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Maybe this is a sign that I'm getting old, but I felt sooooo much resentment towards some NYU dorks @ Space Market who told their orders to the dudes behind the deli without saying please or thank you.

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Ingroup to everyone involved, etc :/

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:37 (twelve years ago) link

This bugs me all the time and I spend all day angry.

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:37 (twelve years ago) link

you should move to the south!

jessie monster, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:40 (twelve years ago) link

ive discovered that ive become obsessive about politeness to the point i am rude. the other day i came up quick on a lady standing on an escalator...she called me rude, i told her that i had always been taught that it was polite to stand on the right side of the escalator...she didnt like that..i dont think she liked being called madam or my stephen fry as jeeves tone either. but there are all these little instances where i notice people being casually impolite, think abut how many of us are here, and wonder wtf is wrong with people..then i get all like The Punisher meets Ms. Manners...its a waste of my energies..i need to cut it out.

bb, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:42 (twelve years ago) link

you should move to the south!


You know WASPy New Englanders are supposed to be polite too right? I've found many southerners, esp young ones, are actually pretty tactless, but I think that's like Virginia? Maybe this is my weird stereotype?

Guys, so much for being polite, they fucked up my sandwich. NO BACON, AND FUCKING AMERICAN CHEESE INSTEAD OF SWISS.

Also, be polite to bartenders even if they can't hear you.

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:50 (twelve years ago) link

Also I feel that it is polite to yield to oncoming foot traffic by going to the right. I get really annoyed when someone yields to their left.

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:51 (twelve years ago) link

virginians are pretty polite, in my experience. i always thought that impoliteness towards people helping you in public was a new england thing. i've lived in both places, for what it's worth. anyway i think the moral of the story: there are douches everywhere.

Mr. Que, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:52 (twelve years ago) link

Boston is not new england.

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:53 (twelve years ago) link

i get very annoyed about that in grand central..esp because YOU KNOW THESE FUCKING SUBURBANITES COMING OF METRO NORTH DRIVE CARS AND SHOULD INTUITIVELY KNOW TO STAY TO THE FUCKING RIGHT


there i go again...

thats it, im not looking at this thread anymore..

bb, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:53 (twelve years ago) link

i once called a woman "ma'am" out of habit and she was sort of insulted so i have switched to calling women "miss" instead.

ian, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:53 (twelve years ago) link

i lived in CT and MA

Mr. Que, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:54 (twelve years ago) link

i think the lack of courtesy is more a generational thing than a regional one. it can be summed up accurately and succinctly with "fucking kids".

chicago kevin, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:54 (twelve years ago) link

i, too, hate impolite modern society.

strongohulkington, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:55 (twelve years ago) link

someone stomped on my toe really hard on the train yesterday and didn't say sorry and it pissed me off!

bell_labs, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:58 (twelve years ago) link

i have switched to calling women "miss" instead.


this is a good way to earn favor with middle aged waitresses :D

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 15:01 (twelve years ago) link

I returned, and saw under the sun, that the race is not to the swift, nor the battle to the strong, neither yet bread to the wise, nor yet riches to men of understanding, nor yet favour to men of skill; but time and chance happeneth to them all.


Ecclesiastes 9:11

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 15:02 (twelve years ago) link

BTW, Ian Johnson is the king soloman of brooklyn

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 15:02 (twelve years ago) link

who is Samson

Curt1s Stephens, Thursday, 26 April 2007 15:05 (twelve years ago) link

Also I always say "please" and "thank you" and am v. polite!

Curt1s Stephens, Thursday, 26 April 2007 15:05 (twelve years ago) link

hstencil xpost

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 15:06 (twelve years ago) link

http://www.people.cornell.edu/pages/gnl2/PlatoCave.jpg

HOW CAN I BE POLITE WHEN I'M TIED UP IN A CAVE?????

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 15:07 (twelve years ago) link

if i am king solomon, where are my 700 wives and 300 concubines + pharoah's daughter?

ian, Thursday, 26 April 2007 15:10 (twelve years ago) link

http://www.contraculture.com/the_cave.gif

Curt1s Stephens, Thursday, 26 April 2007 15:11 (twelve years ago) link

Why would you want more wives than concubines??????

