no boys allowed in the room!!!!

WCC -- I guess I feel like if it's bothering you so much, why are you immersing yourself in the discussion? I guess that's my natural tendency -- to flee conflict -- and it's not that great of a tendency, but it does protect me from getting overly upset about stuff. Sometimes I get overly upset about international relations or private corporate greed or the intersection of these two things. I know the feeling of being upset about a current topic. But I have to make myself take breaks, especially if there's nothing I can do about the situation from my current position in life. It's why I couldn't go into that field professionally! It would have taken over my brain and made me MISERABLE.

Anyway, I don't mean to diminish your feelings or your reaction to this article -- I just wanted to add my unsolicited $0.02 about the topic.

ha LL no the xp was whoa because who PSYCHIC LINK
you've seen it too! :D

Seriously the less I read about anything about how you present yourself to the world, the more at peace with myself I am. I had made *the mistake* of reading something about what kind of decor will help you get laid (har) if you bring over a man. Which, why did I read that? What was I thinking? It made my house I worked so hard to carefully decorate after my own dreams – it made my house seem the product of a deranged mind for a couple days. Which it isn't. Garbage in, garbage out, and there's so much garbage in disguise as reading material.

Anyway I have a giant framed print of this over my bed, and guess who has sex under it, it's this lady
http://www.bongonews.com/StoryImages/double_entendre_-_beating_off.jpg

Hey, I'm not upset. I just thought it was something worth discussing. And seeing if other people thought it was kinda bullshit, too.

I follow the discussion because I'm interested in it, the gendering of interests etc. etc.

I don't believe in that whole "if something upsets you, ignore it" way of thinking because these things have ways of affecting you, even when - especially when - you're not paying attention to them. So I think it's better to be aware of, and be aware of the countering mechanisms with this stuff.

Anyway, I wasn't upset at all before. (But now it's kinda bothering me a tiny bit that people can no longer tell the difference between "WCC thinkin' bout stuff out loud" and "WCC actually upset.")

I'm gonna go make more smutty jokes about "standard deviations" with OfficeBoy now instead.

Anyway my Blakean friends you can always call upon the spirit of Los in Jerusalem: "I must create a system, or be enslaved by another man's."
xp

6 billions xposts gatekeeping deployed against women but that doesn't only happen in geek worlds

Oh agreed but
1. that's where I personally see it most;
2. it maybe takes on a slightly different form, in some ways more blatant and in some more insidious? maybe not, but
3. geeks have this horrible conviction that they are Logical Beings and that therefore every thought that enters their head is purely logical and anything which contradicts with it must be illogical, and it gets unpleasant if you try to point out that their kneejerk emotionally-based ideas are not in fact pure binary instructions read off the ROM of the universe

(ok, conviction in your own rightness is a purely human trait rather than a geek thing too, but it's slightly more entrenched as OK to talk like you're the only logical being in the room if you're a geek, or a politician)

I've got a bit off-topic here, sorry, the bees have carried my bonnet over a cliff with me still in it

Yes yes yes, especially to No. 3 there.

<i>women can exist in any damn way they like, it's true.

i honestly do not think the article is worth the time it would take to work out what it is trying to say beyond "some women seem to have made more of an effort to fulfil certain male fantasy roles but tbh it's hard for everyone and judging is nagl"</i>

Read the article and became irritated. Fuck that! I have always liked what I liked without it being a part of some strategy. My likes and dislikes, interests and hobbies have never been part of some strategy to snag a man. They have come in and out of fashion, hipsterdom etc... over the decades but I was there before and remained after. This article reminds me of branding and all that is associated with that. Deconstructing a group until it is so finely filtered and can fit into a nifty lil label or niche demographic. I can care less who is out there trying to be someone they are not. I imagine that shit is hard.

ugh! bbcode...sorry

aaggggghhhh i just remembered how cute harold "happy" chichester is
but this is the saddest thing i have ever seen http://www.howlinmaggie.net/fans/categories.php

