"I'll Post Here When I'm Over You": Thread to Be Over A Breakup

I would just take this to EMO BLOG ENTRY but this ~is~ ILTMI and I'd like to think maybe other people would find some use for this kind of thread.

I leave town forever in two days. My ex's brother, with whom I've stayed good friends, came over to help me pack and take her stuff. We didn't pack anything, but we got really lifted and talked and talked and talked. I told him the things no one else knows, like that I'd planned to propose, and that she broke up with me because she said she didn't love me anymore and that the drama everyone saw was an after-the-fact ~effect~ of the breakup and not the cause. I asked about her new boyfriend and I was happy to hear she was happy, and I was happy to hear that her brother mostly likes the new bf. I gave him her stuff and we watched punk rock youtubes and laughed and took this great photo

http://img29.imageshack.us/img29/5900/lastnightflyer.jpg

And now he's gone and I feel the release, like I'm in 5th grade and I've been walking with a heavy backpack for blocks and I've finally taken it off. I'm leaving town, and I'm leaving this behind too.

I'm posting here cause I'm over you.

#narcissisticthreads

lock thread imo

bye!

*cheers*

thread of missing zorn_bond.mp3

my ex (from 2009, not the most recent) is engaged as of today. I kind of chuckled about it, but once upon a time, this was my nightmare. She was always the relationship I regretted losing the most, and shortly after we broke up, my biggest fear was that the next guy she met would sweep her off her feet and they'd get married.

So it's kind of funny that it did happen (as he was the guy after me, but granted it took a long time for this to develop), but I'm surprisingly cool with it. There's a part of me that will always love her regardless, but I'd made peace with her and her new man (who I've actually grown to become good friends with). I had wondered how I'd handle this moment when it actually happened...pleasantly surprised that I can genuinely say I'm happy for them both.

So, yeah, THE THREAD TITLE! :)

two and a fraction years is not 'a long time' to meet and get engaged imo

well yea I knwo that, I mean it wasn't like it happened like immeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeediately after our split.

I've had at least one ex get married..... and divorced.

My first gf, from my second year in high school, I hadn't seen since my first year in college. When my 10 year high school reunion was approaching, I started thinking about her a lot, wondered if we should have stayed together, wondered if she missed me, hoped she still thought of me as much as I'd though of her in the interim, spent months before the event fretting about what I'd say to her and how she'd react to being together for the first time in 9 years. Instead, when I first saw her again, all I could think was "WTF did you do to your hair?" It was in this crazy bouffant-like style, don't even know how to describe it. She looked out of shape, not at all attractive. We talked for about two minutes, caught up on the mundanities of our lives, before moving on to talk with others. She seemed really off-putting. I worked myself into a tizzy for this? I am so over her now....

Wish I could say the same about someone else from a few years ago.

If only she had been not-fat and not-unattractive, you wouldn't have wasted those months of juvenile obsession. Instead they would have been put to good use feeding your totally justified neuroses.

To clarify: she wasn't fat, just looked liked she hadn't exercised for 5 years, and her disinterested conversation (and choices in style) were more off-putting than her innate appearance. I've known several women who managed to look more attractive over the years despite gaining weight.