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 15:11 (twelve years ago) link

i kind of hate plato.
also, more wives is so they can cook me bigger meals. concubines don't cook, do they? they just fuck and dance.

ian, Thursday, 26 April 2007 15:13 (twelve years ago) link

also jw did u get yer sandwich at Han's Deli? That place has never failed me.

ian, Thursday, 26 April 2007 15:14 (twelve years ago) link

Also I feel that it is polite to yield to oncoming foot traffic by going to the right. I get really annoyed when someone yields to their left.

-- Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 14:51 (1 hour ago)

what rankles my cankles = when 2 people (often fatteys) walk side by side taking up whole sidewalk and neither yields to oncomers AKA sidewalk chicken. i always barge thru for the win ^_^v

am0n, Thursday, 26 April 2007 16:26 (twelve years ago) link

also see: 2 people standing side by side on escalator

am0n, Thursday, 26 April 2007 16:28 (twelve years ago) link

I have been called ma'am since I was like 24. it sucks.
i'm from virginia and am super polite to people in the service industry. but maybe that's from working at subway and olive garden in high school.

Yerac, Thursday, 26 April 2007 16:30 (twelve years ago) link

i've stopped hanging out with people before who I thought were rude to the server.

Yerac, Thursday, 26 April 2007 16:31 (twelve years ago) link

I think I became an asshole when I worked making ice cream in high school. One day I built a huge order for a guy with some like $8 sundae. I messed something up (vanilla waffle bowl instead of chocolate) and the dude watched me, standing right at the counter spend 5 minutes making that and all this other shit.

He goes, "I just have one question for you.... does that look like a chocolate waffle bowl to you?"

I should have told him to fuck off and quit there.
^ err jw

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 16:34 (twelve years ago) link

diabolical fattey gets extra sundae for free, such is gluttony

elmo argonaut, Thursday, 26 April 2007 16:36 (twelve years ago) link

yeah, working in retail really made me appreciate service industry types.

re: southern people being polite vs. northern people being polite: I think southerners have a bluntness that can come off as pretty rude (we are all really good at saying horrible things in a nice voice), but we observe common etiquette (saying ma'am, sir, excuse me, etc.) moreso than northerners, who maybe don't observe common etiquette as much but are less likely to say "oh you are such a dear" in that incredibly condescending, actually-I-think-you're-an-idiot way.

jessie monster, Thursday, 26 April 2007 16:48 (twelve years ago) link

I think the majority of people in general aren't that bad, but it bothers me when young people don't offer their seats to older people on the T.

jessie monster, Thursday, 26 April 2007 16:48 (twelve years ago) link

I didn't give him the fucking sundae. Dude also ordered cheeseburger, milkshake, coke, fries

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 16:50 (twelve years ago) link

^^^ wtf FATTY CENTRAL.

jessie monster, Thursday, 26 April 2007 16:51 (twelve years ago) link

There may have been onion rings too but I don't remember. Or maybe it was fucking clam strips

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 16:51 (twelve years ago) link

my mom has been a chinese restaurant waitress for like 25 years. She won't let me eat fried rice or egg drop soup in any restaurant. she buries everything in the garden.

Yerac, Thursday, 26 April 2007 17:00 (twelve years ago) link

It's definitely not a generational thing. Kids will always be kids, but I've had plenty of foul experiences with aging MTA employees*, cranky medical office secretaries**, and law students of all ages***.


*...that can't be bothered to get off the phone/put down iPod
**...that demand I fax in my insurance card, then curtly ask what provider I have, and tell me they don't participate, bye. (I foudn your fucking office on Humana's website, bitch)
***...that think because I work in IT it's my personal duty to fix every little computer- or technology-related problem they may encounter at the library or at home

BLASTOCYST, Thursday, 26 April 2007 17:08 (twelve years ago) link

And I'm usually quite accommodating with computer questions even though my job has nothing to do with their laptops.

