no boys allowed in the room!!!!

Oof. That's a tough one.

xp - kinda glad i no longer have the obligation to deal some of my ex bf's family members tbh

I need that Elumen red. I would love to go back to the red bangs again. The bonus of grey hair is, you can dye it insane colours, and dont need to bleach!

Hm Speaking of, I need a haircut and I'm reluctant to go to my usual place cos the new chick who did my hair last month or so did a shite job and I hate it.

You should not go back if you're getting shite haircuts there.

speaking of hair, mine is STILL growing out! it's been like a million years.

Only the last one was. Usually they do a great job - i think its the fact I'm trying to grow out a short fringe. Well, har this thread has made me book in for a haircut after work today anyway. And I think I'll get some bright red streaks done.

Can you request a different stylist? Or request that you not get the one who did a bad job?

I just bought my very first set of matching, grown-up dishes. They are all wrapped up and we're moving soon, but I unwrapped on of the mugs and I keep going into the kitchen to fondle it in awed reverence.

aw!

Trayce, I buy it off eBay (in the past) or amazon (lately) bc technically it's only for sale to hairdressers. I bleach my hair, use Elumen Prepare, then rinse & stick elumen RR@all on my head. After a base coat or two it's pretty much permanent - ever so slightly lighter after 3 weeks, having freshly bleached my hair prior. A delight.
I am pretty sure it's organic too!

xp They're blue! And from reputable purveyor of household goods Crate and Barrel! I felt like an NYT Style Section profilee as I stood there farting around on my iPhone waiting for the C&B employee to carefully wrap up all my new dishes.

I can see the headline now. "Trend Watch: White People Are Buying Dishes from Crate and Barrel after Carefully Researching Other Options on the Internet."

haha i used to look longingly at the windows of the Crate and Barrel on North Ave. i get it.

The picture with the article will be me cradling my mug and staring pensively out the window.

FFM: sounds good! Never seen it here, though I sometimes get salon level stuff from hairdresser suppliers, where you have to mix with the 60vol or whatever. Mostly I just go to the salon and let them do it tho: I'm crap at doing foils.

The picture with the article will be me cradling my mug and staring pensively out the window.

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i can see it! the article writes itself, really.

i went to Target yesterday, and they sell Magic Eraser sponges that attach to mops!

HOLY.

it made for efficient cleaning of the shower - though i regret having to report that it did not do so well on the tub - the walls of the shower are a different material.

i still believe these really are made of magic. industrial and slightly evil magic, but magic nonetheless. i need to buy new ones.

i also need a magical attitude adjustment about this town and guys, i mean, men. gotta shift out of comfort zone and try not to hate it, or, yknow, run away from home, lol...

what attitude needs adjusting?

the one where I am really just unfairly misanthropic when it comes to other socializing possibilities in this town

are there events, places, things that seem interesting but you're skeptical about, or is it just that it feels like there's nothing worth doing outside of what you already do/where you regularly go?

on the subject of hair dye - i quit dying my hair after almost 20 years a few years ago - i occasionally miss it, because my hair is a pretty boring shade of brown, but it makes my skin look better coloring-wise.

I started again recently after about five dye-free years but went one shade lighter than the colour I used to use.

i've noticed a lot of women do this as they get older - dye hair in lighter shades - like my mom dyes her hair light brown, which i think is weird because her natural hair color is dark brown/almost black - is it a skin tone thing?

Yeah total skin tone thing bc skin tone needs more 'warming up' as we get older. Like I know older ladies who stopped wearing black even bc it started making them look washed out.

I really need to get my hair fixed too right now, along w the bad haircut. and get dif make-up bc I am summer darker/pinker.. And teeth cleaned. This never happens to me - feel like I'm falling apart!

xp - yeah the first thing - things to do, so many of them, but my skepticism + an often-unexpected shyness needs to take a hike.

Like I know older ladies who stopped wearing black even bc it started making them look washed out.

what a sad thought - i hope these ladies were thin/slender at least ...

xp - maybe find a friend that is also interested in said things, or at least is willing to say, "WTF - if it's horrible or lame at least I'll have a good story to tell" to go with you?

