no boys allowed in the room!!!!

Well, Roxy is a rock star so that's different.

also - sleeping on mattresses on the floor - i don't care if i lost punk or boho cred or whatever, i really like sleeping on an actual bed

as long as it's a mattress and not a futon, i'm okay with it being on the floor.

We just bought a real bed w/ headboard (the first I have owned since I went to college and my parents cleared out my teenage bedroom!), but the delivery date is after we move and I'm loathe to move anything unnecessarily so we're leaving the metal bed-frame thinger behind and going back to mattress-on-the-floor for however long it takes them to deliver the bed.

I've been reading a lot of home decorating blogs in an attempt to not suck at decorating my home and I have noticed that putting the mattress right on the floor is kind of trendy again.

i don't care about trendy, i'm in my mid-30s. i like the elevation that a bed provides, it's a kinda regal feeling

another advantage: cats won't be able to hide underneath for sneakattack.

my parents have had the same crummy mattress on the floor for my entire life (my first bed was a mattress on the floor too)
not surprisingly, this has made me long for a really tall cushiony bed
mattress on the floor with no box spring reminds me of the sad scene of duckie's bedroom

haha totally. duckie listening to the smiths, tossing cards into a hat.

please please please let me get what i want

mattress on the floor with no box spring reminds me of the sad scene of duckie's bedroom

i thought that was the coolest thing when i was a teenager, though!

lol - Jenny - I was thinking the New Order "Age of Consent" topic - not the mattresses/hostel topic

Me, toooooooooooo I tossed so many cards into hats. It's funny. I was supposed to identify with Andy, but she was so defined by the dudes around her, that instead I just desperately wanted to be Ducky.

HA, sarahel, okay! Haha.

i tried for years to find a Ducky-like jacket! That was my vintage store holy grail for a while.

i never tossed a single card into a hat in my life
that scene made me think that duckie might be homeless/a squatter/orphaned, but as a kid i always thought that when one character never had on-screen parents and the other one did (see also: some kind of wonderful)

i mean, i didn't REALLY think he was a street waif (he did go to school and try to do his homework), but the thought crossed my mind

yeah i was mildly curious as to duckie's home life situation. i didn't think he was a squatter but i did think maybe his parents weren't in the picture and he was renting a room somewhere.

but if he was renting a room he probably would have to quit high school and get a job so no.

but almost all of those 80s teen movies had minimal parental presence! My mom referred to the characters in those movies as "pod children" because they never seemed to have any parents, as if they were generated from pods like in Invasion of the Body Snatchers

but john hughes was invested in at least getting a representative moment of parents being awful onscreen. and harry dean stanton is fairly prominent in pretty in pink. kids bitch about their parents in john hughes movies at least. with duckie, it was like his entire life involved trailing andie around.

Pretty in Pink means a lot to me, guys.

yeah, i just remember the distinction between the ones who did and the ones who didn't more than the overall absence of parents

watts - no visible parents, has no one to eat with
keith - dad is obsessed with his future, eats dinner with his family every night

duckie - throws cards angrily into a hat in his sad graffiti room
sam - unemployed pop cares enough to buy her a dress (albeit an ugly one)

lloyd - has a sister, but don't remember any parents (were they dead?)
diane - affectionate overzealous dad

surely there are more, but those are the ones that i remember most clearly. it didn't help that in english class we were always reading about little picaresque street urchins.

yeah, but you only get a moment, then the parents conveniently disappear in order to further the plot. this bred years of resentment of my parents who were around a lot (like they never went on vacation, and my dad was a school teacher so he was home all day during the summer) and neither cool or awful.

xp - i liked some kind of wonderful more than pretty in pink because keith's parents seemed more like my parents in terms of their regular presence in his life, plus Watts had a cool car and played drums - and of course, there was Duncan

shit, english AND spanish class
i was under the impression that the world is very full of industrious orphaned waifs on a journey

I always assumed that Duckie had parents but they were of the sort who did not care if their son spray painted his walls or slept on a mattress on the floor. So either super permissive hippies/artists or drunks. Or both. The Glass Castle by Duckie Dale.

oh yeah - lots of orphaned waifs in english class!

that seems plausible

xp

There were parents all over the place in Sixteen Candles and Weird Science.

those parents went on vacation!!!!

god i LOVE weird science

i totally had a Watts moment in my early 20s - where i dressed up in pseudo-chauffeur garb to pick up my best friend (who I had a huge crush on) and his gf at the airport.

that's crazy sarahel!

he was also a painter, he later became my bf

Did you play drums? Where were your parents during this time?

haha

i didn't start playing drums until i was 31! my parents lived 70 miles away.

i did sleep on a mattress on the floor though!

did you offer to help him practice kissing while he was at work?

i fantasized about it. the relationship was more complicated than that though ...

i didn't start playing drums until i was 31!

i'm a touch older than that (34) but you just gave me some much needed HOPE

!!

i totally sublimated a crush on a guy by having him give me drum lessons

AMANDA. Take drum lessons. I will take piano lessons at a certain community college where I get half-price classes. We'll have a band.

i'm super excited because i actually have room in my apartment for a piano now

i want to, but i don't know if i want to pay for them! our band will be hilarious. i should warn you that every time i have tried to write a song it sounds like a weird al song.

maybe we will write weird al style songs.

you could probably get some under-employed musician to teach you for like $20-25 a lesson

I don't have a piano, but I have a nice full-sized keyboard that Amanda gave me! And since we're moving to a bigger place, I'll have a place to put it that is not under the bed. Rock!

did you ever read that Sassy article about how to start your own band?

I did get an offer from a friend who lives like 3 blocks away, but I was shy about pursuing it. I guess I sort of need to be taught some basics -- I don't want to just like flail around like a toddler. I need a little structure. He offered me use of his drum set, but didn't seem to want to take the time to teach a grown ass woman how to do really basic shit.

just like everything else, there are tutorials on the internet. but having someone actually teach me really helped. Take him up on it!

i realize my reticence to pursue this goes against my advice above, but it also involves spending time in some dude's apartment which is kinda weird

i will do this someday, i swear it