BLASTOCYST, Thursday, 26 April 2007 17:09 (twelve years ago) link

Or digital cameras.






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BLASTOCYST, Thursday, 26 April 2007 17:09 (twelve years ago) link

***...that think because I work in IT it's my personal duty to fix every little computer- or technology-related problem they may encounter at the library or at home


Argh, I'm like CALL FUCKING DESKTOP SUPPORT, YOU *PAY* FOR THEM TO DO THAT

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 17:13 (twelve years ago) link

Also I'm not even PART of IT

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 17:13 (twelve years ago) link

</nyuhaterade>

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 17:13 (twelve years ago) link

Admittedly, getting help with computers is always tough, and god knowz I need it too.

BLASTOCYST, Thursday, 26 April 2007 17:16 (twelve years ago) link

Just be glad you're not a plumber

Catsupppppppppppppp dude ‫茄蕃‪, Thursday, 26 April 2007 17:19 (twelve years ago) link

concubines don't cook, do they? they just fuck and dance.

Get me concubines, I'll live with takeout.

I am a 'rude' pedestrian in midtown -- ie, if yer not in a hurry, go the fuck to Paris if you want to 'boulevard' three abreast.

Dr Morbius, Thursday, 26 April 2007 17:23 (twelve years ago) link

(cheers from general direction of US)

Trayce, Sunday, 29 April 2007 21:59 (twelve years ago) link

I've never actually had peach iced tea but I know lots of people who like it. I'm scared to try it.

Curt1s Stephens, Sunday, 29 April 2007 21:59 (twelve years ago) link

SNAPPLE IS DOO DOO

JW, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:02 (twelve years ago) link

They dont have that here but we have Liptons which is probably just as crappy... it doesnt taste like tea that's for sure, just like a watery peach flavoured sweet thing. I like it.

Trayce, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:04 (twelve years ago) link

The important elements of sweet tea are that a) you add the sugar while it's hot so it dissolves completely and easily, not like having to stir and stir and stir to sweeten cold tea (which is what simple syrup is for), b) you make it REALLY strong with lots of tea bags (altho do not steep indefinitely, that leads to bitterness -- the secret is LOTS of bags and to let them steep undisturbed w/o agitating or squeezing), and c) you serve it over a whole glass of ice with either a sprig of mint or a lemon wedge, so the melting ice dilutes both the strength and sweetness of the tea concentrate and the garnish adds some kind of palate-cleaning freshness. A good reason to have a pot of mint growing on yr windowsill.

Laurel, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:15 (twelve years ago) link

^^

Curt1s Stephens, Sunday, 29 April 2007 22:16 (twelve years ago) link

cravin melon omg lmao

yo i totally saw them open for edwin mccain for the last show evar before they imploded gville memorial aud. major lolz!

tehresa, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:44 (twelve years ago) link

i think g. singleton had a sweet tea poem that was much better but i can't find it :(

tehresa, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:46 (twelve years ago) link

okay how laurel described it sounds good!
the steeping time for regular tea is key to its goodness yeah. but i would still not put all that sugar in. i didn't even drink tea until i was in my late teens and never had a thing for that iced tea in cans or restaurant fountains. but i don't even know what we drank when we were kids - juice? water? milk? yeah. not iced tea. i bet this is mostly b/c it was the pacific northwest and we weren't spending all day sweating in the sun. and the hippie healthfood factor.

so i am going to make iced tea and maybe iced coffee this summer then! it is so exciting my new full-blown caffeine love and its possibilities.

rrrobyn, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:13 (twelve years ago) link

i think the fact that i only like completely unsweetened tea means i probably don't actually like tea

ghost rider, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:21 (twelve years ago) link

i like the tea they serve at chinese restaurants.

ian, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:29 (twelve years ago) link

otm

ghost rider, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:31 (twelve years ago) link

My sweet tea recipe, courtesy of Cook's Illustrated: use 10 bags for every 4 cups of water (I make like a gallon at a time). Pour ROOM TEMPERATURE water over your total number of bags and let the bowl sit UNDISTURBED for about 45 minutes. Don't squeeze the bags, just lift them out, drip a bit, then dump into the sink (squeezing them will flood the bowl with bitter tannins).

