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If you're looking for great drama, you're certainly not going to get it in this movie. But if you're looking to go back to a place and time when you were a child, when you experienced your first kiss, your first CD and finally holding the girl of your dreams in your arm, this movie is it.

Remember when Marc Loi was a child of the 1960s, when he bought his first CD?

i love this lil guy

― goole, Sunday, May 12, 2013 10:38 AM (Yesterday) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

http://www.slate.com/articles/double_x/doublex/2013/05/stay_at_home_dad_sexual_fantasies_why_i_d_like_to_stop.single.html

when people say that they are afraid their thoughts are "objectifying" women, it sounds like they have a horrible, magical affliction wherein every woman they stare at for too long turns to stone.

i don't really understand this guy's issue though. if he is at a place where he doesn't see personhood, intelligence, etc. and sexiness as contradictory wrt women, why does it matter if he has passing sexual thoughts about the women that he sees? how is that objectifying them? this seems more puritanical than feminist. the real issue with staring at women in public is that it makes them feel uncomfortable, so he should try to not do that if he isn't already, but this constant vigilance over what thoughts go through his mind seems like it would produce a lot of frustration.

The simple solution is mandatory religion

you misspelled "castration"

wanted to post that in this trhead but its locked itt a strange man asks if you saw the ass on that one

max read ‏@max_read 20m
before feminism if you had lustful thoughts you just wore a hair shirt and whipped yourself every night. now you write slate essays

max otm

I often feel like dudes who are all "omg I am tortured by my perverted sexual fantasies because of my feminism" are really looking for a way to tell all of the feminists they want to bone about their sexual fantasies

ding ding ding

there's more than a family resemblance between them and the so-called "nice guys" feminists hate, who similarly seek female validation by insisting that they are more civilized, and less brutishly masculine than "most men".

Tell me more about these nice guys that feminists hate.

http://gawker.com/5969878/nice-guys-of-ok-cupid-are-not-really

A lot of tortured guys are just well-meaning and naive. A long time ago, I nervously confessed my disgusting and depraved thoughts to a girl and she was just like haha that is so tame. I had considered myself one of the great perverts of the universe.

Wow a Gawker link, that's some solid evidence there. Case closed!

*closes case*

Max Read, feminist, blinker.

*blinks*

http://www.waterace.com/images/WALogo.gif

i had the worst dream last night where i had non-consensual sex w/ a random mental projection. well, i'm not sure that it was non-consensual, but the construct didn't explicitly say 'yes' during the dream, at least at any point that i can remember. whew, it feels so good to get this off my chest.

http://images.cpcache.com/image/12171208.png

"nice guys" who think they are nice guys shouldn't be called Nice Guys

I think that guy is an idiot. But I do think that if he really goes around all day eagerly looking for women (like he says, while driving past intersections) to discreetly ogle, that seems like a reasonable thing to be mindful of and maybe dial back, ask yourself why it's so consuming, etc. Just don't write a Slate article about it.

Also stop masturbating so much

Dear God, I hadn't read the whole article. The part where he calls up the sex addict hotline...

okay this is actually a comedy bit, right

Like road rage, ogling, while momentarily satisfying, actually consumes energy and attention, and ultimately makes the task of driving more difficult.

lol i read most of article with this half-articulated uncomfortable feeling that all this focus on the tremendous unwithstandable power to distract wielded by women on sidewalks in shorts was some kind of well-meaning ingrown parody of the taliban mentality, and then:

Instead of undressing them with my eyes, I’m cloaking them in imaginary burqas.

i mean i don't know man be careful there

I mean at this point I am just assuming dude walks around all day like this:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wbUpGoOjFWw

the fuck is wrong with people

my plan for your life, andy hinds: fuck your wife, get a job, don't ever write anything for slate

+1

Andy Hinds is a stay-at-home (mostly) dad, freelance writer, carpenter, blogger at Beta Dad, and contributor to DadCentric, the Atlantic, and the New York Times' Motherlode blog.

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i mean i think there's room--maybe its even, like, super fucking important--for men to be conscious and critical of the degree to which their inner life reflects patriarchy. it doesn't mean you go all rev dimmesdale--or write slate essays--though, it means that if you know you have shit to work on, you work on your shit. as the saying goes.

this is a weird essay, obviously.

I can't get over "I am tortured by these idle sex thoughts *goes to swimming pool full of college girls in bikinis*"

well he has to test the hypothesis!

not to sound like an old man but i really don't like this mode where people are really loud and proud their problems, especially when they seem like nbd

hoos otm tho

i'm not sure that quietly lusting over random strangers reifies the patriarchy as much as biology

its especially hard in the summer. the girls are wearing less clothes. you try not to think about it but you have those urges. what if i were just to step into that cafe over there, pull out my laptop, and start writing for slate. omg i could totally do that right now!

I opted out of reading this article called "Stay-at-home Dad sexual fantasies"

it's actually called "Heel", which is even funnier tbh

wanted to post that in this trhead but its locked itt a strange man asks if you saw the ass on that one

― max, Thursday, May 30, 2013 1:37 PM (1 hour ago)

unlocked for great justice

move 'zing'

haha

omg my inner life reflects the patriarchy *panics*

its especially hard in the summer. the girls are wearing less clothes. you try not to think about it but you have those urges. what if i were just to step into that cafe over there, pull out my laptop, and start writing for slate. omg i could totally do that right now!

― best new whale (bnw), Thursday, May 30, 2013 4:01 PM (41 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

ha, one from the archives:

http://observer.com/1998/08/a-sexual-standoff-in-the-naked-city/

“I want to empower women, white women, to have the style of black women. You say anything to black women and she’s going to come back at you with humor, with scathing humor. These white women miss the humor of the banter and they miss how the black working-class women are able to put down any men, and to gain control through aggressive speech on the street. These white women want to be cool and they want to be silent. In my experience as a lesbian,” Ms. Paglia continued, “a very voyeuristic lesbian, I have to say that straight middle-class women seem to be totally clueless about their body language and the signals that they give sexually.”