WHO WEARS THESE? NOT PEOPLE WITH LEGS FOR WALKING AND DANCING WITH, I CAN TELL YOU THAT.
― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:40 (twelve years ago) link
ALSO NOT PEOPLE WHO WILL BE SITTING DOWN, OR EATING, OR BREATHING, APPARENTLY.
― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:41 (twelve years ago) link
I really like empire waists, too. They shorten my waist and make my breasts pop out--for some reason (and it's really, really odd, because I'm a 38DD), they tend to get lost under my clothes. (I have a big belly, but I've never really noticed the looking-pregnant thing with empire waists.)
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:41 (twelve years ago) link
i guess i would echo what Erica and Jennya and Abbott said that it is totally worth it to take this stuff seriously and talk to someone trained in it. because as estela said so much wasted life spent thinking about it!
― horseshoe, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:41 (twelve years ago) link
the other day when i had heart palpitations? my pants were too tight. i put on my green sweatpants and felt MUCH better.
― the MMMM cult (La Lechera), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:42 (twelve years ago) link
dresses don't make me nearly as unhappy/angry as pants.
― sarahel, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:42 (twelve years ago) link
pants are the worst
― the MMMM cult (La Lechera), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:43 (twelve years ago) link
hahah Jennya! i kind of like that
― horseshoe, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:43 (twelve years ago) link
I'm glad that it turned out to be nothing more serious than that, Amanda.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:43 (twelve years ago) link
i literally don't wear pants because of this shit
Sweat pants make everything better.
sp sarahel, I totally stopped wearing pants, that was my solution.
― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:43 (twelve years ago) link
So many xps!!! looooooooooool
that's ridiculous now that i read it but it's true.
lol Laurel <3
laurel! i took your advice and now wear skirts & dresses most of the time
― sarahel, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:44 (twelve years ago) link
I don't mind pants so much. My main problem with pants is that the regular ones are too short and the long ones are too long.
― Juggy Brottleteen (ENBB), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:45 (twelve years ago) link
i can't believe that MY PANTS were causing me to be short of breath! that's appalling. today i am wearing a pinstriped waistless overall dress that i have had since 1993one time a student referred to it as a "business apron" and that strengthened my resolve to continue wearing it
― the MMMM cult (La Lechera), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:45 (twelve years ago) link
I'm a 5'6" woman with the waist of a 6'4" woman and the legs of a 4'11" woman. Yes, pants are the worst.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:45 (twelve years ago) link
I have jeans, I mean it's not like I totally foreswore convenience forever. But unless I were to wear yoga pants everywhere like the woman working at the pharmacy today that I totally envied for 2 minutes, pants will just not do.
― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:45 (twelve years ago) link
I WANT A BUSINESS APRON
― Juggy Brottleteen (ENBB), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:46 (twelve years ago) link
I should probably just always get long and have them hemmed. Why I have not thought of this before I do not know.
this may have already been covered (i suspect by Jennya the Jenius) but i just want to say in my experience i am particularly hard on my body when im really stressed about big life what will become of me type stuff. i think women are trained to process that stuff through their looks because it's our jobs to be pleasing to others and also you actually have very little control over you know how soon you'll get a job but you can feel (illusorily) like if you just buckle down you can make your ass smaller. this is horrifying when you realize you're doing it but i also find it clarifying and it helps me stop.
― horseshoe, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:46 (twelve years ago) link
The OTMest!
― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:47 (twelve years ago) link
i actually have a lot of hokey things i do to make myself feel better about this stuff, like look at other women's bodies and think nice thigns about them.
― horseshoe, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:47 (twelve years ago) link
like, a range of body types i mean
― horseshoe, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:48 (twelve years ago) link
that sounds weird, but when i was at my worst about this stuff i was ridiculously punishing of my own body and other womens unless they fit a ridiculously narrow (in every sense) archetype. i literally had crazy eyes. it's better now.
Oh god, pants.
