The best of Marc Loi : Facebook Feminist

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here I was thinking I wouldn't be finding a new screen name this week

Lisa Simpson = a fictional bitch (HI DERE), Tuesday, 21 July 2009 18:04 (sixteen years ago)

lisa seems pretty nice IMO not bitchy at all

midge url (M@tt He1ges0n), Tuesday, 21 July 2009 18:26 (sixteen years ago)

that's because her bitchiness is fictional

stupidcrazyswagilisticjumpininyaladyocious (some dude), Tuesday, 21 July 2009 18:57 (sixteen years ago)

you know, i'm beginning to suspect that marc loi doesn't know what he's talking about

midge url (M@tt He1ges0n), Tuesday, 21 July 2009 18:58 (sixteen years ago)

My future wife = better be a bitch.

i think this might be the real deal here

goole, Tuesday, 21 July 2009 19:00 (sixteen years ago)

For those who cannot see the video, a little boy, a 3rd-grader, is organizing a rally for gay marriage!

While I am against parents using their children as political tools, if this is something he wants to do on his own, more power to him!

Marc. Wants. Feminist. Babies. Now.

1p3 freely (s1ocki), Tuesday, 21 July 2009 19:26 (sixteen years ago)

oh hell I'll explain it for him since he'll never come here, and therefore remain ignorant:

While misogynists very often call a woman a bitch as she is acting intelligently and s some self worth, a great deal of people use it to indicate negative aspects that all people feel are negative aspects, not just misogynists. If someone says "I am a bitch" then it's generally assumed they mean a positive, take-it-back connotation. The Loi saying "Lisa Simpson is a bitch" is about as acceptable as me saying... well, you fill it in

mh, Tuesday, 21 July 2009 19:28 (sixteen years ago)

that's what she said.

http://tinyurl.com/zom720 (Pleasant Plains), Tuesday, 21 July 2009 19:55 (sixteen years ago)

i wish he would post here. if he really cared he would.

blobfish russian (harbl), Tuesday, 21 July 2009 19:57 (sixteen years ago)

we should tell him we have a lot of bitches here

goole, Tuesday, 21 July 2009 19:58 (sixteen years ago)

we should get him on a thread with kate

"he said...all things passantino the night" (omar little), Tuesday, 21 July 2009 20:01 (sixteen years ago)

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"he said...all things passantino the night" (omar little), Tuesday, 21 July 2009 20:01 (sixteen years ago)

haaaa

1p3 freely (s1ocki), Tuesday, 21 July 2009 20:50 (sixteen years ago)

actual giggles out loud

that's because her bitchiness is fictional (latebloomer), Wednesday, 22 July 2009 01:58 (sixteen years ago)

The next time I am on a date and decide the girl is good enough for a second date

julien schNAGL (s1ocki), Sunday, 26 July 2009 21:12 (sixteen years ago)

four months pass...

"Can't Rape the Willing"

This is a rant on the phrase "can't rape the willing," which, in recent days, I've heard many more people say.

About a week ago, I was telling some friends about a new hair salon in the Hampton Roads area (my hometown) in which attractive stylists are hired simply for that reason, as to attract more men. "Hot chicks cutting your hair," is their selling point, and you can sort of think of it as yet another Hooter's, except there are no wings and fried pickles, or the kick-ass roasted oysters, for that matter.

In response, one of my friends wrote me back: "But is anyone forcing those women? You can't rape the willing." This, for me, shows great lack of insight on the plights of women, as well as the challenges women face economically. For this, I'll try to frame the arguments through the lens of, firstly, economic choices, and secondly, as rape itself.

Firstly: there is a difference between "will" and "desire." That is, while I am willing to follow the law, I don't often necessarily "desire" to follow the law. But my choices are limited - either I follow the law or I go to jail.

The same applies for some women who enter into industries that use their bodies as a selling point. While those jobs may not seem "desirable," some women are "willing" to take those jobs based on the limited choices they have.

If you're given a choice, as a college student, between failing out of school or selling your body, in some instances, you do sell your body. What this speaks of, then, is the lack of choices women are given - and as well, that they lack the economic autonomies to make actual decisions. Limited choices, then, aren't truly choices, but rather, something forced upon women. In some cases, I do buy into the argument that porn, indeed, is rape.

