no boys allowed in the room!!!!

My dad always preached how good girls "listen" (he'd always tell the same stories about how he was first attracted to my mother because she truly LISTENED to him, blah blah) and don't chase boys ("good girls don't chase boys"), and he now has three extremely loudmouthed, opinionated daughters. Good work, pops.

daria, everybody goes to Mood but I'm not so sure about that place. I haven't been seriously fabric shopping in a few years (fell down on my sewing) but you have to go to the garment district 38th/39th/40th Sts between 7th & 8th Aves, iirc) and poke around, and I specifically have had very good luck at Paron Fabrics (and their sale annex!). Man I would LOVE to go with you, but I'll be on Long Island. :(

I mean I'm sure Mood is great but it's also kind of expensive and full of really annoying people due to its recent fame on that show.

Mood is the one my mom mentioned why because she saw it on Project Runway

for horseshoe, primarily:

S@rah Ruh1 was bff's w/my first freshman roommate at college. They listened to country music and got nostalgic over horsey girl's books they'd liked as kids. They also made up country-flavored nicknames for their vaginas. S@rah called her vagina, Patsy, iirc.

!!!

thank you!

this was almost 20 years ago, so i may not rc

Did your bff call her vulva Eddy? Oh, wait, that's not country-flavored

Listen this is not only for girls by any means, but I just wanted to offer it to all the ilXXors because of this thread and things we've talked about. I hope you find it enriching. I did.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=k7X7sZzSXYs

^ canadian!
andrea dorfman's film "love that boy" is actually really good if totally bizarre in many ways <3

i just, i... http://feministryangosling.tumblr.com/

i really like it

lol I saw that yesterday. He doesn't really do it for me. Like, at all. I feel like everyone loves him right now but I don't really get it.

for me it's a combination of him being a good actor and being the weird, hot canadian boy next door

idgi either. Have only seen him in Drive afaik though.

he's attractive, but not swoonsome. also not a young gun.

I was watching From Hell again the other day and I realized that Johnny Depp really is my platonic ideal of a pretty boy crush. I'm just crossing my fingers that he can manage to age gracefully and avoid plastic surgery so I can carry this crush into Johnny and my shared old age.

This looks recent, no?

http://www.yaare.com/wp-content/themes/gazette/2010/01/Johnny-Depp4.jpg

That works for me. Carry on, Johnny.

I like where this is going, too:

http://images.askmen.com/photos/johnny-depp/85073.jpg

Wait, that's not the one I meant to post, but it will do and also I'm about to be late for work due to posting pictures of Johnny Depp on the internet which is a smidge embarrassing at my age.

haha but he is so very swoonworthy. i usually don't care too much about movie stars, but sometimes they've just got that something, as an artist at the very least, that is attractive beyond their idealized movie stardom. johnny depp is the pinnacle of this imo. also he owns an island.

i think this was posted in the ok-cupid thread (?) but i wanted to post it here for posterity too - it's a good read - http://www.theatlantic.com/magazine/archive/2011/11/all-the-single-ladies/8654/1/

I don't know why it took me so long to read that article, despite it's having been posted in a few different places. Many beautiful things in't.

i would actually like to have a discussion about it on a thread, but can't figure out which thread, i mean, there must be one about marriage and being single that suits it.

Robyn, I want to talk about it to. Do you think we need to open it to dudes, or can we do it right here?

there is the 'why aren't women married' thread which is where this article was also posted:
Why aren't women married?

oh okay i didn't see that! thx :)

I followed the hairpin discussion about this article to another hairpin comment about a long-ago letter, and found this quote:

"There is a test to determine whether someone is toxic or nourishing in your relationship with them. Here is the test: You have spent some time with this person, either you have a drink or go for dinner or you go to a ball game. It doesn’t matter very much but at the end of that time you observe whether you are more energised or less energised. Whether you are tired or whether you are exhilarated. If you are more tired then you have been poisoned. If you have more energy you have been nourished. The test is almost infallible and I suggest that you use it for the rest of your life. " - Milton Glaser

I repost it here not because it's only meant for women (obv) or only applicable to romances--the speaker's advice is that you use it for every interpersonal relationship you ever have in your life, which sounds about right--but because sometimes the other dynamics at work in "relationship"-relationships obscure this good-or-bad response that I/we have to the other person, obscure it SO ALMOST-WHOLLY that I can't hear myself.

That test is OTM.

lol I just said this to Laurel offboard but I'm always tired. I love the idea of this test but this might be confusing me for me because how to tell if it's the person or if, you know, I'm just tired! ;) I actually think this is totally otm too.

I think of it more as energized vs enervated.

Good call.

I think we bring out behaviors that are toxic to ourselves to that test, too, so if the same thing happens over and over and the thing that those occurrences have in common is ME, my job if I want to feel better is to start thinking about what's in my tote bag at the ball game. Or...something. Crackerjacks, anyone?

I hadn't seen this before just now but I sort of really want to see this film:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=W2UZZV3xU6Q

That has Cory Booker interviewed in it and Metric as the soundtrack--wtf did *I* make this movie??!

:)

i did not realize that this was Jennifer Siebel's project! that kinda adds a "twist"

http://www.nataliedee.com/060410/actually-these-are-someone-elses-i-wouldnt-pay-money-for-slacks.jpg

:D

i am wearing a green longsleeved leotard (with a skirt) today
(just needed to put this somewhere)

I needed complete non-engagement with my tv last night so I went with 3 episodes of "Medium", that cop show with Patricia Arquette. As a police procedural...boy, it was a rough first season.

More notable for other qualities, though. First of all, her husband is my kind of hot. Second, it seems like they have a shockingly equitable marriage for tv? I am really enjoying their dynamic.

The Woman Who Bested the Men at Math

That's beautiful! I could picture the announcement scene so clearly!

Very cinematic-sounding, tbh.

Mookie, that's great. I aspire to come up with withering Bathing Establishment-esque comments more often during ridiculous debates.

how is mookieproof posting in this mookieproofproof thread.

mookieproofette

bought Some Kind of Wonderful from the impulse buy movie bin at Walgreens today! will soon thoroughly evaluate the Duncan vs. Keith issue.

Oh man I have not seen that movie for YEARS (read: uh, decades?)--what is Mary Stuart Whatsherface up to for forever now?

i feel like, esp since there is talk of movies, that this needs to go itt :)

http://youtu.be/6xOBSlzUqz0