I Lost A Coughdrop in His Asshole: The ILX Gays TMI Thread

tumblr has gone downhill.

i sent this dc dude my unwashed jockstrap

in a 6"x9" mailer with a mix cd 😎

well i bet the jock is fresher

6 by 9, oh my

xp i guess you can judge for yourself: Your Favorite Song On This

but n.b. i don't give a shit what you think so why not share your own tmi on this thread instead of... riding my jock.

man mailing me unwashed jock is on my list of small but realistic dreams

i've been wearing one recently, pretty fun of course tho not quite sure how to work it into my life

I've never worn one; it feels like a garter belt.

I've removed them though.

i actually like them as regular underwear and i'm pretty used to wearing them now. a friend is into them so i ground his face in the pouch, that was fun.

man mailing me unwashed jock is on my list of small but realistic dreams

https://upload.wikimedia.org/wikipedia/commons/1/12/We_Can_Do_It!.jpg

i'm just going to blather here. i got a jock in return (whew), along with "masculine studies" "classics" iron john and king, warrior, magician and lover, and the prophet by khalil gibran. *rolls eyes*. ok i'll go with it, at least he isn't sending me atlas shrugged. i'm giving iron john a go but i don't think i'm going to make it. the weird thing is i totally had a "meaningful" dream last night like one of the ones in this stupid book. i mean it's fine, just boring in its self-help mode and weirdly non-commital and non-water-holding for a book about grabbing life by the balls or w/e, 274 pages of hedging vague suggestiveness. i cracked open king, warrior and yeah i don't think that one's for me, stuffy pseud windbag tone, no thanks.

my ex spoiled me by being well-read and having good taste in books.

i'm gonna send him spinoza: practical philosophy by deleuze for that beautiful, bomb-ass intro and stars in my pocket like grains of sand because that's the kind of thing i want a unicorn lover of mine to read and i think he could maybe get into it.

J why did no one believe you when you came out? Didn't you show them your music collection?

holy shit I send that Deleuze to possible persons over-30, under 30s get Anne Carson

fgti which book would you send me? *flutters eyelashes*

well now anne carson is going on my library list.

i'm 34 and available btw

J why did no one believe you when you came out? Didn't you show them your music collection?

― The Hon. J. Piedmont Mumblethunder (Dr Morbius), Thursday, October 13, 2016 1:08 AM (nine hours ago) Bookmark

my thing was that i listened to tons of rap music!

I still get way too many people surprised when they learn about me.

I shocked no one.

i didn't know anyone to shock, except for my mother who screeched at me

i really have no clue how much i pass or not, i feel pretty gay on the inside and love it

and you all rock btw, even dr morbius, who obv needs some help ilx is not giving him

hello my beautiful gaywads

it's been 6 weeks since my boyfriend's mom died and he's been depressed for months prior to that. we haven't been kicking it very often lately, which is understandable. i've not played outside the relationship either since then because i know it's been a tough time for him, but i'm feeling pretty frustrated.

anyhow he's out of town for the next couple days and i'm not sure what i want to do about it.

a friend with benefits? porn, dildo, weed, poppers?

i have... all those things.

naked macrame bacchanal?

i guess more broadly i'm just not sure how to navigate the intersection of an open relationship, mental illness, and grief. it feels like my identity as & obligation to be a loving and supportive partner leads to this self-sacrificing behavior where i just go without sex, sometimes for weeks, because it feels selfish under the circumstances to assert myself & my appetites.

like I don't know how to broach the subject because I worry it's just going to sound like "okay your mom's dead & you're depressed but i still need to nut"

although my boyfriend is going to starting an antidepressant shortly, so the situation is either going to get better if his mood stabilizes or get worse because of side effects

anyway, sorry to kvetch on the sexxxy thread!

it's a def a weird situation... i wish i had some sort of answer. i think you should bring it up tho or else it's going to drive you crazy and the sublimated resentment will prob make the situation worse? i think if you make it very clear that you're willing to close the relationship until he feels comfortable opening back it up that you guys could at least have a discussion about it.

part of the dynamic is on me for sure, i didn't decide that i wouldn't mess around with other dudes because of a conversation we had but because i felt it was the considerate thing to do during this time. so i guess what i'm really contending with is giving myself permission to ~enjoy pleasure~ when it feels kinda scummy and shameful and inconsiderate -- even though i know that none of that is necessarily true

i'm curious why you would think it inappropriate to keep pursuing side interests in an open relationship in these circumstances. i mean it makes sense to me that maybe you wouldn't be in the mood to have nsa sex when your boyfriend is dealing with grief and added depression. on the other hand i think you can make a case that it would be inconsiderate to him not to give yourself access to pleasure and fun -- you're in support mode and you need an outlet -- and also, outside of your felt obligations, it's something you deserve on its own.

sounding - A+++
piss play - roughly A need more info
rim chair - A- a little corny tbh
shoving fingers down throat - A

a spooktacular weekend with nothing below a 9

oh yeah, ghb was fun but i wouldn't want to make a habit out of it

E and i had our first foursome with a really cute couple -- we hit it off amazingly and are planning a hike next saturday :D

map good lord

yeah awesome

<3

I feel like it was a mistake to do a checklist like that when really the whole weekend was transporting and it's hard to describe and I'm falling for this guy who seems to be falling for me too. The weird thing was we tried all these piggy things together but it felt super safe. The sounding was really really really hot, like seeing white lights with your eyes closed hot.

clouds your foursome hiking crew sounds super fun.

Reading anything about sounding is literally TMI for me.

Carry on, please; that's what the thread's here for--just know that I'll be sitting here crossing my legs.

this guy just fucking came out of nowhere and now i feel like i'm sprouting or shedding old skin or something.

xp lol

also i got a new fb friend, this gorgeous black-jamaican model with a seventh day adventist upbringing, by calling him 'unfailingly polite'. he was expertly fielding advances from an annoying af son of an R-Ohio congressman who honestly just needed a spanking but wasn't appealing enough even for that. i could have a lot of gay friends in town if i just moved towns. salt lake city feels like a soiled crib to me right now. which reminds me, the guy i was with this weekendpissed on his mattress and we bought a steam cleaner from target for it and it took three days to dry out. i also peed in a glass and threw it on him while he was in the tub like surprise!

still gotta sing tlc's waterfalls for like two minutes to get the yellow tho ;_;

home alone and bored once, i tried sounding with the wooden end of a paintbrush. i get it.

ahhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhhh

not sorry (^ ^)v

sounding is fucking terrifying to me, y'all are brave

why does it have such an innocuous name

lol