I just watched a documentary called Orgasm, Inc., which focuses on the pharma industry's efforts to identify Female Sexual Dysfunction as a "disease" so they can sell drugs to treat it. I have a lot of feelings about some of the people and info in it.
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Thursday, 18 October 2012 01:40 (eleven years ago) link
yes! i watched this a few months ago and thought it was fascinating (and sad, e.g. the woman who had been diagnosed as having "sexual dysfunction", she was getting all those weird treatments, and then you find out that she's doing it all not because she can't have an orgasm, but because she can't have an orgasm in a ~particular~ way).
― just1n3, Thursday, 18 October 2012 01:45 (eleven years ago) link
I wanted to write more about her but I haven't really thought about my thoughts yet, so I held back! Her story seemed very sad even though it wasn't presented that way.
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Thursday, 18 October 2012 01:47 (eleven years ago) link
It's unbelievable to me that she was willing to have a surgical procedure to implant an electrode next to her spinal cord and carry around this device that was wired to a wound in her back in order to try to have orgasms during regular intercourse, and no one told her that like 70% of women don't reliably orgasm from that particular thing.
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Thursday, 18 October 2012 01:49 (eleven years ago) link
That's medically negligent imo. Just for starters.
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Thursday, 18 October 2012 01:50 (eleven years ago) link
WOAH! That sounds insane.
― (✿◠‿◠) (ENBB), Thursday, 18 October 2012 01:51 (eleven years ago) link
i know, it was shocking to me - i need to watch it again, i have a terrible memory so i can't really remember much of the specifics. but that woman stuck out to me.
also: that really skewed statistic, the one oprah had been trumpeting, about how something like 40% of women suffer from "sexual dysfunction".
― just1n3, Thursday, 18 October 2012 01:54 (eleven years ago) link
Yeah, it was like 43% but it turned out to have been based on a questionnaire that asked things like: Have you ever had sex that was painful? Sex that was not pleasurable even if not painful? Problems with lubrication? A lack of interest in sex? LIKE, EVER. IF YOU HAVE EVER LACKED INTEREST IN SEX FOR ONE SECOND.
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Thursday, 18 October 2012 01:59 (eleven years ago) link
lol yes, so stupid! if you don't have a perfect sex life you are DYSFUNCTIONAL
― just1n3, Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:00 (eleven years ago) link
Yes but also so much more. There was no acceptance of any individuality in sexual interest or response, no variety of experience. This one way, or you're broken.
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:07 (eleven years ago) link
God that is so stupid and harmful.
― these albatrosses have no fear of man (La Lechera), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:09 (eleven years ago) link
and then you find out that she's doing it all not because she can't have an orgasm, but because she can't have an orgasm in a ~particular~ way
are you fucking kidding me, seriously
― ɥɯ ︵ (°□°) (mh), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:13 (eleven years ago) link
Yeah way! From the first interview with her, she says straight up, "All my life I have had enormous difficulty achieving orgasm" and as a viewer I think you just assume she means AT ALL and not until like halfway through the doc does the filmmaker ask her, can you orgasm by other means? and the lady is like oh, yeah, sure, that's not a problem, I'm just abnormal in this one way and need to be healed of that, otherwise it's not a problem.
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:15 (eleven years ago) link
And then someone tells her that she's in the majority of all female experience and she dances around the room saying, "I'm normal! There's nothing wrong with me!" and just...like...
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:16 (eleven years ago) link
I mean all of her doctors need to be marooned on an island with few natural resources and several natural predators, obviously.
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:18 (eleven years ago) link
How does anyone go through life and not realize that most women don't orgasm through intercourse. I mean read one magazine.
― (✿◠‿◠) (ENBB), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:20 (eleven years ago) link
staying out of this thread cuz this kind of thing drives me demented with rage and i swear that doesn't happen that often
― a hauntingly unemployed american (difficult listening hour), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:21 (eleven years ago) link
maybe i should take A FUCKING PILL
Of course you're right in that her doctors should have filled her in but I'm pretty sure I knew that way before I ever even had sex.
― (✿◠‿◠) (ENBB), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:21 (eleven years ago) link
Seriously if I could even figure out the number of people I've dated who have said, "I don't get it, none of my other girlfriends ever had this problem" the statistic you'd get out of their anecdotal recollections would be the opposite of the real one, and ever higher.
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:25 (eleven years ago) link
*even
Some people are not.... literate
― ɥɯ ︵ (°□°) (mh), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:25 (eleven years ago) link
lol oh dear
so delusional!
― (✿◠‿◠) (ENBB), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:26 (eleven years ago) link
"I don't get it, none of my other girlfriends ever had this problem"
this is when you're supposed to put on shades and say:"Well, I guess you're not... the solution"
― ɥɯ ︵ (°□°) (mh), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:28 (eleven years ago) link
Damn, I should take you with me next time, I never think of lines like that.