To sweeten, I make a simple syrup of equal parts sugar and water. Put shug & water & flavorings into a pan together and heat over medium until sugar dissolves (does not have to boil). Let cool to room temp, then remove flavorings (see below) and strain, if necessary. Pour into an empty glass bottle and store in fridge for up to a week or so.

*Flavorings: I really like a handful of bruised mint leaves, or a couple of springs of thyme (ESPECIALLY good if you're sweetening home-made lemonade). Have also heard of using lemon or other citrus zest, or a cinnamon stick. I bet if you liked, say, star anise or ginger, those would be cool things to put in.

Sweeten yr pitcher of tea with the syrup & serve over ice, then be buzzed until 2am because you can drink about three pints of tea on a hot day without even noticing. The room-temperature part of this recipe is really awesome, too, b/c is saves you from ever having to boil anything or make yr kitchen any hotter.

Laurel, Monday, 30 April 2007 01:51 (twelve years ago) link

i feel like you've posted this before?
what about SUN TEA? tea that harnesses the power of the sun

rrrobyn, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:03 (twelve years ago) link

sun tea is AWESOME!

tehresa, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:05 (twelve years ago) link

and then you become solar energized

also, 10 tea bags for 4 cups of water!! it is possible that i am too poor/frugal for this (tea and water are the only things i drink! and beer/alcohol obv sometimes). are these regular orange pekoe bags that are usually good for a 2-cup regular pot of tea? or, like, 1-cup twinnings bags?
tea.

rrrobyn, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:07 (twelve years ago) link

yo i totally saw them open for edwin mccain for the last show evar before they imploded gville memorial aud. major lolz!

-- tehresa, Monday, 30 April 2007 00:44 (1 hour ago)

how did mccain get on i love the 80's is what i wanna know

latebloomer, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:21 (twelve years ago) link

no way! that is weird. he is totes early-mid 90s noticon anyway.

tehresa, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:28 (twelve years ago) link

he's one of the talking heads/commenters/"funny" people

latebloomer, Monday, 30 April 2007 02:31 (twelve years ago) link

I am going to have to try that recipe now

Curt1s Stephens, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:19 (twelve years ago) link

and then you become solar energized

also, 10 tea bags for 4 cups of water!! it is possible that i am too poor/frugal for this (tea and water are the only things i drink! and beer/alcohol obv sometimes). are these regular orange pekoe bags that are usually good for a 2-cup regular pot of tea? or, like, 1-cup twinnings bags?
tea.


-- rrrobyn, Sunday, April 29, 2007 7:07 PM (1 hour ago)


we should probably get married, you and i

river wolf, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:47 (twelve years ago) link

I think I like the sound of proper Southern sweet tea from that recipe. Huh.

Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 03:53 (twelve years ago) link

but seriously, thank you guys.

remy bean, Monday, 30 April 2007 04:27 (twelve years ago) link

I've definitely posted it before, but it keeps coming up. :)

Laurel, Monday, 30 April 2007 05:07 (twelve years ago) link

And incidentally, Cooks' Illustrated determined that Lipton teabags made the best and roundest iced-tea flavor of the mainstream brands. My problem is that last time I bought a box, the bags were individually wrapped in paper which is a huge waste. New mission: to find Lipton teabags boxed up without their jackets on. (Yes, Robyn, they are individual regular tea bags.)

Laurel, Monday, 30 April 2007 05:10 (twelve years ago) link

we will get married in the heart of a dying sun and it will burn bright again

xpostxpostxpost
tea.

rrrobyn, Monday, 30 April 2007 05:12 (twelve years ago) link

i buy president's choice teabags that just all come in a box together, so no needless packaging. but i think pres choice is just cdn? it rocks btw. i am kind of annoyed with twinnings b/c they are now using this shiny thicker paper for the individual teabag wrappers and i have a bad feeling about its recycleability.

i know that loose tea is the best way to go though, esp for green tea, but for quality in general. but it is usually expensive. this tea talk is making me feel like a britisher.

rrrobyn, Monday, 30 April 2007 05:16 (twelve years ago) link

Haha, yes. I don't think yr supposed to use any GOOD tea for iced, it's just a different beast than a hot cuppa -- you're adding so many other flavors, and serving it cooled, which makes things taste different too. No reason to use a premium brand.

xposty DUDES I am totally coming to that wedding, I love bonfires.