Couple women's lack of choices with societal messages of what women are actually good for, it's no wonder why some women "choose" to enter into industries in which they have to sell their bodies. I am not saying these women are making these choices out of ignorance, I am merely saying these women make choices because they have no other choice.

Is a choice really a choice, then, when it's between a rock and a hard place? Did women pre- Roe v. Wade really have a choice then? Surely, they could have had the baby and ruin their careers, they could have spent thousands of dollars to go to states in which abortions were legal, or, they could induce their own abortions, risking deaths. If we understand choices in terms of reproductive justice, then why are we still blind when it comes to women's lack of economic autonomies?

On the subject of rape, framing through the same arguments, while no one "desires" to be raped, given the choices between getting your throat cut or being raped, for some, rape is a choice - albeit not much of a choice. Given society's victim-blaming mentalities, and the heteronormative attitudes about dating and sexuality, most certainly, some women would be willing to lay there while a date or boyfriend has sex with her when she doesn't want to have sex . This, most certainly, is the definition of rape, is it not? What does this mean then?

It means, for me, that in these situations in which women are faced with making tough choices, power as well as gender and economics come into play. It also means that the next time you are decide to say that some women are making choices out of their free will, check your privilege, because it may not always be what it seems.

harbl, Wednesday, 9 December 2009 02:50 (sixteen years ago)

in conclusion: hottttt ladies giving haircuts -----> rape -----> abortion ------> life is not what it seems

harbl, Wednesday, 9 December 2009 02:55 (sixteen years ago)

lol it is a mystery.

millivanillimillenary (Trayce), Wednesday, 9 December 2009 03:03 (sixteen years ago)

he knows the hooters menu pretty well for not being a rapist

bnw, Wednesday, 9 December 2009 03:19 (sixteen years ago)

okay so going into porn is like following the law? this shit is making my

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囧 (dyao), Wednesday, 9 December 2009 03:47 (sixteen years ago)

imma gonna stick my neck out and say that marc loi is kinda otm there

102. LJ: British. 5. (acoleuthic), Wednesday, 9 December 2009 03:54 (sixteen years ago)

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lj, two hours ago

LA CANCION MAS PRETENCIOSA DEL MUNDO... (The Reverend), Wednesday, 9 December 2009 05:39 (sixteen years ago)

imma gonna stick my neck out and say that marc loi is kinda otm there

― 102. LJ: British. 5. (acoleuthic), 09 December 2009 03:54 (6 hours ago)

about the hooters menu, i hope you mean?

Louis Cll (darraghmac), Wednesday, 9 December 2009 10:28 (sixteen years ago)

Dr. Chomsky said nearly the same thing.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SNlRoaFTHuE

rise, Wednesday, 9 December 2009 12:18 (sixteen years ago)

think i posted this before on another similar thread, but economic pressures make just about everyone do stuff they'd rather not. mcdonald's isn't where the employees go to get their fix of daily dignity, y'know?

Louis Cll (darraghmac), Wednesday, 9 December 2009 12:20 (sixteen years ago)

+99% of the people who went to work this work this morning. we all gonna get raped.

bnw, Wednesday, 9 December 2009 15:22 (sixteen years ago)

given the choices between getting your throat cut or being raped, for some, rape is a choice

http://cdn2.knowyourmeme.com/i/7280/original/20070902-Facepalm1.jpg

omar little, Wednesday, 9 December 2009 18:34 (sixteen years ago)

Marc. Wants. Feminist. Babies. Now.

sharty is a shit (s1ocki), Wednesday, 9 December 2009 18:52 (sixteen years ago)

five months pass...

The forums feature no current gay troops, because any public declaration of homosexuality would put them at risk of being discharged. Some of the speakers are heterosexuals who support the cause.

One of those, Marc Loi of Norfolk, was featured at a Thursday forum in Norfolk. An Army sergeant, Loi has served two tours in Iraq, first on active duty and then as a reservist.

In an interview, Loi said he was moved to join the repeal campaign after seeing gay and lesbian colleagues treated unjustly.

In one instance, he said, a female soldier was sexually assaulted by a male co-worker. After she reported the attack, an investigation concluded that the sex was consensual.

That couldn't be, she responded, because she is a lesbian. On the basis of that admission, she was discharged.

