WOULD/WOULDN'T

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Poll Results

OptionVotes
Yes, it's fun and what's the harm? 13
No, doesn't occur to me to do so/don't see what the appeal is. 7
No, it's degrading/objectifying/hypersexualizing/other moral objection. 4
Yes, but I feel sort of guilty about it. 4


Fedora Dostoyevsky (man alive), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:04 (eleven months ago) Permalink

where are 'no, because the answer is always would' and 'no, because the answer is always wouldn't' options

in conclusion, it is good to peel the sheeps (bizarro gazzara), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:08 (eleven months ago) Permalink

apologies to my pansexual and asexual comrades

Fedora Dostoyevsky (man alive), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:10 (eleven months ago) Permalink

this whole thing is a sham

in conclusion, it is good to peel the sheeps (bizarro gazzara), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:10 (eleven months ago) Permalink

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YVc0wBLri1A

Three Word Username, Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:11 (eleven months ago) Permalink

i don't understand the question

weird woman in a bar (La Lechera), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:14 (eleven months ago) Permalink

even truelad.com has moved beyond this reductive binary to give all women a score out of 10

ogmor, Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:17 (eleven months ago) Permalink

x-post - he's asking if you look at people and think "I would/wouldn't fuck that person".

Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:21 (eleven months ago) Permalink

so is this thread not about eating booty?

how to diss a peer completely (unregistered), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:23 (eleven months ago) Permalink

man, eating booty seems to be such a generational thing, that would not even have occurred to me.

Fedora Dostoyevsky (man alive), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:24 (eleven months ago) Permalink

well I don't discriminate btwn millennial booty and gen x booty and gen y booty and boomer booty and greatest generation booty, but I have fewer sexual hangups then most people imho

how to diss a peer completely (unregistered), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:26 (eleven months ago) Permalink

it kicks in before conscious thought u liars

the clodding of the american mind (darraghmac), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:27 (eleven months ago) Permalink

pfft like i'm capable of conscious thought

in conclusion, it is good to peel the sheeps (bizarro gazzara), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:32 (eleven months ago) Permalink

conscious thots aren't really my type, so

how to diss a peer completely (unregistered), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:33 (eleven months ago) Permalink

I kind of wish I made gender/sexual orientation poll options, assuming this would be more common among men of all orientations than women but would be interesting to see the responses

Fedora Dostoyevsky (man alive), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:37 (eleven months ago) Permalink

you uh prefer them unconscious? xp

in conclusion, it is good to peel the sheeps (bizarro gazzara), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:37 (eleven months ago) Permalink

there is certainly an immediate and somewhat unconscious "i find this person attractive" thing that happens ime

it might not amount to a "would/wouldn't" type of conscious question that i'm asking myself but it is there

marcos, Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:48 (eleven months ago) Permalink

yeah thats a better rework of my post

the clodding of the american mind (darraghmac), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 15:50 (eleven months ago) Permalink

you uh prefer them unconscious? xp

dang, I didn't really think that one through :-/

maybe you could break the options down further w/r/t "I play this game in the privacy of my headspace" vs "I play this game all the time with my buddies at the gym".

mentally sizing up people's attractiveness is harmless enough as long as it doesn't prompt toxic behavior toward people who meet/fail to meet your standards — though I suspect that the more you dwell on the (un)attractiveness of every casual acquaintance and the more invested you are in mentally rating every woman you meet on a 1-10 scale, the more likely you are to behave like a sexist POS in your day-to-day interactions

on the other hand, communal "I'd hit that" locker room talk is almost always creepy and toxic and I should hope that most people here are above that sort of thing

how to diss a peer completely (unregistered), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 16:08 (eleven months ago) Permalink

sometimes i have a hard time distinguishing whether my initial attraction is sexual or aesthetic, i.e. "i want to have sex with this person" vs "i really love how this person presents themselves and i want to be around them"

marcos, Wednesday, 14 March 2018 16:09 (eleven months ago) Permalink

I find the 1-10 scale more degrading than would/wouldn't, it sounds like you're judging a prize animal at a state fair. Or maybe it's just more fussy, idk, but I don't really find the distinctions between a "7" and a "9" meaningful -- at most there are 3-4 categories -- "would under no circumstances" "would under desperate/drunk circumstances" "would generally." Going beyond that just sounds like being some kind of connoisseur in a way that strikes me as detached from sex.