Laurel, Monday, 30 April 2007 05:27 (twelve years ago) link

Luzianne >>>> Lipton

Curt1s Stephens, Monday, 30 April 2007 05:42 (twelve years ago) link

I wonder what green iced tea tastes like? It is so bitter. Hm... iced jasmine tea. That would be awes.

Trayce, Monday, 30 April 2007 06:00 (twelve years ago) link

/ is.

remy bean, Monday, 30 April 2007 06:18 (twelve years ago) link

trayce ever have green tea ice cream

JW, Monday, 30 April 2007 12:39 (twelve years ago) link

Luzianne >>>> Lipton

-- Curt1s Stephens, Monday, April 30, 2007 1:42 AM (6 hours ago)

spoken like a true southern person who grew up watching locally targeted commercials!!


laurel i think salada comes in a big box of not-individually wrapped bags.

tehresa, Monday, 30 April 2007 12:45 (twelve years ago) link

speaking of commercials, i never tried tetley, how dat is?

tehresa, Monday, 30 April 2007 12:48 (twelve years ago) link

Doesn't a true Tennessean use Sweetouchnee?

Laurel, Monday, 30 April 2007 13:08 (twelve years ago) link

Guys you know what tea is really good iced? CHAMOMILE.

nickalicious, Monday, 30 April 2007 14:14 (twelve years ago) link

I've actually never seen Luzianne commercials tehresa! It's just what my family uses.

Curt1s Stephens, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 00:41 (twelve years ago) link

trayce ever have green tea ice cream

Yeah that stuff is really tasty.

Also omg Nicka is OTM! Chammomile iced tea! OK I have to try this.

Trayce, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 00:47 (twelve years ago) link

bell labs OTM way upthread. for those of us who prefer our iced tea unsweetend ITOEN is the shit. out here you can get a 24 pack at costco for like $7.

g®▲Ðұ, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:04 (twelve years ago) link

no sweeteners or artificial shit. just fucking tea in a can.

g®▲Ðұ, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:05 (twelve years ago) link

dick in a box has ruined/lol-ed a lot of things for me, but 'fucking tea in a can' is comedy

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:07 (twelve years ago) link

seriously though!

http://www.asianfoodgrocer.com/browseproducts/Itoen-Oolong-Tea-Can-11.5-FZ.HTML

g®▲Ðұ, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:10 (twelve years ago) link

ooh i missed that upthread! i LOVE LOVE LOVE the itoen rose tea and have for years! for some reason that variety is often less available than others, but they're all awesome, and not sugary :)

SO GOOD:
http://itoen.com/img/products/215.jpg

tehresa, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:14 (twelve years ago) link

i looks like they have a fancy-pants flagship stire in NYC:

http://www.itoen.com/store/index.cfm

g®▲Ðұ, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:18 (twelve years ago) link

store

g®▲Ðұ, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:18 (twelve years ago) link

styre

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:20 (twelve years ago) link

i drank some of that itoen tea in a plastic bottle when i was in nyc! but it was not rose flavoured. it was just straight up green uh both good and bad and i almost finished it before i could not deal with it anymore.
i like that black oolong can. (i don't like drinking from cans though!)

rrrobyn, Tuesday, 1 May 2007 01:23 (twelve years ago) link

eleven years pass...

we never got this comported

ɪmˈpəʊzɪŋ (darraghmac), Wednesday, 20 February 2019 00:28 (eight months ago) link

please

Fuck the NRA (ulysses), Thursday, 21 February 2019 18:55 (eight months ago) link

trayce ever have green tea ice cream


My fave type of icecream.

nathom, Wednesday, 27 February 2019 00:43 (eight months ago) link


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