no boys allowed in the room!!!!

I have come to a place of acceptance w/ my preference for walking/public transit over biking as a way to get around. I tried to be a Bike Person, and while I did pretty well with a bike as my main mode of transpo when I lived in college towns, I'm a big old chicken when it comes to any real urban riding. I did fine when I lived in a quieter 'hood and could ride side streets to work (and had a job that was pretty close to my apt. and where arriving all sweatified from riding a bike there was okay) but now that I have a grown up, business casual lawyer job and live in a very busy area (where like three bikers in four months were killed by traffic a couple of years ago), I have decided to let that whole bike riding thing go, and I am very happy w/ that decision.

spacecadet, does your council offer bike training? my council's bike training scheme will lend people bikes for the duration of the 2hr training session - it might be worth seeing if yours does as well? I learnt to ride a bike at age 24 so signed up for bike training to make sure i wasn't doing everything wrong, it was pretty useful.

i like riding my bike about the city but pretty much every trip will involve some kind of stuck-behind-a-bus/undercut-by-a-motorcycle/badly-rolled-up-jeans-caught-in-chain/shouted-at-by-with-driver type incident of screaming terror. but it's kind of balanced out by the bits where it's all joy!

C'mon, I've gone weeks, even months without any terror whatsoever!

I'm not saying everyone's gotta love biking or w/e but don't scare her off before she even starts!

I am just offering the example of contended self-acceptance if it turns out for spacecadet that riding a bike is not for her.

I found that one of the best things about biking to things, weather permitting, was that no matter how inconsequential a time I had at The Actual Thing, I never, EVER felt like it was a waste of my time if I got a nice pedal out of it. Night rides, warm breezes, seeing funny things and viewing views that no one else is there to see at that moment -- this is a great kind of freedom and the pleasure of it really cut me loose from all other expectations.

― the soul of the avocado escapes as soon as you open it (Laurel), Monday, July 19, 2010 11:03 AM (1 hour ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

THIS! Freeeedom! :D

oh i was trying to say that there is a lot of terror but the bliss of being on a bike outweighs it - i think i would feel really bad about my biking, esp the learning period, if i were led to believe that it was supposed to be all joy and freedom and that most people didn't have moments where all thought in their brain was replaced with the word BUS in red capitals.

Yeah, fair enough to Jenny & C#. I think maybe I'm unusually unconcerned about my physical safety -- there's a spike of adrenaline when something bad seems to be happening, but afterward I forget about it and somehow I just don't feel like The Bad Thing can happen to me. Which is clearly statistically false because Bad Things happen to SOMEbody, but it just doesn't sink in or seem important.

i really try to avoid the major bus routes... i'm sure i would spend a few months in terror learning how to bike right in manhattan. i spent a few months in terror learning how to bike in montreal and now a lot of it is total comfort-zone (except semi-suburban route-to-highway busy ridic bus-route streets. fuck those.)

Most of the worries of urban riding where I am are cars that think you should be on the sidewalk (so they honk and yell at you) and having to cross 4 lanes of traffic to turn left. My style of riding, however (if you could call it a style?), is to take as many back roads and neighborhood streets as possible no matter how indirect. That always leads to the kind of time Laurel talks about, which is the best time.

having a bf became a sort of barrier and I felt exposed without a person standing next to me that I could make off hand comments to or laugh at things with.

very true - otoh a friend can also be that person - and you no longer have to deal with a bf that wants to go home earlier than you do, or is tired and feeling a bit anti-social but not saying anything out of politeness and potentially something to resent you for at a later date.

oh, and I was at a show Saturday night, and this guy I sorta know said it was sad that I didn't know how to ride a bicycle, so I think he's going to teach me.

oh my!

that will be cute and there will be touching!

he was pretty wasted when he offered, so I'm not counting on it. But I'm pretty confident that I could find someone to teach me to ride a bike if I made an effort.

though he is friends with the friend of mine that I told could videotape me learning to ride a bike for a music video for his band, because the image of a 35 year old woman repeatedly falling off a bicycle should be put to good aesthetic use.

