Have you mastered being the Big Spoon?

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Some day I hope to find the magical sleeping position where my shoulder doesn't feel like it's on fire halfway through the night and I don't lose feeling in my fingers.

a cross between lily allen and fetal alcohol syndrome (milo z), Sunday, 15 August 2010 00:27 (eight years ago) Permalink

LIFT YOUR ARM

Seven and the Ragged Tiger Woods (King Boy Pato), Sunday, 15 August 2010 00:31 (eight years ago) Permalink

cut a space in yr mattress thatd fit yr arm then youd be fine

markers, Sunday, 15 August 2010 00:47 (eight years ago) Permalink

i am pretty good at this tbh: put your underneath arm into a kind of L-shape under your pillow, so your elbow is resting near their underneath-shoulder (does that make sense?)

just1n3, Sunday, 15 August 2010 00:53 (eight years ago) Permalink

If I am able to fall asleep while wrapped around someone, or with someone wrapped around me, it's not falling asleep so much as passing out. Watch me carefully, I may be dying.

kenan, Sunday, 15 August 2010 01:33 (eight years ago) Permalink

i dont get the question tbh- arm fits in under gf's neck quite comfortably?

"It's far from 'loi' you were reared, boy" (darraghmac), Sunday, 15 August 2010 01:50 (eight years ago) Permalink

Can't sleep while touching. :(

Jesus doesn't want me for a thundercloud (Laurel), Sunday, 15 August 2010 15:12 (eight years ago) Permalink

My husband always has his elbow poking into my back when we do this. Always.

Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Sunday, 15 August 2010 15:43 (eight years ago) Permalink

spooning is not really intended for sleeping imo. may lead to pain and being soaked w/ sweat

the girl with the butt tattoo (harbl), Sunday, 15 August 2010 15:44 (eight years ago) Permalink

My ex and I came up with an arrangement where I'd play big spoon until she fell asleep, at which point I'd gingerly extract my arm and roll onto my back and put a hand on her waist so we stayed in contact without me losing all feeling in my extremities.

zorn_bond.mp3, Sunday, 15 August 2010 18:53 (eight years ago) Permalink

Experiment! If your body is slightly above your partner's (lengthwise that is, not heightwise), you can place your arm under the pillow just beyond her head, or in that small gap between the mattress and wall/headboard, or have your head on the pillow and your arm cradling the outside of the pillow so it doesn't get crushed. Or move downward in relation to the inner (not "little") spoon and put your arm under the nape of her neck. Harder to describe than to do; photos and diagrams don't help much either because the arm in question is necessarily covered up and out of view. Somewhere I saw a pillow made for this purpose with an arm cutout on the underside. I find a memory-foam mattress or topper helps.

I prefer facing each other cuddled up to spooning anyway. That I have mastered!

Lee626, Thursday, 19 August 2010 09:10 (eight years ago) Permalink

i prefer sleeping with butts touching. comfortable and funny.

karl...arlk...rlka...lkar..., Saturday, 21 August 2010 21:44 (eight years ago) Permalink

I am the master.

baseball michael jordan (crüt), Saturday, 21 August 2010 21:47 (eight years ago) Permalink

I <3 spoonin'

I used to lurk on some turtle forums (Trayce), Saturday, 21 August 2010 23:58 (eight years ago) Permalink

never. sometimes I wake up in the middle of the night and my arm feels like it's gonna fall off because I've been sleeping on it and there's no bloodflow and that's withOUT anyone sleeping next to me. ;_;

? (dyao), Sunday, 22 August 2010 00:44 (eight years ago) Permalink

i've done that with my legs... awoken and fallen flat on my face because they are both temporarily dead.

SYNTAX ERROR (remy bean), Sunday, 22 August 2010 00:50 (eight years ago) Permalink

hah it's really scary - it'll be the middle of the night and my arm will not respond to my brainwaves and it will have no feeling. I'm glad I'm not a blackout drunk (yet) otherwise I'm sure I would have lost a limb by now.

? (dyao), Sunday, 22 August 2010 00:52 (eight years ago) Permalink

If the *inner* spoon is particularly hourglassy, under the stomach is extremely comfortable and just the best dang ol' time, intimacy-wise.