AND THEN i went to his facebook page and saw that he is recovering from a bout of bell's palsy!

whoa

sorry for the fluffy subject matter, but apparently my girlish crush on this person persists even after all these years even though i completely forgot about him after 1998 or so?
that's a no boys allowed topic if i've ever heard one

Aw. I had Bell's Palsy once. It was really dumb.

i had a lengthy dream last in which i was on a date with damon albarn who was not yet famous and it was awesome.

we ate some kind of pink goop on a bridge. when i woke up and went into the kitchen i noticed my only edible food was some kind of pink jello. not the part of this dream i was hoping would come true.

damnit, Albarn <3

brb eating pink goop

http://24.media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mc5ehgePAo1rn4zwmo1_500.jpg

lol

God I could still look at pictures of Blur all day

When I met A he had such an Alex James haircut but he kept getting called emo at work & swore longish hair off forever!

literally skipping class to look at pictures of blur all day

ok there are other factors but

haha graham coxon looks just like me in 1995 only way cuter

imo that is one of the hottest pics of graham

i think a deep part of my attraction to damon albarn is bound up witht the fact that he annoys me on some level. lol

yeah he's real "annoying" alright

lol e!
I'd let him annoy me any day!

hahaha otm

otoh alex annoys me in a different way. i do not find him attractive

More Alex for me, I'd say. Perhaps a form of narcissism to be most attracted to the dude with the most similar name? Heh.

http://youtu.be/1zHGrINnzqo

"they gave me this to do this"

i liked alex in high school but it went away. he looks like a goofus to me now

Haha the video is so weird. I love them for having been goofy dudes.

i know, me too. they really have that over all the other bands of that ilk. they were just fuckin' dorks. i love in starshaped when they're on the bus and singing "when will we be married" all drunk and...annoying? lol.

i am deeply embarrassed but this is the only safe haven i have for posting cute boy stuff. i need to grow the hell up.

You're safe here. You inspired me to jam out to this (can't embed from phone) - http://m.youtube.com/#/watch?v=Kk4LSrugwRY&desktop_uri=%2Fwatch%3Fv%3DKk4LSrugwRY

i really want his sweater from the beetlebum video. really badly. maybe i'll knit it.

http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mbxgxqrXiz1qc2fdt.jpg http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mbxgxqrXiz1qc2fdt.jpg http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mbxgxqrXiz1qc2fdt.jpg http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mbxgxqrXiz1qc2fdt.jpg http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_mbxgxqrXiz1qc2fdt.jpg

dying

hahahahahaha

it looks like it is from HR puffnstuff (sp?). how was this a look in like 1990, baggy aside

I am so glad I was too young for dating in the days that boys looked like that.

grebo

grebo even just as a word makes me lol

i know! it's repulsive in every possible way!

(lurking)

hi! I heard someone talking abt cuet boys ie blur

until my last pic post you had come to the right place

hi is this the awkward boy thraed

its funny, when you're young and look at loads upon loads of pictures of a particular band, how some of their regular clothing items become iconic to you. its especially true with indie-ish bands, or bands who are going to be wearing the same clothes often.

the cheryl, the thin man shirt, the california 86 shirt, the nike shirt, the blue adidas striped zipup, the faded grey mickey mouse shirt. if i ever saw a comparable cheryl shirt in a thrift store i would die.

xpost lolol

hahaha i love this SO much http://www.facebook.com/pages/Graham-Coxons-Cheryl-T-Shirt/178258492226743

would friend

a shirt belonging to one member of blur has more facebook fans than several bands i have been in. lol

Hahahaha. Oh, the Cheryl shirt. I remember thinking "god Blur fans named Cheryl are SO lucky"

See also: Mark Owen in Stussy

hahahaha aw no

haha funny you should bring that up, i am currently searching for a tshirt with giant STUSSY on the front. considering a must for fall. im going totally 90s

http://www.polyvore.com/cgi/img-thing?.out=jpg&size=l&tid=18676676
genuine want