what's happening to our borad TMI

'all the world's ambient sounds' is a good way of thinking about it

it is functionally about halfway between taste and hearing

Thank you, Abbs. I didn't know that product existed! Maybe it would be useful for a lot of people if we know we're gonna be on a road trip or something.

there are a few destinking things like that

I have no idea how I haven't been extremely ripe my entire life given my diet, but I think part of it is being lucky with your inherited and environmental gut biome.

i farted by accident in the middle of sex once and the guy pulled out and immediately took a shower

I know this is probably horribly embarrassing and mortifying (also, wtf @ that guy) but this is kind of a next-level achievement in life

on his part or mine?

yours, for sure

sorry crabbits! i didn't mean to be insensitive about it. glad you found a decent destinkifier

and yeah dudes who freak out at the first sign of, like, natural bodily functions in the middle of sex are so weird to me

the thought actually occurred to me the other day that nothing is less fun than sex with a germ-phobic person

Someone I know just reported privately that she's dating someone who categorically refuses to ever ever go down on her, and it's just like...I don't care what germ-phobic or shaming motivations you have for that, it's not really okay to treat your partner's sexual parts or sexual expression like they're lava/infested with crocodiles.

i had a date make me brush my teeth once (after his decision to buy pizza and beer)

I'm surprised that anyone who's had sex hasn't experienced a good share of farting during sex, on their or their partners' parts

I mean I'm sure we all have stories

tell yr friend to dump that person immediately

^^^

^^^ but in the meantime she sure as hell better not be going down on him. tit for tat MFer.

Haha oh no he's okay with receiving oral sex, just not giving it. I know, I know.

But it got me thinking about how important it is to me emotionally that my bf is like, "I love everything about you and I can't get enough," just across the board. (I have other problems with him but this, I appreciate.)

tell yr friend to dump that person immediately

― gbx, Tuesday, November 11, 2014 12:30 PM (8 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

^^^

― sleeve, Tuesday, November 11, 2014 12:31 PM (7 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

^^^ but in the meantime she sure as hell better not be going down on him. tit for tat MFer.

― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, November 11, 2014 12:35 PM (3 minutes ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

otm

it's also frustrating if you're with someone who is interested in giving but not receiving oral sex? this is not a comfortable disparity

I had a guy hand me a disposable toothbrush after sex and it felt really degrading, like he found the act really shameful.

that is so shitty.

The fart med tip has really piqued my interest. If someone's got a bad case of gas in my house, there is no escape. Gonna look into this for sure.

everyone in fifth grade quit talking to me for the entire rest of the school year because I farted in class

Were you the teacher?

xps to be honest he was like this really awful closeted Republican who worked in finance so it doesn't really surprise me.

i had a casual partner i hooked up w/ throughout high school tell me my bush was too big the first time we had sex. it stayed with me for a while and i starting trimming if i knew we were gonna hookup. now in my life i most definitely don't give a fuck

just a weird thing to say to a sex partner. commenting negatively on my partner's body during sex or anytime just seems like such an asshole move

i have a weird theory that is probably wrong but i feel like ppl who are grossed out by the less pristine aspects of sex/the body tend to be from/have mostly lived in suburban areas.

like the toothbrush guy had just moved to the city from rural south carolina, and some of the more uncomfortably sterile sex encounters (like they wouldn't give oral or kiss, etc) i've had took place in immaculate bourgie apartments that smelled like airwick and had carpeted floors

Def think it's a thing where a lot of people's first experience with sex comes through porn where there's no smell or touch or w/e and they think that irl it will be just like that

xp did I actually tell you abt this once? Bcz he was legit from Charleston

xp yea, feel like a lot of people's first experiences with porn are also of the fake bodies completely shaved variety.

definitely a positive correlation between suburb dwellers and severe mind-body splits ime

yeah that's what i'm getting at

stevie: no!

my boyfriend likes to take a bath and brush his teeth before sex which i'm a little eye-roll-y about sometimes but i'll take it.

that is like people who shower before bed so they don't mess up the sheets

bodies are gross. sex is pretty gross. it's all good you just shower after if you have to imo.

ha this mormon girl at work was loudly complaining abt ppl sullying sheets by not taking a pre-bed bath

that is like people who shower before bed so they don't mess up the sheets

― Benson and the Jets (ENBB), Tuesday, November 11, 2014 8:13 PM (1 minute ago) Bookmark Flag Post Permalink

>: |

I read some advice in Cosmo once where a woman was sad her partner was not choosing to give her oral sex
their advice was like
1. try getting rid of all of your pubic hair and make a point of him knowing
2. get a shower right before sex so he knows you're really clean
3. try asking him

like #3 would be my #1

I'm sorry, IO :( I now remember we've had this discussion before! I just don't get it but I need to shower in the morning in order to wake up and feel alive and the sheets get washed once a week so it doesn't seem like that big a deal to me.

lol "LOOK I SHAVED"

#1 and #2 are insulting and degrading

Xxp

Maybe he is old school mafioso. I recently learned from the sopranos that real old style eye-talians don't go down.

** probably unlikely

Am dating someone who got divorced a year ago, after an 18 years long marriage. Last weekend she said 'well sadly we can't have sex this weekend, cause I, having my period y'know'. I was like, 'ok, no biggie, is it too tender for you then?'. She said 'uhm no... Because of the blood innit.' I said I don't care about blood. She said her ex hubby had declined sex during her period because 'ew gross'. For 18 years! o_O

xp lololol I had this exact convo w my bf! He said trad Italian men don't give head, no. Also oral to either partner is against strict Jewish family law iirc, and prob lots of other conservative patriarchal belief systems/cultural mores have some component of that too.

I am going to start a religion that's like 'enjoy consensual sex with other adults'
minus the 'if you're Joseph Smith' part of the faith I grew up in

I have very few qualms about being a little dirty. I shower prob 2-3 times a week tbh that feels right for my skin and hair, they need their oils. Anything more and I just feel dried out.

Also giving and receiving oral is like one of the best things about sex imo

xp lololol I had this exact convo w my bf! He said trad Italian men don't give head, no.

Ha! I had no idea!

Also, I believe you're right with the rest of that and I think (though I might be mistaken) that sodomy is still defined by law in some states as geital/anal contact OR oral/genital contact making oral of any kind illegal in some places in the US. Technically. I would Google this but I am at work that that does not seem wise.

BATON ROUGE, La. (AP) — A dozen states still have anti-sodomy laws on the books 10 years after the U.S. Supreme Court ruled they are unconstitutional.

One such state is Louisiana, where gay rights groups contend police have used anti-sodomy laws to target gay men. But state lawmakers sided with religious and conservative groups in refusing to repeal the law last week.

Of 14 states that had anti-sodomy laws, only Montana and Virginia have repealed theirs since the Supreme Court ruling, said Sarah Warbelow, legal director for the Human Rights Campaign, a national gay rights organization.

Warbelow says that in addition to Louisiana, anti-sodomy laws remain on the books in Alabama, Florida, Idaho, Kansas, Michigan, Mississippi, North Carolina, Oklahoma, South Carolina, Texas and Utah.

^^ that's as of April this year, via USA Today

I am pretty cool with showering before, after, or during if that's a thing, but insisting on it all the time seems off