They started wearing dark brown instead! True stories!

okay, that's not so sad.

It's funny bc I am usually that friend! I do go to many dif places and things - I just don't nec socialize. Need to bring along my more outgoing talk-to-anyone friends and re-learn that skill.

if i lived near you rrrobyn i would totally be the talk-to-anyone friend! i was shy once, so it is totally possible to learn or re-learn that skill.

a good way to start is at a bar or party where everyone is drinking/drunk, because if you embarrass yourself, or feel embarrassed in the slightest you can always blame it on alcohol, or at least, it is much more likely that the other people won't remember

Wld kiw u for sure - yeah my talk-to-anyone friends all moved away or now have boyfriends, which has changed things. I used to be the get a little drunk, talk to guys, get asked out girl. and then sthing happened, like feeling too old or some crap. But when in sf or nyc all's well on that front. I maybe should just act like in on vacation all the time haha.

xpost/I used to wear a lot more red than I do now but that's the only 'tone-down' I can think of that really applies (the hair colour difference is minimal and I've been covering grey since I was 19, so whatevs). As far as the aging process goes, I have good genes and a grandmother who seems to have left me her legs (she could go bare in above-the-knee skirts up to age 70, srsly) and her cheekbones. When I am older it is going to be very difficult to give up the dark hair part of the very dark hair/very blue eyes combo.

In other news, yesterday my new editor gave me best thing ever - soon MAC are doing new lines in tribute to Disney villains soon and I am therefore rocking the Cruella de Vil lipstick tube containing a colour called HEARTLESS. Launches late September: http://www.temptalia.com/mac-disney-venomous-villains-collection

totally having a "all my friends are in relationships and i'm not" bout of glumness now - but, i just got out of a really long relationship less than a year ago, so i feel like it's my turn to feel like that or something ...

but yeah, the "on vacation" thing - seems like it's a concern about consequences or self-image or i dunno

Haha yeah i have some issues there and re: permanency

I'm thinking about going dark, or darker at least, in terms of hair color come fall. I've done it before but never been totally sure if I liked it or not. Kind of feeling the idea now though tbh.

how is when you go gray genetically determined? More precisely, is there a simple way of knowing this based on looking at family members or is it more complicated?

My parents were barely grey in their 40s but I was rapidly greying in my 20s and fully so by my mid 30s :( I still have nfi how.

(tho I suspect stress/booze may have added to it)

huh. i'm in my mid-30s and have no gray hair - my mom started going gray in her early 40s, and my dad didn't do so until his early 60s, but it sounds like this means nothing

Yeah I always wondered too, but I sis read somewhere that (for eg) heavy druggers/drinkers go grey fast cos of the stress on the body, erm, heh I wonder if thats why i did :(

I DID read, guh.

Data point: I def fell into the heavy substance user category for my 20s plus a few years on either side and I'm 37 and just starting to get enough gray hairs to make it worth my while to color. And it's prob not as noticeable as I think it is.

I always wanted to be the kind of woman who refuse to dye her gray hair but I'm going gray in this washed out, sad way and I guess I am more vain than I realized.

i've not been a heavy substance abuser and i'm getting a lot of white hairs in my 20s (can't really call it going grey yet) - apparently my grandmother was fully white-headed by her mid-thirties so i've been assuming i have that to look forward to. But it did start when i was emotionally pretty stressed. I'm hoping that if I can keep calm and restrict the stress to small bursts i'll end up with just one white streak rather than depressing salt-and-pepper. (my mother had white streaks like highlights when i was a kid)

i don't have any grey hairs, but every rare once in a while a lone white one appears. i wonder what will happen re: that one day - maybe i will be one of those older ladies who tint their white hair platinum blonde! rad. but yeah my natural quite dark hair colour has dulled out a bit in the past couple of years, plus the summer further dulls it. plus colour is kinda fun! going to go a warm brown-red (as prescribed by 'the good hairstylist' who has been out of town for two months) :)

for all my whare i go meet nice mans, i ended up having a really nice time hanging with newish guy friend yesterday. we have an affinity. not letting it make me nervous, not jumping any guns...