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:30 (eleven years ago) link
I pop out from behind the nightstand in a David Caruso costume, but there are fees involved
― ɥɯ ︵ (°□°) (mh), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:39 (eleven years ago) link
Yeah, that'll bring on an orgasm.
― pplains, Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:39 (eleven years ago) link
my TMI update: I am finding myself mezmerized by erotic/porn gif tumblrs. I've been kind of uninterested/burnt out on porn for a while, but somehow these are way more compelling, partly because the ones I'm looking at use higher quality and less gross porn, but also something about the repetitive moving images.
― michael bolton's reckless daughter (Hurting 2), Thursday, 18 October 2012 02:58 (eleven years ago) link
a+ segue
― mookieproof, Thursday, 18 October 2012 03:25 (eleven years ago) link
(unlurks)
cream + sugar tmblr is good for those kinda gifs, xpost. lots of photos but some good gifs
(relurks)
― set the controls for the heart of the sun (VegemiteGrrl), Friday, 19 October 2012 05:10 (eleven years ago) link
confusion: Metamucil and Imodium in one's week
― cancer, kizz my hairy irish azz (Dr Morbius), Saturday, 20 October 2012 17:58 (eleven years ago) link
It is a delicate balance.
― quincie, Saturday, 20 October 2012 18:45 (eleven years ago) link
Or you take both and somehow your colon disappears, idk
has nearly happened
― cancer, kizz my hairy irish azz (Dr Morbius), Saturday, 20 October 2012 18:52 (eleven years ago) link
this was recommended to me by a doctor recently. i haven't tried it yet.
― eh mec, elle est ou ma caisse? (ytth), Sunday, 21 October 2012 06:06 (eleven years ago) link
i am the worst fucking self-nurse, just wiped out 24 hours of 'progress'
― crazy uncle in the attic (Dr Morbius), Sunday, 21 October 2012 16:12 (eleven years ago) link
:(
― *triumphant sauce horns* (crüt), Sunday, 21 October 2012 16:13 (eleven years ago) link
Damn frustrating.
I'm not saying this because I'm any good at it, but I think in recovery it's important to forgive your body for being fallible/fragile? Its timetable is different from the mental self's no matter how much we rage. I wish you patience (i know, right?) with your physicality, Morbs.
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Sunday, 21 October 2012 16:24 (eleven years ago) link
It just gets old to spend an entire weekend barely being able to move OR eat...
― crazy uncle in the attic (Dr Morbius), Sunday, 21 October 2012 16:39 (eleven years ago) link
Ah but your girlish figure.
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Sunday, 21 October 2012 16:43 (eleven years ago) link
If you could, what would you WANT to eat? Do you dream about food? Or is there nausea that makes the idea of eating not even a pleasure?
― purveyor of generations (in orbit), Sunday, 21 October 2012 16:46 (eleven years ago) link
I wanted to eat what I had for breakfast this morning, and it was 'too soon.' Not nausea, other unpleasantness.
I do not dream about food.
― crazy uncle in the attic (Dr Morbius), Monday, 22 October 2012 01:41 (eleven years ago) link
when you dream about playing for the mets, what position do you play
― mookieproof, Monday, 22 October 2012 01:44 (eleven years ago) link
I can't even dream about playing Fantasy Camp with the oldies.
― crazy uncle in the attic (Dr Morbius), Monday, 22 October 2012 01:51 (eleven years ago) link
sometimes get this kinda trapped/pinched nerve in my undercarriage that essentially gives me a dry orgasm during certain movements- eg getting out of a low seat. happened getting out of the car after football this evening. i'd get it checked out but with my luck they'd cure me.
― the oft-posited third fisherman (darraghmac), Tuesday, 23 October 2012 00:36 (eleven years ago) link
haha i kind of have that. when i'm making my bed and i lift a blanket up high it tickles.
― horribl ecreature (harbl), Tuesday, 23 October 2012 00:40 (eleven years ago) link
ha it must be more common than i thought, tho obv nobody's going to talk about it in ireland, figures
― the oft-posited third fisherman (darraghmac), Tuesday, 23 October 2012 00:41 (eleven years ago) link
where was i when they were passing this shit out
― difficult listening hour, Tuesday, 23 October 2012 00:44 (eleven years ago) link
can only advise that you get a lowish car and take up football, idk
― the oft-posited third fisherman (darraghmac), Tuesday, 23 October 2012 00:45 (eleven years ago) link
i def need an autogasm trigger put in for the duration of limpy elderly ambulation
― crazy uncle in the attic (Dr Morbius), Tuesday, 23 October 2012 00:50 (eleven years ago) link