thread to get over a breakup

never been to the cinema on my own
it's great!

eating a 3 meal dinner alone at a good restaurant is also tops, really lets you zen out

I like being alone at concerts too (but I often end up talking to people when I go to concerts alone)

and bars, if it's a good bar you can just zen out standing at the bar having one pint after the other

I do get the awkwardness of clubbing alone, you need someone to dance with

and all those dating apps (I'm using all of them atm) are horrible indeed, such a waste of time

you could go to meetups and stuff, but I don't get the idea you need new friends? maybe would be nice for you to settle a bit more into your own company. but then, I'm an introvert so if you're different maybe it's never going to be as nice for you

"never been to the cinema on my own"

Wow. I know I'm pretty far over on the antisocial end of the scale but the idea of people who need company to exist in even non-social public spaces just boggles my mind.

"people who need company to exist"

can we assume that you didn't mean that to have the level of superiority it's giving off?

Can I assume the same of your response?

there's no reason to assume goodwill on moo's part

I'll admit to fp'ing right away

And is that the royal "we"?

tbh Moo i was trying to give you the benefit of refining a comment that seemed pretty shitty for this kind of thread but i shd've known better

You should probably stick to the "you have no friends" response from the other day, which I don't think anyone FP'd.

tbh Moo i was trying to give you the benefit of refining a comment that seemed pretty shitty for this kind of thread but i shd've known better

― bad left terf nut (Noodle Vague), Tuesday, April 3, 2018 6:21 PM (eleven seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Not supercilious in the slightest.

never mind, carry on

I don't think it's about "needing" company as much as finding the act of doing these things solo a foreign thing.

there's no reason to assume goodwill on moo's part

― WilliamC, Tuesday, April 3, 2018 6:14 PM (eight minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Goodwill toward whom? I don't know you or anyone else posting here.

I don't think it's about "needing" company as much as finding the act of doing these things solo a foreign thing.

― mh, Tuesday, April 3, 2018 6:25 PM (twenty-one seconds ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I think finding it sufficiently foreign to avoid it is effectively the same thing. I find its foreignness foreign.

if we're not worthy of goodwill then why interact with us at all? jesus christ

I didn't say you were un'worthy of goodwill', nor do I perceive this forum primarily as a site of social 'interaction' in which such a concept would come into play, but rather as one for discussion of ideas. Though having just seen how small is its readership, I suppose that view may be erroneous.

I would suggest that excessively personalizing that sort of idealized discussion is in fact a fairly good description of bad faith.

I think depersonalizing any discussion, to the extent you pretend the people in it aren't distinct personalities bringing their own lives to the table, ignores how human interaction actually works

tell me how a thread with this title fits into your "idealized discussion" bullshit, because it's about a personal experience and not an idealized "how humans should deal with the end of a relationship"

there's no reason to assume goodwill on moo's part

― WilliamC, Tuesday, April 3, 2018 6:14 PM (eight minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Goodwill toward whom? I don't know you or anyone else posting here.

― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, April 3, 2018 11:25 AM (twelve minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

you are a total cunt

jim's got it in fewer words

thread for callously but efficiently workshopping ideas for getting over a breakup

"human interaction" doesn't "actually work" via typing words on a screen in what may be a hermetic environment and seeing them appear in electronic print to be read immediately or far in the future by several dozen or hundred faceless people any of whom might choose to ignore, read, respond, or address a different topic. Or was it your assertion that a given person may effectively control the terms of the thread for an indeterminate amount of time by presenting a certain personal topic or experience?

Note that this question is reasonably rhetorical and posed as part of a bilateral conversation I did not invite, and I'll now return you to defending ghosting with "I'm not feeling it," mr. goodwill, while I attempt do more productive things for an indeterminate interim.

No, the implication was your phrasing seemed judgmental and mean to someone who found the experience of going to a movie on their own disheartening.

And that's quite the misreading of what both "ghosting" and what I actually said was!

you are a total cunt

― Louis Jägermeister (jim in vancouver), Tuesday, April 3, 2018 6:38 PM (four minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I enjoy "cunts" on occasion so I'll accept your lower-class, sexist dismissal (to the degree a widespread term among your culture, expressive of its lower-class, sexist character) with mild amusement.

^not for those presently reading. a text for the futuremen^

you are a total cunt

― Louis Jägermeister (jim in vancouver), Tuesday, April 3, 2018 6:38 PM (four minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

I enjoy "cunts" on occasion so I'll accept your lower-class, sexist dismissal (to the degree a widespread term among your culture, expressive of its lower-class, sexist character) with mild amusement.

― Moo Vaughn, Tuesday, April 3, 2018 11:45 AM (six minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

one of these posts is sexist, one of them is me calling you a cunt

you're also a cock just fyi

and an arsehole

hey moo you're a fucking idiot nerd ass loser and everyone hates you btw

ilx on the verge of dumping him again

thread to moo vaughn from a breakup

thread to breakup from moo vaughn

Once upon a time and a very good time it was there was a moovaughn coming down along the road and this moovaughn that was coming down along the road met a nicens little boy named baby tuckhoos.

you're also a cock just fyi

― Louis Jägermeister (jim in vancouver), Tuesday, April 3, 2018 6:53 PM (thirty-one minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Second thoughts then?

thread to breakup from moo vaughn

― sleeve, Tuesday, April 3, 2018 7:00 PM (thirty-one minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

Something of a theme lately

Really wish this thread was on 77 tbh 🤐

Also why the fuck can't we seem to get rid of Gabnebb, jesus christ.

One of my favorite things to do is to go to the theater by myself (pre-Netlfix). But this may depend where one lives. I have gone to loads of shows by myself as well, most likely because I never want to stand in the crowd where my friends want to stand anyway so I don't mind standing by myself.

OTM about trying to set up a new routine above. I am a big advocate for finding a class that meets on the regular for something that you would like to learn and that would challenge you. Something that would require an end goal/test for you to accomplish by a a deadline and would require you to study. It makes you really focused everywhere else, if you can can commit to it.

Could we stop interacting with MV?

This is an atrociously wanky sentiment, but you never go to a movie alone, if there’s no-one else there you’re still there with the writers/director.

highly recommend going to a movie alone
i still do it now and then

i mean, its not like you talk to anyone anyway, even if you do go with someone
(unless you are a disgusting savage)
it’s very pleasant & enjoyable imo

I saw a movie by myself yesterday and I was the only person in the theater

It was marvelous

We never got to go to movie theaters growing up, maybe once a year as a treat. So now I am like, fuck yeah!, I get to do what I want, whenever I want, by myself.

chill guys I know it's probably perfectly normal to go to the cinema alone, I just never did it because generally there'd be the occasion of someone else coming along, which is lucky for me I guess :-) thanks though everyone

what movie were you considering?

https://cubecinema.com/programme/event/have-a-nice-day,9996/

ah, a man of taste

I've seen 87 films in a cinema by myself in the last 12 months; in about 80 of those cases it was better than not seeing the films. dl I suggest going to some films that your ex wouldn't have gone to, or would have only gone to in order to keep you company - so the "odd" behaviour has different expectations to what coupled outings were like

think i will. there's a great arthouse cinema right nearby and if anything it would be a good exercise in going things alone

sic what magical cinema do you live nearby that would show that many good films??