Most days I don't consciously play "would/wouldn't," but on certain horny days I do. I probably always do it a little bit, unconsciously.

Fedora Dostoyevsky (man alive), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 16:29 (eleven months ago) Permalink

i can't even get my head around the prospect of using a numeric scale it seems so absurd not to mention dehumanizing

marcos, Wednesday, 14 March 2018 16:31 (eleven months ago) Permalink

also tricky yknow

the clodding of the american mind (darraghmac), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 16:35 (eleven months ago) Permalink

yeah i'm much more partial to a five-star system myself

in conclusion, it is good to peel the sheeps (bizarro gazzara), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 16:42 (eleven months ago) Permalink

generally it is unconscious/subconscious but there are occasions when i keep a conversation going for long enough and we seem to get on well enough, and my unconscious/subconscious mind hasn't told me wld/wldnt i consciously think wld/wldnt then i start balancing out all the good and bad in her

it all happens fairly fast

not a 1-10 scale exactly, but a quick imaginary pros/cons list

i'm only into women tho (none of the other trans/lgbtqiapk/etc. stuff)

F# A# (∞), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 16:50 (eleven months ago) Permalink

"Yes, it's fun and what's the harm?" would be most accurate, but it's more like, "at some point I have weighed the pros and cons of having sex with any and everyone", and usually only once. This line of thought rarely, but sometimes, produces a "yes, sex with that person would be a good idea" result

nevertheless, he stopped (flamboyant goon tie included), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 17:08 (eleven months ago) Permalink

that's a good addendum flan

F# A# (∞), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 17:24 (eleven months ago) Permalink

I've certainly done the related offshoot "Imagine what it would be like to have sex with literally any woman I know/meet regardless of attractiveness" but that was more of an adolescent thing.

Fedora Dostoyevsky (man alive), Wednesday, 14 March 2018 19:31 (eleven months ago) Permalink

Automatic thread bump. This poll is closing tomorrow.

System, Tuesday, 20 March 2018 00:01 (ten months ago) Permalink

would

sleepingbag, Tuesday, 20 March 2018 00:13 (ten months ago) Permalink

Shame on anyone who posts on this board and doesn't use the proper Pitchfork decimal point scale for sizing up all things in life.

Mario Meatwagon (Moodles), Tuesday, 20 March 2018 00:25 (ten months ago) Permalink

I work at a bank

Sufjan in Worst Shithole of a Major American City (Sufjan Grafton), Tuesday, 20 March 2018 01:18 (ten months ago) Permalink

O rly? I bet your constantly sizing up those old men on the currency, which is a 1, which is a 5, a 10, a 20???

Mario Meatwagon (Moodles), Tuesday, 20 March 2018 02:50 (ten months ago) Permalink

for me it's "No, doesn't occur to me to do so/don't see what the appeal is." but with maybe a little of all the other options sprinkled in

had (crüt), Tuesday, 20 March 2018 02:56 (ten months ago) Permalink

Occasionally when I'm feeling crappy i'll walk down some random street and look at each person i pass (regardless of gender, age, etc.) and decide, being my most brutally honest, whether that person is less or more attractive than me and keep a mental tally. I'm always surprised to find the former group is usually much larger than the latter. Anyone else do this?

Lee626, Tuesday, 20 March 2018 22:35 (ten months ago) Permalink

submit to the Reproducibility Project imo

Sufjan in Worst Shithole of a Major American City (Sufjan Grafton), Tuesday, 20 March 2018 22:43 (ten months ago) Permalink

I remember some thread almost 10 years or so ago where I mentioned that I did this and got a negative reaction. Can't find the thread though.

how's life, Tuesday, 20 March 2018 23:26 (ten months ago) Permalink

controversy was that you did it aloud iirc

Sufjan in Worst Shithole of a Major American City (Sufjan Grafton), Tuesday, 20 March 2018 23:34 (ten months ago) Permalink

i don't do this. looking at the mind from the sort of david hume lense i would say that the attractiveness of a person is something i perceive as an impression, but i don't really make an idea out of that impression unless there's some reason to - i.e. person being a viable possible sexual/romantic partner

Louis Jägermeister (jim in vancouver), Tuesday, 20 March 2018 23:38 (ten months ago) Permalink

Automatic thread bump. This poll's results are now in.

System, Wednesday, 21 March 2018 00:01 (ten months ago) Permalink


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