"She was a great soldier," Loi said. "The military has always been a groundbreaker in equality, whether it's gender equality or racial equality. It's time to take that next step toward equality for gays."
http://www.roanoke.com/politics/wb/244455

is it really that hard to spot all these fake british dudes? (velko), Tuesday, 11 May 2010 22:40 (sixteen years ago)

u have "marc loi" set up on google alert :)

Guns, Computer, The Internet (harbl), Tuesday, 11 May 2010 22:43 (sixteen years ago)

"The military has always been a groundbreaker in equality, whether it's gender equality or racial equality."

!?!? kicking and screaming maybe. . .

Fig On A Plate Cart (Alex in SF), Tuesday, 11 May 2010 22:45 (sixteen years ago)

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It's time to take that next step toward equality for gays.

is it really that hard to spot all these fake british dudes? (velko), Tuesday, 11 May 2010 22:47 (sixteen years ago)

jeez is this guy tireless or what.

dead flower :( (Pashmina), Tuesday, 11 May 2010 22:59 (sixteen years ago)

"The military has always been a groundbreaker in equality, whether it's gender equality or racial equality."

!?!? kicking and screaming maybe. . .

― Fig On A Plate Cart (Alex in SF), Tuesday, May 11, 2010 3:45 PM Bookmark

not really true. a lot of the groundwork for the civil rights movement was layed by the desegregation of the military

GayQuil (The Reverend), Wednesday, 12 May 2010 02:15 (sixteen years ago)

think this is admirable of him obv

Ralph Nadir (crüt), Wednesday, 12 May 2010 02:27 (sixteen years ago)

but of course with marc loi u always have to wonder if he is being driven by "feminist porn" fantasies of his lesbian colleagues

Ralph Nadir (crüt), Wednesday, 12 May 2010 02:28 (sixteen years ago)

how has he not googled his own name by now

iatee, Wednesday, 12 May 2010 02:29 (sixteen years ago)

he has - apparently this thread was discussed in one of his women's studies classes???

Ralph Nadir (crüt), Wednesday, 12 May 2010 02:30 (sixteen years ago)

no matter how much i might agree with mark loi i always up trying to work out what the trouble is with mark loi.

estela, Wednesday, 12 May 2010 02:36 (sixteen years ago)

3/4/09-3/11/09 - Week 3 Reading: ilxor.com thread 'The best of Marc Loi : Facebook Feminist'

iatee, Wednesday, 12 May 2010 02:39 (sixteen years ago)

i just read the whole thread again

Guns, Computer, The Internet (harbl), Wednesday, 12 May 2010 02:50 (sixteen years ago)

how was it.

estela, Wednesday, 12 May 2010 03:05 (sixteen years ago)

he's a piece of work, marc!

Guns, Computer, The Internet (harbl), Wednesday, 12 May 2010 03:11 (sixteen years ago)

my nickname for him is mark loin.

estela, Wednesday, 12 May 2010 03:13 (sixteen years ago)

"a lot of the groundwork for the civil rights movement was layed by the desegregation of the military"

I guess I don't really give the military itself much credit for that.

Fig On A Plate Cart (Alex in SF), Wednesday, 12 May 2010 03:40 (sixteen years ago)

this guy is fake right? who's behind the sock?

Did you in fact lift my luggage (dyao), Wednesday, 12 May 2010 04:30 (sixteen years ago)

ksh

iatee, Wednesday, 12 May 2010 04:35 (sixteen years ago)

I guess I don't really give the military itself much credit for that.

― Fig On A Plate Cart (Alex in SF), Tuesday, May 11, 2010 8:40 PM Bookmark

well, tell that to my grandfather, who was one of the first 13 black men picked to integrate the military

GayQuil (The Reverend), Wednesday, 12 May 2010 05:43 (sixteen years ago)

this guy is fake right? who's behind the sock?

― Did you in fact lift my luggage (dyao)

ksh

― iatee, Tuesday, May 11, 2010 9:35 PM

http://playthisthing.com/files/gamenodeimages/ActOfMisdirectionFinal.jpg

velko, Wednesday, 12 May 2010 05:53 (sixteen years ago)

http://theinfosphere.org/images/thumb/e/e9/Zapp_Brannigan.png/180px-Zapp_Brannigan.png

"If it were up to me, there'd be plenty of lesbians in the military!"

Eyjafjallalalalalatrolololol (Trayce), Wednesday, 12 May 2010 06:32 (sixteen years ago)


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