ENERGY FOOD (en i see kay), Saturday, 28 August 2010 03:49 (eight years ago) Permalink

ass-to-ass w/ hand on her hip is the best compromise I've found

a cross between lily allen and fetal alcohol syndrome (milo z), Monday, 30 August 2010 05:12 (eight years ago) Permalink

Sometimes I have fallen asleep with hand on her hip or otherwise lightly snuggly, and then she tries to move my hand or roll over or something, and I get really grumbly in my sleep and object and even say aloud, "No!" I don't remember doing these things, but I hear about them later.

blood and organs, cruelty and decay (kenan), Monday, 30 August 2010 05:33 (eight years ago) Permalink

I have the same problem - absolutely impossible to sleep spooning, almost as impossible to sleep touching. Does everyone feel like this or are we just a bunch of message board addicts with greater than normal fears of intimacy?

Ground Zero Mostel (Hurting 2), Monday, 30 August 2010 06:22 (eight years ago) Permalink

No, I can quite happily fall asleep tucked away as either spoon...

YOUNG POLLY GERNO'S (Trayce), Monday, 30 August 2010 06:36 (eight years ago) Permalink

Mind you I wont *stay* that way if the other person moves, but thats sleep for ya.

YOUNG POLLY GERNO'S (Trayce), Monday, 30 August 2010 06:37 (eight years ago) Permalink

attention future girlfriends if I will not fall asleep spooning with you its not cause I dont like you I HAVE A CONDITION this thread is proof LOOK AT THE TIMESTAMP

dayo, Monday, 30 August 2010 07:37 (eight years ago) Permalink

haha

blood and organs, cruelty and decay (kenan), Monday, 30 August 2010 18:17 (eight years ago) Permalink

I have no problem being either spoon.

Un peu d'Eire, ça fait toujours Dublin (Michael White), Monday, 30 August 2010 22:07 (eight years ago) Permalink

I'd rather be a spork.

Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Tuesday, 31 August 2010 00:08 (eight years ago) Permalink

Please unpack that for us.

blood and organs, cruelty and decay (kenan), Tuesday, 31 August 2010 04:51 (eight years ago) Permalink

generally comes in easy to rip open plastic wrapper iirc

sarahel, Tuesday, 31 August 2010 04:57 (eight years ago) Permalink

there's often a napkin included

sarahel, Tuesday, 31 August 2010 04:58 (eight years ago) Permalink

That's very thoughtful, to include a napkin.

blood and organs, cruelty and decay (kenan), Tuesday, 31 August 2010 05:00 (eight years ago) Permalink

Misread this as Have You Masturbated The Big Spoon?

A Chart Hit of Some Sort (Eazy), Tuesday, 31 August 2010 06:02 (eight years ago) Permalink

That's very thoughtful, to include a napkin.

And one that's already folded, to boot.

Christine Green Leafy Dragon Indigo, Tuesday, 31 August 2010 06:27 (eight years ago) Permalink

Basically I don't sleep while touching at all. And every time I fussily arrange my pillows at night and sink gratefully into them, I feel a twinge of guilt that I'm depriving my partner of something sweet and important, that I'm some kind of overly fussy neurotic who can't relax if there's any stimuli. Also if I don't support my feet the right way etc, I wake up with horrible back pain, so this isn't just fussiness on my part.

How sad would you be if yr partner slept like a corpse, with hands folded on stomach, and didn't want to be touched? I wonder how much of a priority I should make it to find a new & better mattress so that maybe I don't have to do this.

Jesus doesn't want me for a thundercloud (Laurel), Tuesday, 31 August 2010 16:18 (eight years ago) Permalink

I have no problem being either spoon.

― Un peu d'Eire, ça fait toujours Dublin (Michael White), Monday, 30 August 2010 22:07 (Yesterday)

"Not in a great place" meaning mentally? or Oregon? (Matt P), Tuesday, 31 August 2010 18:30 (eight years ago) Permalink

I have to admit I'd find it a bit sad if I couldnt cuddle in bed, L! But then again, one's partner's comfort and health is also important!

YOUNG POLLY GERNO'S (Trayce), Wednesday, 1 September 2010 07:11 (eight years ago) Permalink

If you married someone like that, you might need an arrangement allowing a cuddler on the side.

A Chart Hit of Some Sort (Eazy), Wednesday, 1 September 2010 12:24 (eight years ago) Permalink

five years pass...

Mainly tho tbrr it's all about finding a comfortable tangled leg arrangement

never had it so ogod (darraghmac), Thursday, 14 April 2016 22:30 (three years ago) Permalink

Spooning by itself is classic of course, but touching while sleeping is a lie we have all been told - free yourselves!

Andrew Farrell, Friday, 15 April 2016 10:37 (three years ago) Permalink


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