thread to get over a breakup

^^^^^^^^

bill her via telegram and sign the telegram "friend"

call her tearfully and tell her what a mistake you made ending the relationship, and how nothing would make you happier than just getting some coffee with her and seeing her one more time, and if she doesn't even want to take you back, just seeing her that one last time would mean everything to you, blah blah blah.

then, don't go. you don't get your money back, but it would probably be worth $1000.

oh i get it... because doing that would be COLD AS ICE.

sweet.

Well,

better come up with a solid reason that I dumped u before u call today

u_U

lol :/

\(o_o)/

dumped a dude on the sidewalk at pilot light, bad form imo

in everyones o

Dear Dude,

I feel really bad about dumping you on the sidewalk. It was a bad decision and I regret it. I was wondering if you would like to have dinner on Friday so I could dump you again more properly. You are an okay-ish but not great guy and you deserve that much.

Love but not in love,
Roxymuzak

startlingly otm, but there will be no dinner consumed

any time anyone says anything about grindcore you start talking about the locust

HEY TRY DOING THIS WHILE YOU'RE ON OPPOSITE SIDES OF THE WORLD

It's great fun!!

i've had breakups where it would've been a better option, i think.

HEY TRY DOING THIS WHILE YOU'RE ON OPPOSITE SIDES OF THE WORLD

― I'm Australian or some other weird nationality (King Boy Pato), Wednesday, July 15, 2009 8:11 AM (4 hours ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

is this like the Australian version of 'i have a girlfriend ... she lives in canada'

yeah iirc it is a hell of a lot easier on opposite sides of the world. doi

though probably there'd be less opportunity for other people to bring up grindcore and him to always mention the Locust.

thats what hapenned when we were together, duh
we are now talking about breakups

hapenned????
happened

I was merely commenting on the fact that w/long distance relationships a lot of the annoyances/warning signs of a relationship that isn't gonna work out aren't as apparent or don't exist.

ok

breaking up, on the other hand, is hella easy when the person isnt in your face 24/7 or indeed at all

that's the truth ... I remember dating/breaking up with someone who was my housemate at the time, and the constant proximity post-breakup drove me psycho.

been there i feel for u girl

It was a fairly big house - about 25 people lived there, and his room was directly beneath mine, so I could hear him and his rebound girlfriend going at it. At which point, I'd put on Throbbing Gristle Live at the Death Factory extremely loudly and leave the house.

hahaha <3 thats amazing behavior

It was weird that I got so aggro - I dumped him, but the rebound girl was so gross, I felt it was a personal insult.

Guys, I like closure. And to be honest, I wanted this relationship after she came back.

we're back together fwiw and iirc

any time anyone says anything about grindcore you start talking about the locust

― gucci gone bonkers (roxymuzak), Wednesday, July 15, 2009 6:51 AM (2 days ago) Bookmark Suggest Ban Permalink

^will be addressed.

dude de-dumped

have never done that before tbh. ive never "gotten back together" with anybody. it is weird!!!!

Wait, you've gotten back together with whom?

the guy i broke up with 7/1 (never forget)

how long were you together?

not long! a couple months

3 months?

He seems like a nice guy. Obviously Roxy = king (or queen).

then the getting back together thing might work out fine ... I've just seen too many couples that have been together for years break up and try getting back together again, and that almost always ends badly.

i'm not too surprised, his crimes list was tellingly short.

haha

then the getting back together thing might work out fine ... I've just seen too many couples that have been together for years break up and try getting back together again, and that almost always ends badly.

― well I'm married to a limping, crescent-shaped abortion (sarahel), Friday, July 17, 2009 9:36 PM (2 days ago) Bookmark

^^^^ this has been my experience.

I broke up with my first proper girlfriend, then got back together with her more than a year later (during which we'd both seen other people). We ended up staying together much longer the second time than we did the first time, maybe because during the time we weren't together we'd found out that the grass wasn't greener on the other side of the fence. Ultimately the relationship did end, but I don't regret getting back together with her, as I have many good memories of those times.

We were both in our teens when we first got together though, so I think all this was more like a "learning to be in a steady relationship" experience, and I'm sure it's quite different for older couples who break up and then get back together.

It's not that different. I think people can always get better at relationships and have the opportunity for another go around. It all depends on how much of a dumbass one or the other was because you can only erase away so much dumbass in a given time.

I think a lot of the dumbassery is contextual ... people develop patterns and habits of interaction with one another. It's difficult not to revert to previous habits and patterns.

That is insightful.

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