Mod request

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howdy! i have 2 requests!

any other phoebe bridgers haters out there?

would you be able to delete this thread? i think it's pretty immature and reflects badly on me as a person.

the other request is on behalf of my partner - she made an account yesterday under the name Banjo but has been denied a password because she's "not sufficiently human". i think this is probs because she gave a very generic answer in the "why do you want to join" field. i promise she's real! would you be able to send her a password?

embrace evil, poll your 50 least favourite pop artists

the other request is on behalf of my partner - she made an account yesterday under the name Banjo but has been denied a password because she's "not sufficiently human". i think this is probs because she gave a very generic answer in the "why do you want to join" field

No it’s because she’s a banjo

it's not her fault :(

You should actually do what imago said. Lean into the bit

hi hospital radio

under no circumstances take pointers for early posting habits from user imago

I think the banjo account was rejected yesterday because there were two attempts to register showing on the page. I tried again just now and it went through.

I'm not going to delete that thread, maybe another mod will be more sympathetic. It's a good reminder of what not to do, so I don't want to memory-hole it. I would like to know which login you'd like to post from — Hospital Radio, milo, or tremolo — so I can permaban the other two. One account is plenty.

thanks for that, i'll let her know.

yeah, fair enough that you don't wanna delete it. i should have thought harder before posting inflammatory stuff and i've definitely learned my lesson. hopefully the thread can serve as a caution for others.

i'd like to keep tremolo, thank you for asking - i didn't intend to use the other two anymore anyway and only used HR in this thread to verify it was the original poster asking for the thread to be deleted.

cheers for getting back to me so quickly!

I am also against deleting the thread - we tend to be a bit more "live with your mistakes" here unless there's a good reason to get rid of something, and a) I don't think you said anything wildly offensive, just kinda snide, and b) it'll probably get lost in searches amidst the actual hospital radio stations clogging up people searching for your name.

I am, however, happy to lock the thread if you'd like? That'll stop people bumping it and forever reminding you of your introduction to the board.

hopefully the thread can serve as a caution for others.

you'd hope so and yet read the history of ilm lol

anyway there's been far worse and i'm pretty sure we've all got threads/posts we pray will rest in oblivion forever

that would be great if it's not too much trouble! yeah, i'm probably just being paranoid about the potential of this coming back to bite me in the future - the odds of me even getting anything you could call a fanbase, let alone one which spends its time googling my band's name next to pb's, are obviously pretty small. but yeah, locking the thread would be great - thanks a ton emil.y!

Alright, locked!

A dark day for the beleaguered Phoebe Bridgers haters.

RIP to Ryan Adam's last safe space on ilx

and welcome, tremolo. I'm sure you aren't Ryan Adams.

thanks Sufjan! yeah not to my knowledge but i'll get back to you x

welcome tremolo! i didn't read the phoebe bridgers thread but i have more than my fair share of threads i regret. i think what you've done here -- acknowledge it, apologize and show that's not how you'd like to be, and move on rather than obsessing about it self-loathing -- is a good example

surpising a big tremolo fan does not enjoy the twin peaks injection on Smoke Signals

For Create Poll, I assumed it would automatically set up a vote option, a circle to click on, by each entry----how do I do that? I guess you have to delete this thing and I start over? Please explain!ComPOLLsive Clasicks and Personal Chestnuts: dow's Top 50 gateways, wormholes, other

Maybe you could just put in an instruction to the effect of one vote option per each of the 50 albums, or summat?

Put the text like "only vote for one
Leaving out a lot of artists/albums I've already seen in several of these Top 50s. Impulse Energy Essentials was pretty" in the section above (not below) the poll options, marked Poll Text. Don't forget to debug your bolds and italics before you redo it, they're pretty messed up.

Going to vote McLaughlin when you redo it, almost had that on my list.

xp ???
The only thing that can be changed in a poll thread is its title, so you'll have to remake it.

Thanks, please delete that thread.

ok

mods
keep up the good work 👍

Yeah! Thx WmC.

please delete this thread i regret starting about music i love

thraed of my new favorite indie rock band ratboys

nah just redact tlg's post and leave yr responses plz

never stop making thraeds abt bands u luv ivy

yeah really unacceptable behavior from tlg, yr thread is fine and good and just the sort of thing we need more of (indie rock is not my thing so I will not join in, but lots of people on here will be interested)

Weird behaviour to do it on that thread when there’s been like 200 individual poll threads that seem to have passed without incident

(As in, did any of the poll makers get their language corrected or)

Weird is the word.

maybe it needs a "do not read if you hate me" in the title ... idk ... in general, the response was fairly mild in terms of ilx negative responses, but contextually not all threads/posters are cool with that, and it could at least set boundaries/tone ... idk. I didn't see tlg's response as being inherently awful or weird but contextually since ivy was upset by it ...