― tokyo rosemary, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:49 (twelve years ago) link
i got it at RAVE in the mall when i worked there my freshman year of collegehttp://farm7.static.flickr.com/6036/6332941197_aa5cb67a0e.jpg
ok back to class -- KIP my peoples
― the MMMM cult (La Lechera), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:49 (twelve years ago) link
Dresses are a problem with me because of my hirsutism, but switching to Nair helped--I don't have to shave my legs every four hours any more when I wear a skirt.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:50 (twelve years ago) link
I don't think I'm as hard on other women as I am on myself. I definitely try not to be. Going to start using your tricks tbh.
― Juggy Brottleteen (ENBB), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:50 (twelve years ago) link
yeah! i was a having a low self-esteem day last Friday, and then I went to see Wild Flag, and the drummer looked way hot, even though she had my build, and she was wearing this supercute black & white polka-dot dress with a black waistband, and it made me feel better about myself.
― sarahel, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:50 (twelve years ago) link
I talk about this all the time and it won't be news to anyone, but I try to use that displacement to my advantage when I'm stressing about things outside my control like my body and why no one will ever love me, by making myself useful/creative in some way that makes me sweat it out and be strong. It's not "better" if it puts a certain kind of helpfulness or utility over JUST BEING A PERSON WHO CAN BE WRONG OR FOOLISH SOMETIMES, so I should probably flag that and curb it, but I find that approach v empowering.
― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:50 (twelve years ago) link
*waves to Amanda*
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:51 (twelve years ago) link
now i want a business apron too.
― estela, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:51 (twelve years ago) link
It's an engineer overall!! Imma get you a wooden train whistle.
― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:52 (twelve years ago) link
― Juggy Brottleteen (ENBB), Thursday, November 10, 2011 9:50 PM (52 seconds ago) Bookmark
i don't think you are, either. i have actually had the thought that you are very good at being generous about other people's looks. i was a horrible wench in my head my sophomore year of college, by contrast. i think it was because i was hungry tbh.
― horseshoe, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:52 (twelve years ago) link
to be horseshoe<3
― estela, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:52 (twelve years ago) link
i think it was because i was hungry tbh.
Real lols!!
― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:53 (twelve years ago) link
Being hungry can totally bring the crazy.
― Juggy Brottleteen (ENBB), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:53 (twelve years ago) link
I am horrible, horrible, in my head. If people could hear me, I would shunned from society, and rightly so. Horrible. I'm a lot happier these days than I have been in years and years, so it's easing up but...this is why my inner Laurel needs to be kept in check with rules and stuff.
― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:54 (twelve years ago) link
I try to channel rrrobyn a lot when I start doing that. It helps! And it makes me happier because rrrobyn.
― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:55 (twelve years ago) link
remembering being hungry is the other thing i do, tbh. that sucked and i don't care how much i hate the pictures people tag of me on facebook i'm not doing it again.
― horseshoe, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:55 (twelve years ago) link
as in you had an eating disorder?
― sarahel, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:56 (twelve years ago) link
the thign about the being horrible in your head is it's all terrible lies. like, this will sound trivial but i had the experience after i stopped being so crazy of going back and seeing movies that i had watched in that crazy frame of mind and thinking, how could i have thought this incredibly thin actress was fat? seriously that intense punishing gaze is some funhouse mirror shit.
― horseshoe, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:57 (twelve years ago) link
no i didn't have an eating disorder i just obsessively dieted. i would say my eating was disordered sometimes but no more than most women i knew, sadly.
It is, but mine isn't really about fatness, it's about everything else, and everything.
― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:58 (twelve years ago) link
but i did have one particularly bad year of it.
― horseshoe, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:58 (twelve years ago) link
xp Christine - i just wear black tights, except when it's super hot, but pretty much when it's 90 degrees, i am in not-giving-a-shit that i haven't shaved my legs in a month territory.
― sarahel, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:58 (twelve years ago) link
It's really nice to reflexively have healthy responses to things, though, and then remember when it would not have been a healthy response, and marvel at how I've managed to change the rules of the world I make for myself to live in, over time.
― It means why you gotta be a montague? (Laurel), Friday, 11 November 2011 02:59 (twelve years ago) link
Whenever I have a major attack of the guilts, I think back and see if I've forgotten to take my medication. Almost always, it turns out that I had.
― Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Friday, 11 November 2011 02:59 (twelve years ago) link