
― JuliaA, Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:16 (thirteen years ago) link
Jeff firmly vetoed. Curse his sleek, clean, modern sensibilities. Or my chaotic, borderline tacky, Hollywood Regency/Art Noveau/Rococo, Victorian clown barf design preferences, either one.
― sinister chemical wisdom (Jenny), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:37 (thirteen years ago) link
http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_HV7mKwSRGNU/Rw4VQRZgCGI/AAAAAAAAATQ/hzo-gVZoCps/s320/grimaldi+scary+clown.jpg
Representative GIS search for "Victorian clown barf."
PS David Cronenberg is a weirdo.
― sinister chemical wisdom (Jenny), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:41 (thirteen years ago) link
That clown looks like Londo from Babylon 5 /nerdface
― Gumbercules (Trayce), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 01:44 (thirteen years ago) link
sleek, clean, modern has nothin on those tables, nothin!
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:20 (thirteen years ago) link
i liked history of violence. i also like d cronenberg - when i heard abt the sex on set thing, i was like, yep. i only wish to one day be that free and crazy with my freak flag (in my own way, not his way, i mean, i'm not going to make a movie like Dead Ringers either, so..)
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 02:24 (thirteen years ago) link
Jenny those end tables are beautiful!
The only Cronenberg movie I have seen other than AHOV is Spider. I remember liking that one, I got sucked into it. I can also understand how that sex scene could be a turning point for the wife's character but I remember it moving so seamlessly from me being freaked out about him getting rough with her to them f-ing. I don't think I've ever had angry sex or had sex after a fight like that, so maybe I just can't relate. The main thing is there was so much more in the movie that I didn't care for.
― peacocks, Tuesday, 20 July 2010 13:38 (thirteen years ago) link
I rly like those tables too, although they're quite busy! Tell Jeff you can put some white cloth napkins on them as drip-catchers that will calm the pattern down. I bought retro-printed yellow cloth table napkins at Target and use them to protect the top of my teak coffee table. Spread them flat, iron flatter if you're feeling OCD.
Or go to second-hand stores and buy old embroidered handkerchiefs or linens for same thing. Very handy.
― the soul of the avocado escapes as soon as you open it (Laurel), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 13:44 (thirteen years ago) link
crush i tried to stop having on someone i thought was kinda just too flakey has returned! with heart-stopping vengence...dammit. i mean, hm. i mean, ow.
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 17:50 (thirteen years ago) link
Aww. Do you still think he's too flaky?
― sinister chemical wisdom (Jenny), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 17:53 (thirteen years ago) link
ooh i hate that. i had that experience semi-recently - return of crush - it went away a lot faster this time than the first time. the feeling, not the person.
― sarahel, Tuesday, 20 July 2010 17:54 (thirteen years ago) link
i think that b/c the crush waned, i was able to see him more clearly as a person, which was good, but also i didn't see him that often in general - partly b/c i never chase people and make all these assumptions abt others' 'busy lives' and how i don't have a place in them (am working on changing that ridic pattern...) - and now i just spent well over an hour w him and am just like omg kindred spirit.
― obliquity of the ecliptic (rrrobyn), Tuesday, 20 July 2010 18:06 (thirteen years ago) link
totally done w/chasing people
it's good when you can see crushes more clearly as people, though sometimes crushes become crushes because the person in question sorta obfuscates their identity and is aloof
― sarahel, Tuesday, 20 July 2010 18:11 (thirteen years ago) link
I know some girls who get guys to fall for him by remaining aloof for as long as possible. I can never do that, I'm so transparent.
― peacocks, Tuesday, 20 July 2010 18:35 (thirteen years ago) link
for them* ugh.
http://www.tallkiss.com/
― peacocks, Tuesday, 20 July 2010 18:36 (thirteen years ago) link