I thought it was extremely weird to criticize someone’s word choice/choice of metaphors like right outta the gate. Like, why? As if there’s not enough hackneyed writing out there to criticize and someone needed their critical vitamins?? Idgi.
I’d feel attacked if someone did that to me too. Also I would never add “do not read if you hate me” to virtually anything bc I feel like that goes without saying. And why would anyone HATE me? Or Ivy?

Seems like someone was In a Mood and lashed out needlessly. I can’t make people have more self control but I can suggest it’d be nice if we exercised it more rigorously.

I don’t think any of it should be deleted tho — I’m a firm believer in you pressed submit/you live with it (unless it contains personal details or similar)

the criticisms were mild but also weirdly insistent also imo there was nothing at all wrong with the OP so a funny one to decide to skewer even if skewering is an approach taken to ilm posts introducing a band/whatever (not at all sure it is)

talk of deletion is kinda nonsense tho

lol at "nothing at all wrong with the OP" in the context of ilx ... like compared to some of the "First Response Hall of Fame" classics ... I think it's nice that people are being sympathetic to ivy being upset by the criticism, because it's nice to be sympathetic to other people when they are upset, but y'all should be honest about the fact that this personal concern is motivating this ... if tlg had posted that in response to a post by whiney or j0rdy or imago (just naming posters who have gotten a bunch of negative criticism of things they wrote ... just off the top of my head), it would have not prompted this concern.

Would they have been upset or expressed upset? People, like imago for instance, will generally get criticized for their opinions or for the way they express those opinions not for the way they use the English language. What's next? LOL you can't spell?

this thread is terrable, like a big crow

(my 2c is that it was such a deeply unsolicited and unnecessary leaping-in-with-a-chair that it can't be viewed as anything other than hostile, V admitted he had no interest in the music! dick move - sure, aimed at a perhaps slightly more beloved poster, so not short of callers-out, but a dick move for sure. what made it stand out is that such dick moves are rare on ilx in 2023, even if you'd have gotten more of that sort of thing on old ilx)

(that said, as has been speculated it probably generated more engagement with the thread than it may have otherwise gotten? admittedly not the sort of engagement you'd really want)

I’m wondering if tlg would have bothered to correct a male poster in such a fashion, that correction was unnecessary and ivy wasn’t wrong to feel it was a bs contribution.

lol at "nothing at all wrong with the OP" in the context of ilx ... like compared to some of the "First Response Hall of Fame" classics ... I think it's nice that people are being sympathetic to ivy being upset by the criticism, because it's nice to be sympathetic to other people when they are upset, but y'all should be honest about the fact that this personal concern is motivating this ... if tlg had posted that in response to a post by whiney or j0rdy or imago (just naming posters who have gotten a bunch of negative criticism of things they wrote ... just off the top of my head), it would have not prompted this concern.

Hi, could a mod delete this post? It’s incorrect based on what I’ve now seen elsewhere so would prefer it’s deleted rather than leave the insinuation.

What happened to LUSH?

OK

I don’t agree that “it’s ok to be rude because these other random folks would have been ok with it”

I’m wondering if tlg would have bothered to correct a male poster in such a fashion

yeah this is just what i've had in the back of my mind since it happened and is part of why i got upset. anyway!

i guess i promise i will be less upset the next time someone condescendingly informs me that my metaphors that make sense don't make any sense, after all i owe it to my audience

I read sarahell's point to be more that the consensus on the rudeness-level was mostly influenced by ivy's strong reaction, however who really cares whether anyone else would be a better sport about a nitpicky attack on an earnest post? It's not very nice at all! There are ways to playfully roast someone but that wasn't it.

Gotta know or be friends with someone for that. The followup responses were pretty bad.

i mean sorry i said the figurative language didn’t make sense, thank god i didn’t say the music was bad, we’d have to have a restorative circle

― the late great, Tuesday, 29 August 2023 23:04 (two days ago) link

fair enough! here’s hoping for swift healing and no permanent trauma

― the late great, Tuesday, 29 August 2023 23:07 (two days ago) link

Pretty shitty replies.

tbf i was telling tlg to "fuck off" (tlg was not fucking off)

i do feel bad and like i overreacted and i feel simultaneously grateful and terrible that several ppl swooped in and feel especially bad that it got personal and honestly wish we were not talking about this two days later