hahaaa ok that is true

i also think i'm gonna try using my magic eraser mop to wash my walls

There are benefits to not knowing how to do some things! I don't think I have ever washed a wall in my life.

xp Yes, I have a friend who is usually that person and probably will continue to be that person but it would still be good for me to learn to feel comfortable going places alone and talking to new people.

is said friend male or female? Though that's more an issue of talking to new people for purposes of dating vs. just meeting people

i need to wash my walls too. and then paint them!
(i explained the magic eraser to my newish guy friend on sat night and he was amazed and a little freaked out by its magical powers. this was in the context of him having just moved into a place and it needing further cleaning. i wasn't just randomly talking about household cleaning products.)

male

xp

I like it when people are amazed and freaked out by products I mention such as the diva cup, the feeldoe or the pee style

i was reading this book a while ago about how people are affected by their physical environments, and there was a part about messiness and clutter and an anecdote about how when rats are depressed they fail to keep their nests tidy, and my immediate goal is to have my apartment not look like it's inhabited by a mentally ill rodent.

^^ should be rodents, plural, my ex-bf was equally responsible for the state of the apartment - so that's over a decade's worth of depressed rat's nest to tidy

haha i did not know about the latter 2. i love diva cup though!

i generally avoid hygiene products i can't get at a 24 hour store - just based on my known habits

My nest gets filthier the gloomier I am and when my nest is filthy I get gloomy.

my nest is extra filthy right now because it's too hot to clean

well you can have the diva cup forever because it is made of silicone.

i got new curtains and felt a lot better

i like cleaning when it's hot - because if i'm going to be sweaty and gross, i might as well be doing something productive to somewhat distract myself from the sweaty and grossness.

yeah i don't know why it tells you you should only keep it for 10 years. maybe it will spontaneously combust in your vag. i think i've had it for 5 now, though. xpost

I need new curtains, and I need to put up the ones I already have that are still in a box from moving 3 months ago.

the diva cup just makes me want to put a microphone in it and record myself singing arias

LOL @ things spontaneously combusting in my vag.

xpost

love the diva cup, but I had to Google the feeldoe and P. style. I can imagine this being difficult to explain. (The diva cup too–people think it's so gross, when actually it's the best thing ever during my period)

XP I've had my diva cup for seven years. No spontaneous combustion yet.

spontaneous combustion is no joke, yo!

the feeldoe is one of those things I may never get to use and probably don't want to be in a circumstance where I would use it but I kind of really want to try it. y'know? But I mean, who knows where I'll be and who I'll be with in weeks/months/years!

the animated deer wagging its tail is making me LOL

I don't know what the other two things are and I'm not googling them from work, but I can vouch for my Keeper, it's got to be 14 years and counting!

the feeldoe is a sex toy

the pee style is a little flume that lets you pee while standing up. apparently in the full monty there are girls who can do this just by pushing their vag area's forward? I never saw the movie.

there's an apostrophe in that that's confusing me

diva cup rules (i recently replaced my rubber Keeper with it! i feel like i've gone from 90s nu-hippy to 2000s modern eco-gal. lol advertising.)

feeldoe! i had no idea! wows

my immediate goal is to have my apartment not look like it's inhabited by a mentally ill rodent.
hahaha ohman. for a while there in winter when i was feeling down, i thought my place was crazy messy, but this is all relative, b/c i also visited other people's houses and the messyness was rat-style crazy to me. winter here is ridic! that said, i am watering a friend's plants while she's away for a week and her place is, er, chaotic. i really want to clean and tidy, but...

yeah, sorry... um their areas?

vag's areas?

i've been watching too much X-Files...

Varg's areas

vag area x

vag area 51!!!!

sigh - David Duchovny - had been totally ignorant of teh cuetness

Hips/pubic area...thing. I've seen the movie, and they do appear to be peeing standing up perfectly well. Remember they're aiming into a trough on the floor, though, not anything higher than that. I've certainly been in some bathrooms in my life where I'd have peed in the sink if I could, but at that angle/height it's completely impossible.